Negan™
Mid-Carder
Joined on: Jul 31, 2013 16:42:44 GMT -5
Posts: 356 
|
Post by Negan™ on Jul 9, 2017 18:16:55 GMT -5
Serious question. All my life I feel like I've been weak, too nice, etc. In school I let people walk all over me and used to always avoid controntation, laugh when someone would make a joke about me, etc. Deep down it actually really bothers me to even this day. I was playing soccer a few months back and one of the lads threatened to "kick my head in" if I mistackled him again. I just said I didn't even get him. Why didn't I threaten him? A guy I know would have got in his face and started a big fight over it and you know what? Everyone would have respected him a hell of a lot more. Everyone probably thought I was just a little bitch that day. My luck with women is  ing terrible. And a lot of this is to do with the fact that's I'm way too nice. I'll have a conversation with them about some stupid irrelevant bullcrap cause I'm so nervous and awkward that my mind thinks "talk about anything to avoid awkward silences", even if that's talking about clothes or something equally as ridiculous. I have no friends either. People can smell this pathetic off me and my good nature is mistaken for desperation or a weakness. Even though I have all the interests that most guys do, they won't wanna hear it. I'm not sure what vibe I'm giving off or how to stop it but something has to change. Every date I go on either blocks me or doesn't text me afterward. They are all over me in the text messages but as soon as it comes to actual real life, they run a mile. Even though I treat them with respect? I don't get it. I can't go to the gym either without feeling intimidated by these big muscle bears staring at me. I would consider myself a sensitive guy. I take things to heart way too easily. If Someone I know doesn't say hi to me on the street, it ruins my ing day. Should I be more of an bunghole to people? Any tips on how to toughen up? |
|
|
|
Post by Nivro™ on Jul 9, 2017 18:38:17 GMT -5
Question: How do I man up?
Answer: Grow a set
|
|
|
|
Post by TheLastDude on Jul 9, 2017 19:13:57 GMT -5
|
|
|
|
Post by Valbroski on Jul 9, 2017 19:21:42 GMT -5
Jesus Christ man..
|
|
|
|
Post by Halloween King on Jul 9, 2017 22:37:01 GMT -5
Step one, grow your hair to just past chin length.
Step two, shave the top of your head bald, only the top, leave the sides long.
Step three, comb the long, chin length hair, on the sides of your head over the bald top of your head.
People will see you as a middle aged man with a real bad comb over.
|
|
|
|
Post by ~*Young $ Money*~ on Jul 9, 2017 22:38:21 GMT -5
Just be you. I have friends who are bungholes like the guy you mentioned and i have friends that are softies and won't hurt a fly. Nothing wrong with either person.
|
|
👑🇵🇭⭐️
Main Eventer
WF 10 Year Member
King Of The Ring 2007 - Team Undisputed
Joined on: Feb 4, 2013 13:46:47 GMT -5
Posts: 4,673
|
Post by 👑🇵🇭⭐️ on Jul 9, 2017 23:35:57 GMT -5
Buy a Championship Title Belt!!
|
|
|
|
Post by Kollector_Kombat on Jul 9, 2017 23:59:14 GMT -5
Cut people off.
Go solo for a bit. (it's good for you)
Stop caring about what people think.
Don't worry about a relationship, it'll happen eventually. They're not even important. They cause even more stress/BS then you already going through.
Don't stop being nice, just don't be a "yes man"
Do your own thing, don't follow a group.
Don't try to impress people.
Stop being a people pleaser.
Try to stop being so negative about yourself. You become what you think you are.
Take a Muay Thai or Jiu Jitsu class. It's good for your moral, you're learning something AND you'll eventually find friends and develop a family sort of unit if you stick with it.
|
|
|
|
Post by hbkbigdaddycool on Jul 10, 2017 0:06:39 GMT -5
 "Be a man!! Be a man!!" |
|
|
|
Post by @.@ Hempsterdance @.@ on Jul 10, 2017 0:47:28 GMT -5
So fighting will gain you respect? That's not how the world works kid. You want to man up don't take crap from someone but learn to walk away. Pick your battles. As far as girl advice sounds like you put yourself in the friend zone, you will have plenty of time to date around focus on an education.
|
|
|
|
Post by IRS on Jul 10, 2017 0:58:24 GMT -5
Step 1: Walk up to sweetest old lady you know. RKO her. Make sure there are plenty of witnesses to see your newfound assertiveness. Step 2: Find hot chick that you wish to date. Tell her you ball straight-call, and she's your's now. If she resists, don't be afraid to remain assertive. Step 3:  ? Step 4: Post advice thread on WF. |
|
Plastic Cowboy
Main Eventer
Joined on: Dec 19, 2011 15:59:19 GMT -5
Posts: 1,426
|
Post by Plastic Cowboy on Jul 10, 2017 1:22:10 GMT -5
Buy the Ric Flair Replica Rope, buy a title belt. Put the booth on and go up to the biggest PoS you can find and WOOOO! Them right in the face until they knock you senseless. Then you will be a man, and hopefully stop posting ridiculous threads on here.
You need to go get professional help.
|
|
|
|
Post by Kollector_Kombat on Jul 10, 2017 2:47:56 GMT -5
Step 1: Walk up to sweetest old lady you know. RKO her. Make sure there are plenty of witnesses to see your newfound assertiveness. Step 2: Find hot chick that you wish to date. Tell her you ball straight-call, and she's your's now. If she resists, don't be afraid to remain assertive. Step 3: ? Step 4: Post advice thread on WF. That gets me every time. Is this the same guy? |
|
|
|
Post by IRS on Jul 10, 2017 3:05:33 GMT -5
Step 1: Walk up to sweetest old lady you know. RKO her. Make sure there are plenty of witnesses to see your newfound assertiveness. Step 2: Find hot chick that you wish to date. Tell her you ball straight-call, and she's your's now. If she resists, don't be afraid to remain assertive. Step 3: ? Step 4: Post advice thread on WF. That gets me every time. Is this the same guy? I wish. I think he got banned recently. |
|
|
|
Post by hCo.Bro™ [brandon_lee] on Jul 10, 2017 11:13:41 GMT -5
Buy this shirt for $19.99  Seriously- Theres nothing wrong with being a nice guy, but don't let people walk over you. Don't let backing down in altercations or relationships get you gown. There is more to enjoy in life, let that stuff roll off of you. DO NOT be something you are not or change who you are for anyone. So: 1. You do have to be some what aggressive playing sports. Being competitive is always a great trait to have for success. If someone tries to push you around, it is ok to stand up for yourself as long as it doesn't affect your team. Otherwise let trash talk roll off. 2. Relationships are always unbalanced but that doesn't mean the right person will not come along. Try to reach out to people who share the same interests with you. Realize rejection is a part of life, but that doesn't mean that is all in life. 3. You have to learn to block people out at the gym. If meat heads in there are making you insecure, they are the ones with issues. Go in with tunnel vision and get your work in. Take head phones to block out noise and maybe wear a light hooded shirt. DO NOT worry about the number on the side of the weights! Do what you can and focus on form above trying to lift the heaviest thing possible. I assume you are relatively young? If so, you have so much more life ahead of you. Your social life will improve over time as long as you look for people with the same interests and values. Best luck! |
|
mrassbillygunn
Main Eventer
WF 10+ Year Member
Joined on: Jul 23, 2011 19:35:48 GMT -5
Posts: 4,257
|
Post by mrassbillygunn on Jul 10, 2017 12:43:50 GMT -5
Have a few beers, grab a big boulder and throw it through a McDonalds window and do some hard time.
|
|
|
|
Post by TurboEddie on Jul 10, 2017 13:33:20 GMT -5
Other people don't define you, you define yourself.
|
|
Deleted
Joined on: Apr 24, 2024 10:34:20 GMT -5
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 10, 2017 13:57:16 GMT -5
Other people don't define you, you define yourself. Couldn't have said it better. |
|
Deleted
Joined on: Apr 24, 2024 10:34:20 GMT -5
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 10, 2017 14:01:08 GMT -5
After seeing your post(s), it is clear that you definitely need to be talking to a professional to clear up some things.
You are in no way abnormal, but this seems to be recurring, so having a counselor to speak with can be helpful.
If you want to know how to "man up", admit that you need some help and seek it.
|
|
|
|
Post by The Brain on Jul 10, 2017 14:56:04 GMT -5
How do you man up? Take notes from this man...
|
|
![hCo.Bro™ [brandon_lee] Avatar](https://prorasslin.files.wordpress.com/2011/02/sting-wide.jpg)
