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Post by Nick the Quick on Jul 3, 2013 18:42:56 GMT -5
quote]Seriously you need to stop. There's no way to make it right. And what I gathered from these last comment is you are obsessing over her whether you want believe it or not. You just need to accept it and move on, before you end up doing something really stupid. No good will come from you trying to "fix" what has happened. If she reaches out to you someday...then sure but under no circumstances should you be reaching out to her. As far as regrets go if that is your biggest regret in life then you've had a good life. I'd much rather that being my biggest regret over what will become your biggest regret if you pursue this with her any further.
Have you ever heard this saying? "The road to Hell is paved with good intentions"
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Comments like this are why I stopped commenting in this thread last week. I can tell from the responses who can relate to this situation and who can't. It's much more complicated that anyone here, even me, can truly understand. Possible lies and lack of knowledge created this to begin with, so to say, "there's no way to fix it" is a little bit ignorant. If I didn't think there was even the smallest chance that one day this could be fixed, then I never would have made this thread to begin with.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jul 3, 2013 2:41:58 GMT -5
K-Mart is pretty much worthless, I have a friend who used to work there and told me stories like this all the time. Sorry about what happened to you.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 29, 2013 15:33:05 GMT -5
As of today, the Pittsburgh Pirates have the best record in Major League Baseball and sit 19 games above .500. They can't possibly this up and end up with yet another losing season, right?
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 29, 2013 15:18:05 GMT -5
I feel Daniel Bryan is winning, Punk is set to feud with Lesnar, so he doesn't need to win. Christian won't win, they dropped the ball with him too many times. Kane is just in this match to get him on the card, he's not winning. Ditto for Sheamus, although I do see another title run for him at some point, not too soon though. Orton could win to set up a heel turn, but I don't know if they want to trust a guy who's prone to going on "vacation" to hold the briefcase. RVD, I wouldn't mind if he won, but I don't see it happening, see my point with Orton and him being prone to "vacation". Daniel Bryan is the most over guy on the roster and the moment, and a win here will solidify him as a top guy. I can see him announcing his cash in on Cena ahead of time, building up to Summerslam, where I hope Daniel Bryan wins. Knowing WWE, they will have him be the first guy to lose (Cena won the match by DQ last year when he cashed in) when he cashes in, thus pissing off the entire IWC, the fans, and killing all of Bryan's momentum in the process.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 25, 2013 16:49:47 GMT -5
I really am 25, but if some of you don't want to believe that, suit yourselves. This thread was for advice, not personal attacks. If people in this world can forgive people for lying, cheating, or being abusive in friendships or relationships, then I don't see any reason why I can't be forgiven for one mistake, which isn't as bad as some of you are making it out to be. I found out where she worked through the grapevine, which is a public place THAT ANYONE CAN GO TO AT ANYTIME, yes, it was unexpected. It's not like I was waiting outside her apartment in the middle of the night, that would definitely be crossing the line. You got all kinds of good advice here. You chose to ignore it and claim it was personal attacks instead. Then you started pushing the creepy button over and over and over again. The chick has made it very, very, very clear that she's not interested in you. You didn't accept that so you tracked down where she worked. Now she's made it even more clearer that she's not interested in you. You still will not accept it and you're now saying that she has to be gay because that's the only reason that she wouldn't be into you. Now you're talking about how you're going to obsess about this for the rest of your life until you can figure out why in the world she wasn't in to you. I can guarantee you she is over it already. Probably took her all of 5 minutes. Meanwhile you are still obsessed. Get over it. It's not healthy. There is nothing to save here. It's done. It's over. Move on. Her being gay has nothing to do with me, those were vibes I picked up a long time ago. Like I said, and I know people are having a hard time believing me about this, which is fine, I AM NOT INTERESTED IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER ANYMORE, JUST A FRIENDSHIP, NOTHING MORE. I feel like someone who has lost a close-friend. Past feelings and advice from people who don't know me are what caused this in the first place. She didn't seem bothered at the time I was there, actually left her post to talk to me most of the time because the place wasn't busy, it wasn't until afterwards that she wondered what was going on. The ONLY thing I did wrong was show up at work without her telling me where it was. If she told me, I don't think it would have been an issue at all. I do understand what you're saying, I'm the type of person that listens to a lot of situations and listens to every side of said situations. I'm not knocking your opinions at all. I respect your view of this. Am I obsessed with this? Probably, but I also feel it can be resolved one day as crazy as that sounds.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 25, 2013 2:51:37 GMT -5
I really am 25, but if some of you don't want to believe that, suit yourselves. This thread was for advice, not personal attacks. If people in this world can forgive people for lying, cheating, or being abusive in friendships or relationships, then I don't see any reason why I can't be forgiven for one mistake, which isn't as bad as some of you are making it out to be. I found out where she worked through the grapevine, which is a public place THAT ANYONE CAN GO TO AT ANYTIME, yes, it was unexpected. It's not like I was waiting outside her apartment in the middle of the night, that would definitely be crossing the line.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 24, 2013 16:15:31 GMT -5
I'll find an appropriate way to fix this one day, not today, not tomorrow, or sometime in the near future, but someday I'll find the right way. Right now she wants nothing to do with me , but after time has gone by, I'll find an appropriate way to make everything as right as it can be. I did show up unexpectedly, which did raise questions. That caused her to ask her friends what they thought and I'm assuming they said things similar to what was said in this thread. I can understand her listening to her friends that she's around all the time instead of me who was only around every once in a while. What she doesn't know is that I no longer have a romantic interest in her or that I picked up the lesbian vibes about her, thus questioning my intentions. Having said all that, I believe that if her and I sat down one day and I explained all of that to her and she got a better understanding, then I believe there is a small, very small chance that we can get past this and be good again. If not, I will go through the rest of my life with this being one of my biggest regrets.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 21, 2013 14:47:06 GMT -5
I'm starting to get a little annoyed being called a "stalker" A stalker is someone who shows up constantly unannounced, I did it ONCE. I said I would never do it again, and when I say that, I mean it. So to classify me as a stalker is somewhat ignorant. If the roles were reversed and a female friend showed up at my work unannounced to see me, I would want to know what the intentions were directly from her, not go from the words of my friends who have never met said female. I would be skeptical about the intentions, but would be better off knowing for sure, thus leaving no grey area.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 21, 2013 12:54:52 GMT -5
I noticed that nobody has reflected on where I said, "I've seen enough clues recently to lead me to believe she turned lesbian." That was one of the main reasons I wanted to see her in the first place, to find out if that was true. It would bring a sense of closure and I could move on peacefully if I knew for sure. I'll never be able to find out now, who's to say she would have even told me anyway, but I would feel better knowing if that was true or not. Disclaimer-I have nothing against gay people and believe they should have the same rights as everybody else.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 21, 2013 10:54:37 GMT -5
Wait whoa whoa whoa. Where does she work? If it's WalMart or somewhere with public access then I'd say that wasn't too weird. If it's an office and you'd really need to make an effort then it's a bit creepy. A restaurant
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 21, 2013 10:53:30 GMT -5
That last part is a little extreme (I have no idea where she lives, nor do I want to find out, because I don't care), but I know you're being sarcastic. It was one isolated incident, that only happened because I wasn't believing her story about being "too busy." If she would have set something up the first time I asked, like she said she would, none of this would have happened. I know what I did wasn't right, I just have to accept that she's gone, which will suck at first, but will be far better off in the long-run. Dude, you went way over the line. She was politely telling you she wasn't interested by saying she was too busy. Rather than just accept that you go ask around and find out where she works. Then you show up there unexpectedly for some sort of confrontation. How is that not creepy and stalkerish? And now you're turning around and blaming her saying, "If she had just agreed to go out with me I wouldn't have stalked her." That's ridiculous. "I'm not interested in meeting up with you" and "I'm too busy to meet up with you right now" are two different things. If she didn't want to see me she should have just said so directly, not saying "I'm really busy right now" because that would be a lie, and I don't tolerate being lied to. She's "too busy" yet can tweet constantly and post vine videos hanging out with other friends, and post pictures of just a relaxing day. I never said what I didn't wasn't creepy and stalkerish, because it was, I'm just saying it's something that could have been avoided, as crazy and I'm sure that sounds, this easily could have been avoided.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 21, 2013 0:54:06 GMT -5
That's not accurate, I was friendzoned by default, she had a boyfriend when we met. I didn't know that though. I'm moving on now, may have a date set up in the near future with another girl. This girl hasn't called me the dreaded "F-word" yet. I sort of know her, I'm friends with her best-friend and she's been around hanging out with our group of friends on some occasions. I'm not going to be so forceful this time around, or any time in the future, I'm just going to go with the flow and hope for the best, if it doesn't work out, no big deal. Guys are never put into the friendzone by default. My girlfriend and other girl-friends (friends that are girls) have said before when they meet a guy for the first time, if the initial physical attraction isn't there, they will never think of in any other way OTHER than a friend. And if you were the one always making the attempts and contacting her, she was trying to make it obvious that she didn't think of you as a friend either especially after you poured your heart out to her. I'm not trying to sound mean, I am just being brutually honest. The best advice I can give is just play it cool around girls you like/love. Nothing good comes from trying to force a relationship or rush into one with a new girl. Good luck with this new girl, you're young, you have plenty of opportunities. From age 21 to 24, I enjoyed life quite a bit, maybe too much but I don't regret one single bit of it. I don't necessary believe that is true, most girls may say that, but I don't believe anyone who is in a relationship will meet someone and think about having sex or not when they already have someone, thus defaulting said person to the friendzone immediately. Relationships take time to develop, and sometimes come from someone you may have blown off at first, but became attracted to over time.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 21, 2013 0:49:23 GMT -5
Wow, you creep. No girl wants to be with the stalker, you blew it. Move on and stop hiding under her bed at night..... That last part is a little extreme (I have no idea where she lives, nor do I want to find out, because I don't care), but I know you're being sarcastic. It was one isolated incident, that only happened because I wasn't believing her story about being "too busy." If she would have set something up the first time I asked, like she said she would, none of this would have happened. I know what I did wasn't right, I just have to accept that she's gone, which will suck at first, but will be far better off in the long-run.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 20, 2013 12:28:17 GMT -5
That's because fans know the Smackdown isn't important anymore. If fans can't sit through watching it on TV, why would they want to go to an event. This is something that is going to keep happening. It has nothing to do with the venue, especially if said venue can sell-out a Raw. The next time WWE comes here to Pittsburgh will be a Smackdown in September and I have no interest in going, we had Raw in March and I believe it was a sell-out, if not, it was pretty close.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 20, 2013 1:14:29 GMT -5
I talked to her a lot throughout the first year and a half of knowing her, we were both in college then, I told her how I felt about her, but nothing changed, she considered me a friend still like she did before. ...and that's exactly why you got friendzoned. That's not accurate, I was friendzoned by default, she had a boyfriend when we met. I didn't know that though. I'm moving on now, may have a date set up in the near future with another girl. This girl hasn't called me the dreaded "F-word" yet. I sort of know her, I'm friends with her best-friend and she's been around hanging out with our group of friends on some occasions. I'm not going to be so forceful this time around, or any time in the future, I'm just going to go with the flow and hope for the best, if it doesn't work out, no big deal.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 19, 2013 20:58:31 GMT -5
I've read all the replies so far and all of them bring up valid points. I know I have to get rid of her, I've known for a while, but sometimes you just don't want to let go of someone, unrequited love does that. It makes me sick to my stomach that I let myself stoop to the level I did in a desperate attempt to see her one last time. I should have just left well enough alone. I wanted to have us go our separate ways, but not like this, with her likely not wanting to hear from me ever again. I wanted to go and wish her luck with everything and end on a high note, not the opposite. Everything is a learning experience, mistakes will only make you learn from them and become stronger.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 19, 2013 3:28:06 GMT -5
I'm not one who usually posts many advice needing threads, but some advice on this one wouldn't hurt. I want to know if this friendship is worth savings, here's the scenario.
A have a female friend whom I met four years ago who I really don't want to lose. I fell in love with her the day I met her but was never able to date her because she had a boyfriend. I talked to her a lot throughout the first year and a half of knowing her, we were both in college then, I told her how I felt about her, but nothing changed, she considered me a friend still like she did before. I graduated and we went our separate ways. I always thought about her and wondered what it would be like to see her again. A year and a half later, I reconnected with her, while still having feelings. I saw her about once a month for six months, I still had feelings for her, she still saw me as an old friend. It was always me making the attempts to see each other, not her. I started to realize that a relationship was never going to happen, she didn't mention anything about a boyfriend, but I saw enough clues to lead me to believe she became a lesbian. We drifted apart again, I would text occasionally, sometimes getting a response, sometimes getting ignored. Here's were the problem finally comes up.
Last month, I texted her asking to meet up because she was about to graduate. I wanted to see her because I didn't know if I would ever get the chance to again. She was all for it, and said, "I'll check my schedule" A couple days later I texted her because she never got back to me and she said, "It's not a good week, sorry" Eventually this turned into "I don't want you getting the wrong impression, I've just been really busy lately" because I asked her if I was being a bother. Last week is when crap hit the fan. I found out where she worked, not directly from her, but through the grapevine. It was a surprise to her, but she did seem happy to see me at the time, we even made plans to try to meet up again a few days later. When I texted her to set it up, I received this message, "after you left I talked to my friends and they said it was a little much that you showed up at my work, (which I agree with) I've never told you where I worked, (true) they said a lot of things that make sense to me and to be honest I don't think meeting up would be good. I'm sorry, I'm not trying to be mean I just don't know what your intentions are with me and without sounding mean it's kind of scary."
Now let me explain. The only reason I showed up at her work was because I was upset that I couldn't set up a time to see her and I had a hard time believing she was too busy, and sometimes she ignored me. The friends she talked to have never meet me. I can understand why there would be questions rather my intentions from them and can also understand why my friend would be unsure of my intentions. I sent a message to her a couple days ago apologizing for showing up at her work unexpectedly, promising never to do it again, and telling her that I value our friendship and would never intend to do anything to ruin it. She didn't respond. I'm hurt that all I wanted was to catch up with an old friend, and now it's look like she's gone for good.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 17, 2013 2:44:19 GMT -5
I strongly considered taking a break from WWE after WrestleMania because Cena winning left such a bad taste in my mouth. I decided not to and continued watching, but honestly, there are only a couple things that interest me about the product at the moment. Cena isn't one of them.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 16, 2013 14:49:33 GMT -5
That was what I believe to be his second best promo, the pipebomb being number one obviously. Some of what he said was exactly how he felt in real life, he made a few valid points too.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 13, 2013 13:04:41 GMT -5
This further confirms my belief that WWE is so afraid of someone being more over than Cena. I said this when Ryback turned heel, and I'm saying it again now. On Raw Monday when Ryback said "I become so popular so fast, you went into panic mode" I thought of how much WWE panics when somebody gets more over than Cena. Turning Bryan heel would one of the stupidest things they've ever done.
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