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Post by Tim of thee on Jul 11, 2013 10:17:16 GMT -5
friend of nearly 20 years joined the airforce and is now stationed in japan
yeah it's still tough
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Post by Prophet of Ash on Jul 11, 2013 10:30:22 GMT -5
it's happened to my enough times that I don't really get close to anyone any more..
When I was growing up, my best friend since before kindergarten moved away in 1st grade.. We tried to keep in touch but quickly grew apart.
My best friend for most of elementary school moved several towns away and though we kept in touch and still spent the night at each others houses, we grew apart and eventually just quit talking.. not because we were mad, but because we realized we had nothing in common any more.
I didn't really have a "best friend" through high school for that reason.. because my two closest friends moved and we just grew apart.. I started hanging out with a buddy when I was 18 or 19.. He lived about 40 minutes away, but when you've got a car, that's nothing. We hung out a lot, traveled 5+ hours for indy wrestling, shared hotel rooms, and generally had some of the best memories of my life.. But he moved to Florida. And we haven't really talked beyond a few messages online since unfortunately. He's "clean and sober" now so he's left most of his "past life" behind, which is weird to include me in that since I'm very proud of being straight edge, and he used to mock ME about not drinking or smoking or whatever...
Most recently, I got VERY close with an indy wrestler. He served overseas and at the time, I was working night shift so our clocks were aligned and we talked online a lot while he was over there. When he came home, we hung out a lot.. I did some video editing work for him and such, and would travel to shows with him. He was the most recent thing I have to a "best friend".. But he met some girl online, moved to Boston, got her pregnant, and I've barely heard from him since.
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Post by acura143 on Jul 11, 2013 12:13:11 GMT -5
It has happen to me a few times. I has a best friend from 1st grade to 4th and he moved away. To this day I don't remember where he move to all I knew that he was not on my school anymore. It suck cuz we would hang out all the time.
From 5th to 6th grade I hang out with 2 friends that lived in the same block. We play basketball and football all the time. One of them we went to the same school and the other went to private school. After we graduated to middle school I went to public and both went to private school so we drifted apart. I still see one of my friend when I visit home because his brother married my sister but its not the same.
In high school I had a group about 5 that we all became best friends. I'm the one that moved away about 7 years ago from NY to NC. I only speak to one of them now occasionally and visit him when I go back home. I went to his wedding couple of years ago so it was fun to see old group back. we are still kinda close but its not the same. It sucks not being close to home but sometimes you have to do whats best for you.
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Post by Hammersmith Hardman on Jul 11, 2013 15:01:08 GMT -5
Anyway so yeah, problem is, they live in London, which similar to you is around 2 hours away, but I don't get to travel down as often as I want, as i don't know the place and don't want to go down unless it's summer, because i've heard it gets pretty dangerous when it gets dark. Oh please... Every city has its fair share of dangerous places (even your home city... Liverpool). I guarantee you'd be fine. |
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Post by RybackV1 on Jul 11, 2013 15:08:21 GMT -5
My best friends stabbed me in the back then ditched me, then did it again two years later..
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Post by JDP on Jul 11, 2013 15:31:11 GMT -5
It's happened to me twice in one year before, sucks.
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Post by Escape The Rules on Jul 11, 2013 15:49:56 GMT -5
I've like one or two friends move away, none that really affected me, and I've since found them years later on Facebook.
Now having a huge crush on someone & having them disappear, that's a whole different story..
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Post by Next Man’s Yeeter on Jul 11, 2013 15:50:26 GMT -5
Happened when I was maybe eight or nine... Saw him a few times after that, but not since I was around twelve.
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Post by raVen™ on Jul 11, 2013 16:12:25 GMT -5
My best friend moved across the country back in 2009. We still talk on the phone weekly. Another one of my best friends moved and it didn't end pretty. We've tried to patch things up twice since then and it never works out.
I'll tell you this though, Some bonds distance can not break, But at the same time, everything is temporary. If you guys last long enough, you can go visit each other every now and then and keep up over the net and phone.
But if thats it, than thats it. You can be thankful for everything you've taught each other and both move on. It's hard losing that shoulder to lean on, but the only thing you can do is pick yourself up and keep going. This is easier said than done, believe me I know. My best friends I still have though they are distant, we may not talk often, but when we do, it's the same ole stuff. That's how you know what you have.
And it isn't easy making new friends in this day and age, I know, that's why you have to hold the ones you do have closer. And if I may suggest something, I suggest you two try to make the most of the time you have left before he leaves, regrets are a hard thing to get rid of.
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Post by ~ Cymru ~ on Jul 11, 2013 17:13:46 GMT -5
one moved away a few years back, we dont really talk anymore its sad, but there was always 4 of us through high school, one moved away and the other got brainwashed by his girlfriend and doesn't bother with anyone anymore, so out of the 4 of us I only see 1...
there are so many people I went through school with and classed them as "best friends" who I dont even see anymore, only 1 has stuck around, and we realised it'll be a decade of friendship this coming september, naturally we're gonna celebrate our long lived bro-mance.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2013 2:35:27 GMT -5
Yeah. Though We Keep In Contact By Texting, Phone, Skype, She visits A Couple Times A Year.
I've Been Friends With Her Since We Were 4yrs Old & I Know It's Always Gonna Be That Way.
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Post by Flair Forever on Jul 13, 2013 19:04:46 GMT -5
The story of my life.... every best friend I've had has moved away. Maybe it's me....
Not really, it's always been job-related and such - but it never gets easier - and it sucks every time. To the point I don't even try to make "best friends" anymore. It's too much trouble when they leave...
My last best-friend moved away because his wife was cheating on him - he moved all the way to California (the other side of the country) to get away from her. So I never get to see him anymore. It sucks.
Try to keep in touch with him, if you can...
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Post by Steve Holt on Jul 15, 2013 2:23:24 GMT -5
funny you start this thread, my best friend just moved across country yesterday, I'm gonna be so bored without him  |
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Post by Billy the Kid on Jul 15, 2013 7:18:26 GMT -5
I have a few people I consider my best friend. One is my cousin. He is my brother and my best friend. I always lived 2.5 hours from him but when I moved to Cincinnati last year, I am now just about 12 hours away from him now. We talk almost everyday.
One is a friend I've had since I was in 1st grade. He always lived in my neighborhood. We hung out all the time growing up, even into our 20's. Once again, I moved last year and he is still in Pennsylvania. We don't talk everyday, but whenever we do talk, it's like no time has passed and we pick up where we left off.
The last is a kid I met on the WF forums through a trade back when I was in 10th grade and I still talk to him. We talk through texting often.
My advice: keep in touch with him. If he is truly your best friend, nothing will break that. True friendships are hard to break.
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Post by Prophet of Ash on Jul 16, 2013 21:10:13 GMT -5
My best friends stabbed me in the back then ditched me, then did it again two years later.. if someone stabbed me once, I'd call the cops. How do you managed to get stabbed twice? do you have an unusual trust for knives? |
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Post by DontHassleTheHoff on Jul 16, 2013 22:41:52 GMT -5
Most of my best friends from school, we just drifted apart and it was nothing to do with location. In recent years, however, I have had 2 best friends. One I became proper good friends with in college and considered him my BFF for like 3 years. I left to study at university and he went the year after so we both lived super far away. In the last two years I've seen him maybe three times face to face? Other one I met at university and lived with him and some other dudes for a year. I finished in 2012 but he had another year to do so I haven't seen him that much over the last year. BUT, I'm moving to a new town with him and a few others in a few months which I'm super excited for. Never really had a friend I grew up with and am still in contact with though. Anyway so yeah, problem is, they live in London, which similar to you is around 2 hours away, but I don't get to travel down as often as I want, as i don't know the place and don't want to go down unless it's summer, because i've heard it gets pretty dangerous when it gets darkeh, it really depends where abouts you are in London. Brixton, avoid at all costs lol. Central areas are absolutely fine. I have ended up in some pretty seedy places and have never had any problems. Ahah I remember going to see my mate when he had not long been in London. We were wandering around Brixton after a gig with no clue where to go and fearing for our lives! Most of my mates have moved away really, for university. I don't see them as much, sometiems I'll go and visit them in London which is about 2 hours away aswell or wherever they may be. It's weird you don't see them as much and sometimes you do go a few weeks without any communication, even in the world of the internet and mobile phones, but when you do get back together it's just like old times, it isn't awkward and truth be told, you kinda appreciate it even more. |
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