raVen™
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Post by raVen™ on Dec 2, 2013 2:20:28 GMT -5
I've only had one experience in the girlfriend department, liked her for over a year, first girl I had ever liked, finally asked her out. Things went very nice, said she had a great time. I bought her some stuff like earrings, and then she stopped talking to me after I took her home. She continued to wear the stupid earrings but never once glanced at me. I spilled out every emotion I had for her, basically in tears, on that night and she didn't even care. I was so crushed and hurt for months. Then I got drunk, cried, threw up, and now all is well. But all those months of anxiety of wanting to ask her out isn't worth it looking back. I always got a really happy feeling/fluttery feeling in my stomach around her, but now when I see her I just feel cold and empty. Ah well. Those butterflies were your mistaken perception of her sucking the life out of you and your wallet, my friend.
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Post by Odafin Tutuola on Dec 2, 2013 2:35:11 GMT -5
Before I met my girlfriend I went on a few dates with girls but none of them turned out to be what I was looking for or what they were looking for in a guy, so dating is hard. I meet my girlfriend on myspace (when that crapwas cool) and we have been together for 5 years, she is the first real relationship I've been in and I am happy with her.
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Post by @.@ Hempsterdance @.@ on Dec 2, 2013 4:52:56 GMT -5
like very few people on this earth im not attached to the internets nipple every second. I still enjoy talking face to face with my friends rather than a social network or phone. as for dating being harder now a days, it can be if your trying to date a teenager. Any self respecting adult would never let the internet get in the way on a date
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Post by King of Kings on Dec 2, 2013 5:35:32 GMT -5
I say no, it's not more difficult. As a matter of fact, however I have nothing to compare it to. I'm 22, so I grew up in the digital age. When I was in 5th grade, the girl I wanted to try to date used AIM when I asked for her phone number and I got that instead. When I hit high school, Myspace and sequentially Facebook were the norm. Instead of talking on the phone, we'd talk there or in more recent years: text message.
I see no difficulty in dating, I just don't know if it's easier/harder than it used to be - because I'm not from that time.
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Post by Jack on Dec 2, 2013 6:03:51 GMT -5
Still being at school, I would say it is easier in terms of socialising, but in terms of dating it is much harder in terms of the whole social media spotlight.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 2, 2013 6:33:10 GMT -5
Nah.
Especially with the huge amount of people who do that online dating bull sh*t.
Social media seems to get everybody in trouble though no matter what...hence why I don't even have a Facebook, Twitter, etc.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 2, 2013 7:56:36 GMT -5
lol hard for you... i get all the ****
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Post by BrIaNMeRcY on Dec 2, 2013 9:27:11 GMT -5
Nah. Especially with the huge amount of people who do that online dating bull sh*t. Social media seems to get everybody in trouble though no matter what...hence why I don't even have a Facebook, Twitter, etc. Good thing you're not missing out on anything. My mind is split whether to attempt to be in a relationship or just remain single. Then again, I am not in high demand. If women see nothing in me, then so be it. I view it as their loss, not mine. Most of not everybody here had nothing left to lose but everything to gain.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 2, 2013 10:14:39 GMT -5
Bitches be crazy.
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Post by Yeezy's Mullet: Team X Blades on Dec 2, 2013 10:19:57 GMT -5
Finding/contacting people isn't the problem. It's the fact that people put sooo much stock into social networking when dealing with love, relationships, and talking to the other sex all together.
There's two side to this coin though. We can't blame the digital age before we blame ourselves as people. We only become as entangled in it as we let ourselves. Dating CAN be harder nowadays due the fact that , as mentioned before, many many young girls can't put their cell phones down for two seconds. Not only that but we've gotten to the point where people will emote feelings online (good or bad) that they're not willing to emote in person.
The other side is more of an unpopular opinion I have. Being "The Good Guy" doesn't mean you get the girl. Being nice to a girl or being there for or whatever doesn't require her to respond with feelings of romance. Sometimes the guys you think were the douche bags were really just regular guys who laid it all out there and told the girl how he felt instead of trying to get her to like him through the friendship angle. And this is coming from a person who's been in the "good guy friend who has a crush" position. I'm not saying that you gotta spill your guts to the girl the minute you start liking her. But don't just continue to play the friend role and feel entitled to romantic feelings from her based on that.
To me, dating is and always will be what you make it. Sometimes you just gotta close the laptops, put down the phones and have a conversation. As long as the two people can do that then there's nothing external (technology wise) to blame is the relationship doesn't make it.
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Post by raVen™ on Dec 2, 2013 10:31:37 GMT -5
I say no, it's not more difficult. As a matter of fact, however I have nothing to compare it to. I'm 22, so I grew up in the digital age. When I was in 5th grade, the girl I wanted to try to date used AIM when I asked for her phone number and I got that instead. When I hit high school, Myspace and sequentially Facebook were the norm. Instead of talking on the phone, we'd talk there or in more recent years: text message. I see no difficulty in dating, I just don't know if it's easier/harder than it used to be - because I'm not from that time. None of what you said constitutes as "dating" All examples you listed were "text communication".
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Post by raVen™ on Dec 2, 2013 10:34:52 GMT -5
Finding/contacting people isn't the problem. It's the fact that people put sooo much stock into social networking when dealing with love, relationships, and talking to the other sex all together. There's two side to this coin though. We can't blame the digital age before we blame ourselves as people. We only become as entangled in it as we let ourselves. Dating CAN be harder nowadays due the fact that , as mentioned before, many many young girls can't put their cell phones down for two seconds. Not only that but we've gotten to the point where people will emote feelings online (good or bad) that they're not willing to emote in person. The other side is more of an unpopular opinion I have. Being "The Good Guy" doesn't mean you get the girl. Being nice to a girl or being there for or whatever doesn't require her to respond with feelings of romance. Sometimes the guys you think were the douche bags were really just regular guys who laid it all out there and told the girl how he felt instead of trying to get her to like him through the friendship angle. And this is coming from a person who's been in the "good guy friend who has a crush" position. I'm not saying that you gotta spill your guts to the girl the minute you start liking her. But don't just continue to play the friend role and feel entitled to romantic feelings from her based on that. To me, dating is and always will be what you make it. Sometimes you just gotta close the laptops, put down the phones and have a conversation. As long as the two people can do that then there's nothing external (technology wise) to blame is the relationship doesn't make it. Well said. Women can sense Honesty. It doesn't seem to matter if you're faking it or if it's legitimate, they cant tell "you're being honest" lol. Some people can be convinced the sky is a different color as long as you make the right motions.
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Post by sean™ on Dec 2, 2013 11:32:07 GMT -5
The only reason dating is more difficult now days is because we have more and more influences telling us what we should be or need to be, to the point where it effects the confidence of the individual.
There's a reason Online Dating has picked up, and it's not completely because of convenience. A lot of it has to do with being able to "shield" yourself or hide behind a few photos until you feel comfortable enough to reveal yourself to someone completely.
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Post by jason1980s on Dec 2, 2013 15:22:38 GMT -5
This has to be the most correct assessment of relationships and dating in this tech savvy world. We all have met tons of women in our past. Some can be deem real, some are deemed fake. Either way, it doesn't really matter. I am one of those single men who is dying to be in a long-term relationship. Why am I not in one? Well, I have come across too many jaded and fake women. They expect their boyfriends to be 6ft 4in and built men. You'd think they want the tall, handsome fellas but I see so many gorgeous women with guys that I bet (going by the wrestling fan or internet surfer stereotype) we all would outshine in the looks and the cool department. It's the strangest thing.
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Post by jason1980s on Dec 2, 2013 15:22:49 GMT -5
I think text, social media has nearly destroyed anything close to a personable world. Grumpy and agitated has become the norm even in cases where you, as a consumer, are giving someone money for a service. For example, a store, restaurant etc...
On the other hand, the employees probably see the same thing on the customers end.
I always think of technology like Homer Simpson thinks of beer. Technology is "the causes of, and solution too, all of life's problems." We've come so far with technology and yet we're going back to the stone age in terms of harmony towards others.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 2, 2013 15:50:22 GMT -5
My buddy and I were discussing this the other day. Maybe it is just the same argument with each generation, but with the tech savy generation we are in now, social media and the virtual world has taken over our real world. We've all seen relationships end due to facebook issues with a guy or girl or what not. So many seem to just sit on their phones and text or scroll through facebook and twitter while at the dinner table, while the guy wants to conversate, but now feels like she is not interested. Overall do you guys think that the dating game is harder today? I think this could be a good discussion. If so, why do you think dating is more difficult today? it's both more difficult & also easier at the same time….if that makes any sense try going back to the 1930's & having a true relationship with someone that lived farther than a few miles away; there is also a belief that they would almost immediately fall for one another (perception of love based on the need to be in a relationship)….people have always gotten married for money or security, status, but in past generations - it was more likely to happen faster because if you reached a certain age and didn't have a partner…you were shamed & seen as 'something wrong with you' - so they'd often marry the first person they dated (women were not equals, so basically HAD to marry to survive) now, there is pride in waiting for the right person, or being happy alone - not as much pressure to force something in the dating scene technology has changed people, but it's still possible to find genuine human beings…you just have to look hard enough & hope they aren't too focused on social media/gossip etc. Those distractions were always there though, just different things - but I do agree that many people are shells of actual people thanks to social media & will be more fickle when jumping from person to person, because they can more easily see all the options & be quick to think you aren't good enough - not realizing that they missed something special about someone
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Post by BrIaNMeRcY on Dec 2, 2013 16:56:21 GMT -5
This has to be the most correct assessment of relationships and dating in this tech savvy world. We all have met tons of women in our past. Some can be deem real, some are deemed fake. Either way, it doesn't really matter. I am one of those single men who is dying to be in a long-term relationship. Why am I not in one? Well, I have come across too many jaded and fake women. They expect their boyfriends to be 6ft 4in and built men. You'd think they want the tall, handsome fellas but I see so many gorgeous women with guys that I bet (going by the wrestling fan or internet surfer stereotype) we all would outshine in the looks and the cool department. It's the strangest thing. I do believe that women prefer tall men. I have seen it with my own two eyes in not only high school but in college. I will admit I am not really that tall (5ft 4in) and I am heavyset. Something that many women would find unattractive. The overall perception that some females have is their man has to look and talk a certain way. I know there are some who feel the complete opposite and won't judge men based on their height, weight, and personality. If women think men are supposed to be perfect, they are living in a jaded, fantasy world. I tell everybody I know that no one is perfect. I am quite comfortable with the way I look and act. I am not going to change just because one person wants me to change my personality and looks. Why change something that wasn't broken in the first place? I think text, social media has nearly destroyed anything close to a personable world. Grumpy and agitated has become the norm even in cases where you, as a consumer, are giving someone money for a service. For example, a store, restaurant etc... On the other hand, the employees probably see the same thing on the customers end. I always think of technology like Homer Simpson thinks of beer. Technology is "the causes of, and solution too, all of life's problems." We've come so far with technology and yet we're going back to the stone age in terms of harmony towards others. Good thing I have not given my number to another woman after getting rejected. I have found more use in my PlayStation 3, my camera, and my iTouch over my phone. I don't own a smart phone nor do I even care about them. Social media basically eliminated the need for outside interactions. You just go tweet somebody and post on a someone's timeline and say hi and bye. Additionally, social media has allowed people to act like their **** doesn't stink (like the majority of my former school mates) and create drama. Before I deleted my Facebook page, I was invited to a small gathering with people from my graduating class. I declined without thinking about going or not. They don't need to see me nor do I care about their lives. As for Homer Simpson, he is the man. Being simplistic is usually better.
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Post by GreyHaze:Big Bad Booty Daddy on Dec 2, 2013 19:26:52 GMT -5
I would say it's a bit harder in terms of actually finding someone worth your time. At times it feels like a huge competition. Most women have a perception that all men are the same and just want sex from initiation (due to the mass amount of men dogging one woman.) So I just sit back, relax and don't bother with women on Facebook unless I built some attraction in person.
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Post by jason1980s on Dec 2, 2013 20:19:03 GMT -5
You'd think they want the tall, handsome fellas but I see so many gorgeous women with guys that I bet (going by the wrestling fan or internet surfer stereotype) we all would outshine in the looks and the cool department. It's the strangest thing. I do believe that women prefer tall men. I have seen it with my own two eyes in not only high school but in college. I will admit I am not really that tall (5ft 4in) and I am heavyset. Something that many women would find unattractive. The overall perception that some females have is their man has to look and talk a certain way. I know there are some who feel the complete opposite and won't judge men based on their height, weight, and personality. If women think men are supposed to be perfect, they are living in a jaded, fantasy world. I tell everybody I know that no one is perfect. I am quite comfortable with the way I look and act. I am not going to change just because one person wants me to change my personality and looks. Why change something that wasn't broken in the first place? I think text, social media has nearly destroyed anything close to a personable world. Grumpy and agitated has become the norm even in cases where you, as a consumer, are giving someone money for a service. For example, a store, restaurant etc... On the other hand, the employees probably see the same thing on the customers end. I always think of technology like Homer Simpson thinks of beer. Technology is "the causes of, and solution too, all of life's problems." We've come so far with technology and yet we're going back to the stone age in terms of harmony towards others. Good thing I have not given my number to another woman after getting rejected. I have found more use in my PlayStation 3, my camera, and my iTouch over my phone. I don't own a smart phone nor do I even care about them. Social media basically eliminated the need for outside interactions. You just go tweet somebody and post on a someone's timeline and say hi and bye. Additionally, social media has allowed people to act like their **** doesn't stink (like the majority of my former school mates) and create drama. Before I deleted my Facebook page, I was invited to a small gathering with people from my graduating class. I declined without thinking about going or not. They don't need to see me nor do I care about their lives. As for Homer Simpson, he is the man. Being simplistic is usually better. I joke about it a lot with friends that we always see these gorgeous women with below average guys. It drives me crazy. I really shouldn't say anymore because I'll come off as mean. It amazes me the number of people from school (15+ years ago for grade school) who look me up or get into conversations with me if I see them in public. I'm thinking "it was years ago. move on, please"
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Post by Nivro™ on Dec 2, 2013 20:24:52 GMT -5
I have a rule, if Im taking you out (to dinner or wherever) and you get on your cell phone and start texting your friends...You're payin for your meal and Im taking mine to go. Luckily its only happened twice.
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