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Post by LtD73 on Sept 14, 2009 16:18:45 GMT -5
i dont normally share my personal stuff on here but ive no idea what to do next (dont make fun please)
Ok i had a bit to drink last night and went on msn and started talking to a girl i like, i ended up telling her i thought she was cute and i fancied her, then i started stressing about what i just said, she said that i dont have to be stressed, she doesnt know what to think but shes glad i told her and that it wont be awkward, today i was avoiding her cos i was embarrassed about the msn convo....
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Post by LtD73 on Sept 14, 2009 16:20:27 GMT -5
(it wouldnt let me expand the message box)
....when we spoke on msn earlier today, it was very awkward, no idea how to get it back to the way we were/what to do next
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Post by sean™ on Sept 14, 2009 16:20:42 GMT -5
Um.....talk to her? As perfect as it would have been for her to respond with those same thoughts, is the fact that she didn't enough for you two to stop talking?
If anything, it seems like you are the only one making it awkward. Just talk to her, which will no doubt show confidence as well.
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Just read your update. Could you be alittle bit more descriptive on how it was awkward? Perhaps it was just awkward because it's been one day, and she is still thinking. Worst comes to worst, things are awkward for a few days until she figures out how she wants to proceed.
If she shares the same thoughts, then great. If not, it's not the end of the world and hopefully she will be open and honest with you about it. Sometimes the greatest friends need to just stay friends.
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Post by Ian from 616Entertainment. on Sept 14, 2009 16:23:46 GMT -5
I know it's easier said than done, but all you need to do is talk to her, man. And don't by all shy and beat around the bush. You have to be straight forward. Let her know that that is how you feel, and talk to her about where you guys go from here. What's the worst that could happen, you remain friends?
Not a big deal, dude. You're fine.
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Post by OmegaGaijin on Sept 14, 2009 16:27:10 GMT -5
these things happen mate,the best thing to do is not avoid her and knock it on the head as soon as possible,dont fall into the trap of avoiding her.
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Post by Sabin on Sept 14, 2009 16:32:47 GMT -5
Do not avoid her. that is the worst thing to do. It will be very akward when you run into each other and you haven;t spoken to hher in a month. just bite the bullet and talk to her.
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Post by LtD73 on Sept 14, 2009 16:38:03 GMT -5
sean - when i spoke to her on msn, it was like there was something different, and i said "lol dya want to forget about last night" she said "if you want to", me "i dont know", then i asked her about the convo she went [busy] and hasnt been on msn all day
I just think its because of what i said, and i feel like its going to be awkward when we saw eachother in school.
and before anyone asks, yeah she's single aswell, so theres no bf trouble
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Post by inrogers29 on Sept 14, 2009 16:58:31 GMT -5
Just talk to her, if she doesn't want to be with ya, then ask if we can be friends then still, and if thats too hard for ya, give up and go to the next girl.
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Post by sean™ on Sept 14, 2009 17:08:34 GMT -5
Well, first things first. It sounds like it might still be a sensitive subject to her. Perhaps the next time you two talk, just act normal. Talk about music or movies or whatever it is you usually talk about. When the time is right, she will come to you and give you her thoughts. You never want to press anyone for a reaction, as I'm sure you wouldn't want someone to do the same to you.
If you don't mind me asking, is there anything additional that was said to her? Perhaps anything that might have also given her a different impression of you? We all have the potential to be completely different people when we are under the influence.
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Post by LtD73 on Sept 14, 2009 17:15:20 GMT -5
i said stuff like ive fancied her for ages, think shes really cute and that im not that drunk and i actually mean the stuff that i just said. she even said that I (me) was more happier and funner when im drunk and she likes me happier and funner
Basically if i werent drunk, there would probably be a good chance that i wouldnt have told her how i feel
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Post by sean™ on Sept 14, 2009 17:26:10 GMT -5
Well, they don't call it liquid courage for nothing. I honestly think she's just taking in everything you said, and figuring out what all it means to her. She could simply be trying to figure out if you really meant it, or she could be wondering what she things or feels.
I think the general conscience is to wait it out, but don't act like anything is wrong or going on. Because, and I must be frank, if this girl decides that she doesn't like you in that way, do you still want to be friends? Perhaps she is just avoiding talking about it because she values to the friendship and is worried it might end if she doesn't share the same feelings.
just some food for thought.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2009 17:28:54 GMT -5
Tellling her your feelings was actually a good thing. Now, don't avoid, just talk to her like everyone else said. It may be hard at first, but it will get a lot easier and less awkward after awhile. Trust me, I've been through something like this before.
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Post by LtD73 on Sept 14, 2009 17:34:00 GMT -5
i remember that i kept saying i was embarrassed and i shouldnt have said anythin
she kept saying that its fine, theres nothing to be embarrassed about and she doesnt know what to think yet but shes glad i told her so that she knows how i feel about her
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Post by sean™ on Sept 14, 2009 17:38:37 GMT -5
At this point, it's just a waiting game. Either way, you've done well so far by being honest, as well as not trying to deny anything. Women, and people in general, look for honesty in a person.
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Post by LtD73 on Sept 14, 2009 17:49:00 GMT -5
I feel like that if i try to talk to her by herself in school thatll itll be really obvious that somethings going on
and i cant ask any of her friends if shes ok because ive asked her not to tell anyone what i said, and her friends will be asking stupid questions like why dya want to know, dya fancy her or something
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Post by sean™ on Sept 14, 2009 17:51:12 GMT -5
Whatever you do, don't ignore her. The first thing that will seep into someone's mind is that you are upset with her, as opposed to "keeping your distance to be safe". There's not a whole lot you can do about the awkwardness. That goes away on it's own.
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Post by LtD73 on Sept 14, 2009 17:58:36 GMT -5
I relised that you have said talk to her.....and say what exactly
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Post by sean™ on Sept 14, 2009 18:00:09 GMT -5
I couldn't tell you that. If she feels awkward about everything, then she might not want to talk right off the bat. But just ignoring her is going to give her the wrong impression. Relationships, between anyone, are fragile.
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Post by LtD73 on Sept 14, 2009 18:04:14 GMT -5
I think that if she isnt on msn tomorrow on wednesday that im going to think telling her was a mistake.
For all i know she could be asking a friend, what should she do next etc.
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Post by S on Sept 14, 2009 20:59:36 GMT -5
Dude, i've been having problems with a certian girl who i like, who knows i like her, who i think isn't being honest with how she feels about me, who is in a relationship, who's relationship is long distance with a guy she hasn't lived in the same country with for years, who's now over here for college, who isn't happy at me, who is making her feel guilty for knowing me, who's making me extremely pissed off... complicated huh?
Over a month ago i said something a little out of character to her (lets just say i had a perfect record with her till then) and even now things are a little odd... i spent over 3 hours talking over these problems with her a couple of nights ago and we STILL havent sorted them... then again, i know people who are ok with these sorts of things after a day.
What i'm trying to say is how people deal with things differ from person to person, we can't really help you cos we don't know her... all i can say is take every day as it comes and just try and be the nicest you can be with her.
Believe me, lives would be much easier if feelings didn't get in the way.
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