Post by FUSamBaker on Oct 21, 2016 23:12:01 GMT -5
Okay so I donno if anyone will reply to this or not lol. I just really want unbias opinions honestly. This may sound a bit "high school" so...just bear with me.
So January of 2015, I spoke at a vigil. There I met a family (mother, son and daughter) and their family friend, Jenny. We bonded after the vigil at a party. We all started corresponding via Facebook and text. We all attended a GSA dance/ball which was very fun. I did however notice that the mom and daughter could be a bit dramatic. But hey I can too so I didn't take notice.
A few months later, I noticed the daughter tore into Jenny pretty badly. Dogging her for mr answering messages and being a poor friend. Even going so far as contacting Jenny's mother! I felt bad but I didn't know her that well so I didn't have an opinion either way.
Jump to March of this year. So Kate, the daughter, received Fall Out Boy tickets. She originally asked someone else to go with her. After the person "failed to answer a text" she once again tore into that person. Kate asked me to go to go to dinner and the concert. I accepted as long as the other person gave a clear answer that they didn't want to go. We got the okay, we went to dinner and the concert. It was actually very fun even though I don't know anything about FOB except Pete Wentz lol.
After that, crap hit the fan. Kate got mad at me for not answering a few texts. She slammed my Facebook with screenshots of the two texts, profanity and just a bunch of anger. I calmly called her out and asked her to not curse at me. At this point I said "please call me and we can get together. I'd rather talk this out in person." She continued to talk smack. Her mother got involved and played referee. In the meantime I blocked Kate off of my Facebook to prevent anymore posting to my wall. She went nuts, her mom went nuts...so I blocked them both and informed them to meet up with me. I don't like resolving things I've text or message or Facebook. It's too petty.
I never heard from them. I received a message from a mutual friend asking to mediate a meeting between Kate and myself. I was busy so I suggested taking a few minutes at an event. Maybe step out to just tell our sides and let it go. The friend replied "Kate thinks she might start yelling and the event isn't the place." Okay...so at the event, I saw Kate an ignored her. I figured that if she felt that hostile that I didn't want to deal with her. I wasn't angry and I didn't see why she felt she would let loose. So yes I saw her, walked past with a small smile and went on my way. Well that was I guess the straw for her lol.
She has tried contacting me to which I politely explained my side. Apologized for ignoring two texts and went on. But I've noticed many of our mutual friends (about 5 of them) have been very passive towards me. I've noticed none of them offer to hang out, they all are very hostile toward my opinions and have been cold during conversations.
At this point I don't care to reconcile any friendship with her or her family. I don't really hold any grudges against them honesty. I'm just very confused as to what they've said to people about me. I don't have a perfect track record with friends, no one does lol. However I've never randomly snapped at friends for not answering a few messages. It's all very petty to me.
The last contact with either 3 of them was a month ago. I still had the brother on my Facebook. He was always very sweet and seemed to compartmentalize the drama between his family ect. So I messaged him. We had a pleasant conversation at first. Then suddenly her turned cold and said he didn't want trouble. So I figured what he meant and stopped contact with him as well.
I hate to ramble. But honestly I want options/feedback from people who aren't bias to me or them. We have many mutual friends or acquaintances. Some of them are split, many are obviously on her side and a few are for me. I really don't like anyone choosing sides to be honest. I just wish people would listen to both sides instead of picking either or.
So January of 2015, I spoke at a vigil. There I met a family (mother, son and daughter) and their family friend, Jenny. We bonded after the vigil at a party. We all started corresponding via Facebook and text. We all attended a GSA dance/ball which was very fun. I did however notice that the mom and daughter could be a bit dramatic. But hey I can too so I didn't take notice.
A few months later, I noticed the daughter tore into Jenny pretty badly. Dogging her for mr answering messages and being a poor friend. Even going so far as contacting Jenny's mother! I felt bad but I didn't know her that well so I didn't have an opinion either way.
Jump to March of this year. So Kate, the daughter, received Fall Out Boy tickets. She originally asked someone else to go with her. After the person "failed to answer a text" she once again tore into that person. Kate asked me to go to go to dinner and the concert. I accepted as long as the other person gave a clear answer that they didn't want to go. We got the okay, we went to dinner and the concert. It was actually very fun even though I don't know anything about FOB except Pete Wentz lol.
After that, crap hit the fan. Kate got mad at me for not answering a few texts. She slammed my Facebook with screenshots of the two texts, profanity and just a bunch of anger. I calmly called her out and asked her to not curse at me. At this point I said "please call me and we can get together. I'd rather talk this out in person." She continued to talk smack. Her mother got involved and played referee. In the meantime I blocked Kate off of my Facebook to prevent anymore posting to my wall. She went nuts, her mom went nuts...so I blocked them both and informed them to meet up with me. I don't like resolving things I've text or message or Facebook. It's too petty.
I never heard from them. I received a message from a mutual friend asking to mediate a meeting between Kate and myself. I was busy so I suggested taking a few minutes at an event. Maybe step out to just tell our sides and let it go. The friend replied "Kate thinks she might start yelling and the event isn't the place." Okay...so at the event, I saw Kate an ignored her. I figured that if she felt that hostile that I didn't want to deal with her. I wasn't angry and I didn't see why she felt she would let loose. So yes I saw her, walked past with a small smile and went on my way. Well that was I guess the straw for her lol.
She has tried contacting me to which I politely explained my side. Apologized for ignoring two texts and went on. But I've noticed many of our mutual friends (about 5 of them) have been very passive towards me. I've noticed none of them offer to hang out, they all are very hostile toward my opinions and have been cold during conversations.
At this point I don't care to reconcile any friendship with her or her family. I don't really hold any grudges against them honesty. I'm just very confused as to what they've said to people about me. I don't have a perfect track record with friends, no one does lol. However I've never randomly snapped at friends for not answering a few messages. It's all very petty to me.
The last contact with either 3 of them was a month ago. I still had the brother on my Facebook. He was always very sweet and seemed to compartmentalize the drama between his family ect. So I messaged him. We had a pleasant conversation at first. Then suddenly her turned cold and said he didn't want trouble. So I figured what he meant and stopped contact with him as well.
I hate to ramble. But honestly I want options/feedback from people who aren't bias to me or them. We have many mutual friends or acquaintances. Some of them are split, many are obviously on her side and a few are for me. I really don't like anyone choosing sides to be honest. I just wish people would listen to both sides instead of picking either or.
YOU, SAM BAKER. 
