MattelsRule
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Post by MattelsRule on Dec 16, 2008 18:22:14 GMT -5
This seemed to me like a great idea for a heated thread/debate.
I live with 2 brothers - one I have known for 10 years and is a bit introverted. He has been seeing this girl for 9 months now - and we lived together for a full year while he was single.
His ex girlfriend was cool, but they broke up before I moved in with him. Before all the jealousy arguments come up, I just want to say that I am fine with him being in a relationship. I'm single and of course I'd like to meet the right person but that is hard and I'm happy on my own.
So this girl was iffy to me at first - something about her I just didn't love. But of course to my dismay, this has turned into a long relationship.
What constantly bothers me is that they are inseparable. It gets to me that he never sets aside any time to just chill with me or hang out with our old friends without the idea in his head that he will meet up with her later in the night. I feel immature complaining about this but its bothersome. Like he sleeps at her house 4 nights a week, but when he's here, there is like a 70 percent chance she's here or coming. She talks to him in baby talk and her introverted personality is loathsome to me. She's nice but I feel like she's just another girl who will ultimately hurt him or vice versa. They have petty fights and are the ultimate epitome of why I hate couples.
My philosophy is that we're all hypocrites. We will tell our friends that we wouldn't do this or that but when we meet that girl - we will all change - we will do whatever for the girl because as men, we are influenced by sex and tenderness. For all you younger guys in a happy crew of single friends - girls will destroy it and you will be sucked into the black hole as well. We are destined to mate, procreate and lose all sense of good ideas and morality when it comes to the power of the p****.
Lets discuss!
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Post by KeBen Owens on Dec 16, 2008 18:31:08 GMT -5
 " I think you need a time-out, son." Just kidding. But from the sounds of it, man, it's a bit of jealousy. But I can understand where you're coming from. Me and my brother haven't really spoken or have been close since we've found our women. It hurts, but it's just something you've got to deal with. If it bothers you so much, maybe a sit down heart-to-heart talk with him might be the best thing. It's ultimately his choice wiether he wants to keep a strong bond with you, or end up not talking to you at all. -BEN |
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Post by Gazza on Dec 16, 2008 18:59:10 GMT -5
RKO her?
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Post by spawnsyxx9 on Dec 16, 2008 19:02:01 GMT -5
I think you seriously need to understand that just because he used to be one of the guys, that doesn't mean he will stay one. If this is a meaningful relationship to him then you should just let it be.
You have no say in his life and really shouldn't. Move on.
You're pretty much acting like a child thinking that things will stay the same for the long haul. Don't be surprised either if he decides to move out and live with her and probably won't be seeing you guys that often anymore if this progresses. Be happy for him and sotp being selfish.
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Post by Johnny Wrestling on Dec 16, 2008 19:07:24 GMT -5
I still want to know how when we the men have girlfriends, must of us just stop chilling with friends and that stuff, but women still do it.  |
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Post by King Bálor (CM)™ on Dec 16, 2008 19:08:42 GMT -5
This seemed to me like a great idea for a heated thread/debate. I live with 2 brothers - one I have known for 10 years and is a bit introverted. He has been seeing this girl for 9 months now - and we lived together for a full year while he was single. His ex girlfriend was cool, but they broke up before I moved in with him. Before all the jealousy arguments come up, I just want to say that I am fine with him being in a relationship. I'm single and of course I'd like to meet the right person but that is hard and I'm happy on my own. So this girl was iffy to me at first - something about her I just didn't love. But of course to my dismay, this has turned into a long relationship. What constantly bothers me is that they are inseparable. It gets to me that he never sets aside any time to just chill with me or hang out with our old friends without the idea in his head that he will meet up with her later in the night. I feel immature complaining about this but its bothersome. Like he sleeps at her house 4 nights a week, but when he's here, there is like a 70 percent chance she's here or coming. She talks to him in baby talk and her introverted personality is loathsome to me. She's nice but I feel like she's just another girl who will ultimately hurt him or vice versa. They have petty fights and are the ultimate epitome of why I hate couples. My philosophy is that we're all hypocrites. We will tell our friends that we wouldn't do this or that but when we meet that girl - we will all change - we will do whatever for the girl because as men, we are influenced by sex and tenderness. For all you younger guys in a happy crew of single friends - girls will destroy it and you will be sucked into the black hole as well. We are destined to mate, procreate and lose all sense of good ideas and morality when it comes to the power of the p****. Lets discuss! This is pretty typical of someone that becomes **** whipped.....censored word starts with a p and rhymes with whussy. Nothing much you can do. Been there......done that. Not everyone believes in bros before hoes. Your BROMANCE just wasnt meant to be.  |
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MattelsRule
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Post by MattelsRule on Dec 16, 2008 19:09:44 GMT -5
Thats the whole point though - like I guess I should have been more detailed - I moved in with him originally under the pretense that we would be bachelors - and that was understood. Selfishly though, I am angry that he met someone first and I have to just accept it and be happy for him. I guess I can be. I guess I'm also acting like a child. Its hard for me though. I work at being a good person and being happy for people, as I wish the same for me. ACK!!!!!
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Post by samsson on Dec 16, 2008 19:09:52 GMT -5
This is just the natural order of things  boy meets girl, girl gives him some, boy forgets all things before her....But there is hope !!!!! When they finally get into major arguments or breakup you are the wing man...give it time  |
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Post by Doomrider on Dec 16, 2008 19:11:01 GMT -5
Get a girl and then you guys can double date and spend more time with each other.
-=browsing craigslist=-
"Demolition fan seeks face-painted sexual Ax and Smash fantasies. No Crush."
Oh...nevermind.
Seriously though I never understood that. I always made time for my friends even when I'm in relationships. Some nights I just want to hang with my guy friends. Some nights I WANT my girlfriend to go out with her girl friends and flirt and get guys to buy her drinks (it's called the gray area. If either one of us was being bought drinks, it's ok to flirt). If you don't do stuff like that you'll go nuts.
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MattelsRule
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Post by MattelsRule on Dec 16, 2008 19:12:39 GMT -5
"Demolition fan seeks face-painted sexual Ax and Smash fantasies. No Crush."
HAHAHAHA! Love it.
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Post by spawnsyxx9 on Dec 16, 2008 19:21:36 GMT -5
I still want to know how when we the men have girlfriends, must of us just stop chilling with friends and that stuff, but women still do it. That is the stereotype. I have had my gf for over a year now and I still have time to chil with the guys at the sportsbar getting all beer goggled and have a grand ole time. I don't see why men get all baby-ass hurt when it is them that make it so that the girl wants them around 24/7. I told my gf before she was my gf, hey I'm not gonna change my routine. I do things with the guys on such and such days and that is how it is. You can come if you want, but I won't not go just because you want to spend time with me. She had a similar routine and so it worked out great. |
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Post by WarrenC_Y2JFan on Dec 16, 2008 19:31:14 GMT -5
Im single also and like being on my own. I live with my sister and her husband. So, sometimes it gets annoying.
I just cruise with a friend or chill with my parents (go shopping or to the movies).
I dont like chilling with my sister and bro in law, so i just give them their own time.
The annoying things are:
- they argue
- laugh and giggle (nite and morning)
- i miss tv and dinner if i skip 1 chore
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Post by KeBen Owens on Dec 16, 2008 19:50:36 GMT -5
Im single also and like being on my own. I live with my sister and her husband. So, sometimes it gets annoying. I just cruise with a friend or chill with my parents (go shopping or to the movies). I dont like chilling with my sister and bro in law, so i just give them their own time. The annoying things are: - they argue - laugh and giggle (nite and morning) - i miss tv and dinner if i skip 1 choreI wouldn't wish that last one on my worst enemy. -BEN |
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Post by Get A Rhythm™ on Dec 16, 2008 19:57:43 GMT -5
I still want to know how when we the men have girlfriends, must of us just stop chilling with friends and that stuff, but women still do it. That is the stereotype. I have had my gf for over a year now and I still have time to chil with the guys at the sportsbar getting all beer goggled and have a grand ole time. I don't see why men get all baby-ass hurt when it is them that make it so that the girl wants them around 24/7. I told my gf before she was my gf, hey I'm not gonna change my routine. I do things with the guys on such and such days and that is how it is. You can come if you want, but I won't not go just because you want to spend time with me. She had a similar routine and so it worked out great. Yeah, that's how it should be. I lost my best friend because he couldn't do that, and because I refused to hang out with his girl because she is a bitch. For real, too. Any roommate she had in college, she would act obnoxious towards so that they would end up moving elsewhere, and she somehow has the password to her Ex's e-mail, so she constantly goes on that and  s with him. Soooo I left the group. My personal decision. He wouldn't even take 20 min in between our class to grab lunch with me like we used to, and every time I would call him, I felt like I was bothering him. But yeah.. if you have a girlfriend, it's probably best that you both have your own lives on top of being in a relationship. It's cool to be friends with her friends, but she shouldn't stop hanging out with her crew and neither should you. I just think that's unhealthy. |
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Post by spawnsyxx9 on Dec 16, 2008 20:01:32 GMT -5
That is the stereotype. I have had my gf for over a year now and I still have time to chil with the guys at the sportsbar getting all beer goggled and have a grand ole time. I don't see why men get all baby-ass hurt when it is them that make it so that the girl wants them around 24/7. I told my gf before she was my gf, hey I'm not gonna change my routine. I do things with the guys on such and such days and that is how it is. You can come if you want, but I won't not go just because you want to spend time with me. She had a similar routine and so it worked out great. Yeah, that's how it should be. I lost my best friend because he couldn't do that, and because I refused to hang out with his girl because she is a bitch. For real, too. Any roommate she had in college, she would act obnoxious towards so that they would end up moving elsewhere, and she somehow has the password to her Ex's e-mail, so she constantly goes on that and s with him. Soooo I left the group. My personal decision. He wouldn't even take 20 min in between our class to grab lunch with me like we used to, and every time I would call him, I felt like I was bothering him. But yeah.. if you have a girlfriend, it's probably best that you both have your own lives on top of being in a relationship. It's cool to be friends with her friends, but she shouldn't stop hanging out with her crew and neither should you. I just think that's unhealthy. I hear you there. I just feel that it's good to spend time with eachother in the beginning. When a couple gets together, everyone should just leave them alone for a good 6 months so they can feel eachother out and be happy together. It's not that big of a deal. But at times you have to let the person go. It sucks and yeah sometimes you just want to tell them you think the person is a dick, but in the end if your friend is happy, you should be happy for them unless they are getting physically or monetarily hurt by being in the relationship. |
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Post by Doomrider on Dec 16, 2008 20:27:16 GMT -5
Im single also and like being on my own. I live with my sister and her husband. So, sometimes it gets annoying. I just cruise with a friend or chill with my parents (go shopping or to the movies). I dont like chilling with my sister and bro in law, so i just give them their own time. The annoying things are: - they argue - laugh and giggle (nite and morning) - i miss tv and dinner if i skip 1 choreCinderella is that you? |
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Post by Gazza on Dec 16, 2008 20:31:41 GMT -5
Im single also and like being on my own. I live with my sister and her husband. So, sometimes it gets annoying. I just cruise with a friend or chill with my parents (go shopping or to the movies). I dont like chilling with my sister and bro in law, so i just give them their own time. The annoying things are: - they argue
- laugh and giggle (nite and morning)- i miss tv and dinner if i skip 1 chore  |
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Post by Mark on Dec 16, 2008 20:34:16 GMT -5
i hate craplike that I hate my brother's girlfriend something about her i hate and ive told on several occasions that she is a drunk bitch and ill be glad to fight her.
besides that **** whipped dudes are hilarious and down right sickening
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Post by Get A Rhythm™ on Dec 16, 2008 20:37:18 GMT -5
i hate **** like that I hate my brother's girlfriend something about her i hate and ive told on several occasions that she is a drunk bitch and ill be glad to fight her.besides that **** whipped dudes are hilarious and down right sickening Ahahahaha |
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Post by masquerblade on Dec 16, 2008 21:47:33 GMT -5
that's where i am luckier than all of you guys, all of my brother's girlfriends have been totally awesome (okay, so he's only 16 and he's had 3 REAL girlfriends) but the one he had in 8th grade was awesome
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