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Post by Deleted on Dec 5, 2017 15:45:10 GMT -5
Thought I'd ask this here since there is an off topic section.
The charge is a check fraud charge and it is an eight month sentence. My 14 year old daughter she seems to be handling it fine. I told her right away about it and she reacted pretty calmly. I told her mom did the wrong thing and is rightfully serving her punishment. They have a good relationship.
The main problem I have is she will see her mom in a jail jumpsuit and see guards and other inmates that could be intimidating. Is that ok for a 15 year old to see? Actually my daughter does not seem scared but instead seems excited and enthusiastic to visit. This is strange to me. Do you find this normal? My daughter seems to find the idea of her mom having to wearing a uniform, sharing a room funny. I wonder why she would think it is funny.
My wife says bring her if she would like to and my daughter says she would like to but I don't know if it is a good idea. She hasn't gone yet so we can still discuss it together.
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Post by Stuart? on Dec 5, 2017 16:37:51 GMT -5
Maybe finding humour in the situation is your daughter's way of dealing with it? If it were me, I think I'd let her visit - she's still her mom at the end of the day and what she did to end up in prison wasn't intended to negatively affect your daughter. If they have a good relationship like you say, I think it'd be best to try and maintain that through these difficult times.
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Post by Ben - #6 Munchie on Dec 5, 2017 17:50:58 GMT -5
If she's cool with it then let her go imo
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Post by Deleted on Dec 5, 2017 17:51:59 GMT -5
she is in 9th grade. Main concern is not her mom it is the jail environment and other inmates and guards
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Post by IRS on Dec 5, 2017 18:13:35 GMT -5
I mean, what kind of jail is it?
Unless it's some hardcore max security prison, I'd say it's not too big of a deal. There's obviously going to be guards watching over the whole thing, so she definitely wouldn't be in any danger. If she's comfortable with it, I don't see why not.
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Post by snatch on Dec 5, 2017 18:28:19 GMT -5
Yeah let her visit. There wouldn’t be any concern as far as her safety. Ultimately it’s a lesson from her to learn from.
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Post by Escape The Rules on Dec 5, 2017 18:28:45 GMT -5
14 or 15 year old me certainly wouldn't have given a and I would definitely want to visit my mother. Not sure why guards would be intimidating either. They're there for everyone's safety. There's nothing to worry about. If they both have a good relationship and they both WANT to see each other then I don't see why not. Put yourself in the mother's shoes and imagine being stuck in jail for 8 months and not being able to see your daughter. It'll give her something to look forward to each day and make that time pass so much quicker. Those 8 months are going to feel so much longer if they aren't able to see each other.
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Post by Patrick Bateman (original) on Dec 5, 2017 18:42:12 GMT -5
Lol what do you think she's going to see? They will bring her out, you guys will chill for a bit and then they bring her away.
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Post by theMOESIAH on Dec 5, 2017 19:45:54 GMT -5
Seeing her mom in jail might actually be good for her. It'll teach her that everyone's actions have consequences, even adults. I mean, what kind of jail is it? Unless it's some hardcore max security prison, I'd say it's not too big of a deal. There's obviously going to be guards watching over the whole thing, so she definitely wouldn't be in any danger. If she's comfortable with it, I don't see why not. lol.. what??
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Post by IRS on Dec 5, 2017 20:05:33 GMT -5
Seeing her mom in jail might actually be good for her. It'll teach her that everyone's actions have consequences, even adults. I mean, what kind of jail is it? Unless it's some hardcore max security prison, I'd say it's not too big of a deal. There's obviously going to be guards watching over the whole thing, so she definitely wouldn't be in any danger. If she's comfortable with it, I don't see why not. lol.. what?? Que?
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Post by bababooey on Dec 5, 2017 21:47:18 GMT -5
If I were you I would let her go but accompany her. That way she has someone if it turns out to be too much to handle.
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Post by @.@ Hempsterdance @.@ on Dec 6, 2017 0:30:15 GMT -5
Let her go, finding humour might be the only way she can deal with it or maybe she just doesn't get along with her mother and finds it hilarious. Personally I say you are right to be concerned but I also see this as you being over protective, you can't shelter her.
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Post by Halloween King on Dec 7, 2017 8:15:18 GMT -5
This is a very tough question to answer. On one hand I can see how you'd want to take your baby to see her mom. If that was me in jail it would kill me not to see my son. On the other hand 8 months is like the blink of an eye and will pass quickly.
I think I'd do what my family wanted. If my wife wanted to see the baby, I'd go. If my baby wanted to see her mom, I'd go. I don't think I can give an answer of my own tho.
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Post by Darkhawk on Dec 7, 2017 17:55:18 GMT -5
I'd let her visit, it would be good for her and the mother in jail. Going 8 months without seeing each other is pretty rough.
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Post by BSR on Dec 7, 2017 18:39:03 GMT -5
Let her visit her mom.
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Post by disorder on Dec 8, 2017 2:36:41 GMT -5
What her mom do?
It’s a safe situation and if your daughter is comfortable with it, why not?
Real question to know before hand is..what was there relationship before she got locked up?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2017 4:12:57 GMT -5
she is in 9th grade. Main concern is not her mom it is the jail environment and other inmates and guards In 8th grade, they took us to a jail for a scared straight program. Don't deny her seeing her Mother, that's her choice to make if she does or doesn't want to.
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Post by JC Motors on Dec 8, 2017 8:50:54 GMT -5
Find out when you can visit her and take her
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Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2017 16:42:52 GMT -5
she is in 9th grade. Main concern is not her mom it is the jail environment and other inmates and guards In 8th grade, they took us to a jail for a scared straight program. Don't deny her seeing her Mother, that's her choice to make if she does or doesn't want to. Who took you? The school? That's pretty shocking
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Post by Row on Dec 8, 2017 19:02:02 GMT -5
I would leave it up to her, if she wants to see her mom then you shouldn't keep that from her.
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