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Post by Sleazyness on May 3, 2014 18:05:26 GMT -5
So basically today was the first time I've ever actually heard my mom argue with my Dad(Stepdad) in my life. She basically was arguing over some
house payments and what not. She has been talking about getting a divorce for a while and I think it's actually going to happen. I have two brothers,
one is 21 and the other is 13. I was just wondering what I should do as far as trying to handle the situation.
The reason I came to you all is because, not to sound weird but I think of you guys as my online family. I know a lot of you have maybe been through this and I know that some of you are adults. Thats why I thought it would be great to ask you all for the advice. Please dont troll on this thread, its a serious matter to me and I just want some advice. Im just a clueless seventeen year old with no idea on how to handle this.
Also, the reason I said he is my dad and stepdad is because I actually have his last name but he isnt my birth father. I never met or seen or heard from my birth father.
Thanks all much love, Kyle.
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Post by Joel on May 3, 2014 20:26:00 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear what your going through bro. Unfortunate things like this happen. I recommend to never choose sides and talk to your brothers about the situation. Don't hide your feelings and let them bottle up inside. Let it out and talk to your brothers.
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Post by leatherrfase on May 3, 2014 20:38:22 GMT -5
there isnt much you can do.
be strong
dont pick sides
and like dude before me said, dont bottle everything up, talk.
i went thru this when i was like 10, and it was hard, but eventually, you get thru it with help from friends & other family. you'll be ok, you just have to weather the storm.
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Post by HHH316 on May 3, 2014 21:40:16 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear you are having to deal with this. My parents split up two years ago, so I can relate. If I could give you any advice, I'd recommend 2 things. Don't take a side, stay neutral. Taking one parents' side over the other will just cause problems. Its ok to have an opinion & to take a stance, but tread carefully. The other piece of advice would be to set an example for your siblings. Whether you are the oldest, in the middle, or the youngest, you can be the one to set the tone for how you three handle this. Show them that you are going to be mature about the situation & deal with whatever happens in an adult matter. My sister & I did the same thing & it showed my parents that if we could be mature adults, the very least they could do is be civil adults. For the most part, they've been good with each other.
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Post by Halloween King on May 3, 2014 22:15:19 GMT -5
It's a tough situation for sure. On one hand your parents might not be getting along anymore. On the other hand if they divorce it might hurt the kids. I would say just be supportive of what ever your parents decide.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2014 22:55:56 GMT -5
That sucks man. My parents got a divorce a few years ago, but now they are much happier. Honestly, we all are much happier apart than we were together, but not all are like us. Don't pick sides as the others said. Talk to your brothers and see how they feel and try and help them through it. Stay strong bro, we're always here.
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Post by Deleted on May 4, 2014 4:58:44 GMT -5
I cant really relate to the situation but I know that just stay strong, And make sure you dont pick sides.
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Post by RybackV1 on May 4, 2014 8:19:45 GMT -5
Parents been divorced since I was 2. Never remember them not hating each other.
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Post by Sleazyness on May 4, 2014 10:44:53 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice everyone. Seems like it was just a one time deal. They are still getting a divorce though.. I think.
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Post by CMPUNKISGOOD on May 4, 2014 13:11:24 GMT -5
Don't take sides, don't get involved, if things get too bad leave the house for a bit or go to a friends house until your ready to go home.
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Post by Mr. K.O on May 4, 2014 14:05:24 GMT -5
Like everyone said, don't pick sides man. Just gotta stay strong through it. Divorce is tough, especially on the kids.
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Post by Escape The Rules on May 5, 2014 5:56:02 GMT -5
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Post by Brad on May 5, 2014 8:19:43 GMT -5
Sorry to hear that, man. It's never fun to hear parents argue. Hope it works out for the best.
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Post by HVMMONS on May 5, 2014 9:38:24 GMT -5
My parents are in the process of getting a divorce. I made a thread similar to this a couple months ago. I've tried everything in the book to keep them together, but it's not meant to be after 20 years of marriage. Keep your head high, life is shitty sometimes.
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Post by HVMMONS on May 5, 2014 9:39:33 GMT -5
My parents are in the process of getting a divorce. I made a thread similar to this a couple months ago. I've tried everything in the book to keep them together, but it's not meant to be after 20 years of marriage. Keep your head high. Life is hard, and unfair.
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Post by Deleted on May 5, 2014 10:31:58 GMT -5
Be strong. Don't let these things shake your world. Parents fight. Mine did everyday and are still married. Things happen and money is always going to be an issue between two adults trying to raise a family. Just keep being you and keep the faith brotha.
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Post by The Mask of Truth on May 5, 2014 14:48:58 GMT -5
I grew up without a father so I can't directly relate to your situation, but I will say that it is better for them to be apart instead of trying to fix something that is already broken. Forcing themselves to stay together for the sake of the kids will only cause more stress to everyone in the household, mainly because the arguing and fighting only gets worse.
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