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Post by tnafan17: The Total Package on Mar 17, 2011 12:40:45 GMT -5
Whats up guys? Just curious are there any signs that you can truly detect when a friend of yours seems depressed or is in a state of depression?
BTW, has anyone here dealt with depression that could possibly help me?
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Post by extreme on Mar 17, 2011 12:42:27 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2011 12:51:45 GMT -5
being sad and tired all the time,feeling helpless,feeling like nothin is ever going to change,wanting to inflict pain on yourself,not caring if u die or not,not caring about anyone,think about death more than fequently
i suffered a 2 yr in and out depression,i can honestly say getting out of the house and doing somthing u love is great help,go hang out with friends and if you dont have any try to find some,get a girlfriend,start a hobby or several.
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Post by Lord Ragnarok on Mar 17, 2011 12:54:51 GMT -5
I suffer from severe anxiety and depression. It's not fun, but I recommend exercise.
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Post by tnafan17: The Total Package on Mar 17, 2011 12:57:00 GMT -5
I suffer from severe anxiety and depression. It's not fun, but I recommend exercise. I appreciate the help so far guys. Thing is, he does workout and all of that but it just seems like he has his days ya know. One day he is the man and so fun to be around. Then the next he is in like a dark state where he doesn't act truly the same and seems almost nervous and doesn't want to be around a bunch of people.
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Post by captain master talbot on Mar 17, 2011 13:01:11 GMT -5
Just let him know that you're there for him. Sure, alot of depressed people actually have some sort of clinical depression, but sometimes they could just want attention or knowing that someone cares about them.
My best advice is just to do something nice for the guy unexpectedly and cheer him up.
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Post by PenguinDeluxe on Mar 17, 2011 14:13:45 GMT -5
Being 100% honest, no BS, a friend of mine called the cops this morning because I was spouting off bullpoop out of being depressed, exhuasted, and dehydrated and not in a sound mind. I passed out from all of that and didn't answer her texts or calls, so she ended up calling the campus police who knocked on my door about 4am this morning. Its been a stressful day since then =/
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Post by Lk™ on Mar 17, 2011 14:21:31 GMT -5
With somebody who is depressed, don't be sympathetic but rather be empathetic. You don't always know how they're truly feeling.
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Post by Halloween King on Mar 17, 2011 14:23:04 GMT -5
I dont want to make fun of anyone's depression, I think it is a very serious problem. I hope if you or your friend suffer from depression you seek help and get better soon.
I just wanted to post this clip while on the topic of depression because it has always made me laugh.
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Post by juicewinslow on Mar 17, 2011 15:38:44 GMT -5
I feel depressed lately, although I don't like to admit it.
I've come to this conclusion cause I have been having anxiety and I don't feel like hanging out.
All I want to do is sleep.
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Post by Grumpyoldman on Mar 17, 2011 15:48:41 GMT -5
I suffer from severe anxiety and depression. It's not fun, but I recommend exercise. I appreciate the help so far guys. Thing is, he does workout and all of that but it just seems like he has his days ya know. One day he is the man and so fun to be around. Then the next he is in like a dark state where he doesn't act truly the same and seems almost nervous and doesn't want to be around a bunch of people. He could be bi-polar as well.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2011 17:10:12 GMT -5
I used to have terrible anxiety and depression. I got over it though, all by my lonesome.
It's not easy to do, but going to doctors or getting drugs for it isn't the way to go. Drugs don't help you identify why you're feeling sad and why random things are freaking you out and sending you into anxiety attacks.
My anxiety got so bad at one point, I would be walking through Krogers, and I would randomly have an anxiety attack for no reason, and I would start there freaking out hoping noone noticed. I remember sitting and watching an episode of TNA and just spazzing out for no reason and pissing off a lot of my friends because of it, which didn't help me at all. (Although, it's probably my fault for watching TNA to begin with, but I digress.)
You really just have to understand him. Have a lot of patience, and don't try to play the "I know how you feel" card, it never helped me.
Also, encourage him (and you might want to also) to watch videos about anxiety and depression. idk why, but when I finally kicked myself in the ass and decided I was sick and tired of being sick and tired, I started watching various videos and TV shows about the subject. idk if it helped me or not, but it's something I did when I got over myself.
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Post by Symmetry on Mar 17, 2011 19:49:00 GMT -5
I feel depressed lately, although I don't like to admit it. I've come to this conclusion cause I have been having anxiety and I don't feel like hanging out. All I want to do is sleep. Same here, depressed all the f***ing time.
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Post by Happy Pizza on Mar 17, 2011 20:52:00 GMT -5
I suffer from severe anxiety and depression. It's not fun, but I recommend exercise. I appreciate the help so far guys. Thing is, he does workout and all of that but it just seems like he has his days ya know. One day he is the man and so fun to be around. Then the next he is in like a dark state where he doesn't act truly the same and seems almost nervous and doesn't want to be around a bunch of people. Sounds more like bipolar disorder to me. But a bunch of my friends (who I know aren't really depressed) always post 'woe is me' Facebook statuses just for attention. Not saying that's the case here, but there does seem to be a large portion of the young adult population that throws the word "depression" around too easily.
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Post by K5 on Mar 17, 2011 20:56:14 GMT -5
depression has many faces. essentially, if you 'feel' depressed the majority of the time, you probably are some form of it.
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Post by ß®å¢K$ßâ¢k on Mar 17, 2011 22:04:52 GMT -5
Basically anything he says are signs of depression. Hope I helped.
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Post by fattic on Mar 17, 2011 23:38:27 GMT -5
I suffer from severe anxiety and depression. It's not fun, but I recommend exercise. I appreciate the help so far guys. Thing is, he does workout and all of that but it just seems like he has his days ya know. One day he is the man and so fun to be around. Then the next he is in like a dark state where he doesn't act truly the same and seems almost nervous and doesn't want to be around a bunch of people. One of my best friends is exactly like this. Sometimes we're out together and she's happy and having fun, the next second it's like someone flipped the switch and she just wants to go home and be alone. She gets terrible anxiety attacks and dips into deep depression, and I try to be there for her all I can, but it's hard when I don't know what's going through her mind. It's definitely scary, not to mention sad...I don't want to see someone I consider a sister struggling with such problems. All you can really do is be there to listen and let your friend know that you're there for him.
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Post by slappy on Mar 17, 2011 23:43:57 GMT -5
As someone who suffers from things like this, I may be able to relate to your friend.
If one of my friends came up to me and asked what was wrong or if I wanted to talk. I'd tell them I was fine. My feeling was I didn't want to burden them with how I was doing, I didn't want them to worry.
So even if you do reach out to your friend, you may not get anywhere.
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Post by Focalin on Mar 18, 2011 1:00:55 GMT -5
I'd imagine this is will come off a bit shocking, but i actually suffer from depression, I've attempted suicide twice. Just please be there for your friend. Don't be assertive, just let him know you're there for him.
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Post by spamdfms101 on Mar 20, 2011 7:19:09 GMT -5
I know I'm a little late(I was banned lol), but I too suffer from bad depression. Just like Focalin, I have attempted suicide twice. The second time my friend showed that he was really there for me. He rushed over to my house with his dad to make sure I went to the ER. It really showed that he cared. The first time nobody even seemed to care. I textedmy one "friend" and he didnt do shit. He was just like "that was stupid lol." No shit. Its odd though, a lot of my friends dont realize how depressed I am. I try as hard as I can to put up a fake happy persona so that I dont make others down. But deep inside I'm about as depressed as it gets. Every day I think of killing myself, only thing stopping me is my parents now control my meds. Nothing is interesting. Even stuff like sports and television doesnt interest me anymore. All I wanna do is lay in bed and listen to rap and go on here. IDK, depression sucks. But I think the only thing you can do is show him you care. Tell him how you really feel and how much the guy means to everybody around him. But dont harp on "whats wrong? why are you depressed?" IDK about anybody else, but I am unable to answer that question when asked. And eventually it just annoys me. But good luck man. I hope your friend is alright.
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