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Post by Colter on Aug 15, 2016 16:44:57 GMT -5
Beat myself up over my ex for about 4 months. Tried everything I could to get her back, she even lead me on a few times. Of course, I was too stupid to not give up, so yeah. Thankfully, I came to my senses and I've been with an extremely amazing girl for the past month and a half. Things turned out pretty great this year for something that started so shitty.
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Post by T R W on Aug 15, 2016 16:50:43 GMT -5
Besides my first marriage.... YOUR MOM!!!!
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Post by jayrod2009 on Aug 15, 2016 17:35:49 GMT -5
You never ever check the phone or any social media messages. You'll never get what you saw out of your head. Even 50 years from now you'll remember everything clear as day. That's why I don't do it. I just think to myself what would they see when they looked at my phone! lol As for my regrets? None. Everything I've done, good and bad has brought me to the pretty damn good life I have now. Cliché but true. This is the only way to look at life. Regrets are silly. Its the choices we have made that make us who we are and where we are. Now If your at a computer in prison, yeah regret that shit. But, you can't dwell on things. If there was a girl/guy in your life that you wish was back, make a move. Cause that door could reopen. If you don't now, you'll regret not trying. Life will never stop for you. It will never rewind. Its forever moving forward. What you need is the education that regret has taught you. You can choose to leave it be or make a move on it. My biggest regret in life was a threesome. It changed my frelings towards my girlfriend at the time and made me like the other girl. Had I played it cool I would have had multiple encounters. Instead I thought with my second brain and all the fun from both playgrounds ended. Dumbass. But I learned something. When I'm playing in a sandbox, stay hard and stay happy but If I catch feelings, just venture to that side of the playground during recess and all is well!
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Post by Nivro™ on Aug 15, 2016 17:42:26 GMT -5
You never ever check the phone or any social media messages. You'll never get what you saw out of your head. Even 50 years from now you'll remember everything clear as day. That's why I don't do it. I just think to myself what would they see when they looked at my phone! lol As for my regrets? None. Everything I've done, good and bad has brought me to the pretty damn good life I have now. Cliché but true. Texts to my mom & dad and a lot of Batman & 49ers pictures haha...I leave my phone laying around all the time. I never have anything to hide.
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Post by ET had AIDS on Aug 15, 2016 21:20:23 GMT -5
heroin. A lot of drugs in general. If you haven't f'd with that stuff yet, and you're still young and unaware... let me just say that it isn't worth all of the peer pressure in the world, or any type of high the drugs will give you for the short run.
I need a fix to get up, go to bed... and do most things in between. 15yrs ago or when I was still t a teenager I was a straight edge type of kid, and now I'm in my 30s and a junkie/completely burnt out.
It isn't worth it. I regret it. But I own up to it and hope I can get clean again.
Heed that as a warning if you ever are tempted or in a situation with powders in front of or around you....
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Post by @.@ Hempsterdance @.@ on Aug 15, 2016 21:36:29 GMT -5
I did the same thing to an ex and found out I was cheated on for 2 years. I can honestly say I have nothing I regret in my life. There is no reason to regret anything in lof it won't change a thing. I am who I am because of the things I've done.
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Post by Kyle on Aug 15, 2016 22:41:51 GMT -5
Of course you have..we all have. I did something this past week that has just been eating me up. Ill apologize ahead of time for letting it out here but there really isn't anyone I can vent to... So Ive been seeing this girl for a few months now. Everything has been perfect until the last couple weeks. She seemed "distant" to me. Ive asked her a few times if everything was o.k. and if we were all good and she said yes. So this past week we went on a little get away. Its been planned for over a month and I figured, hey maybe this will kinda get the distant feeling away. Sadly after the first night it seemed to just get worse. If we were out & about everything was fine but as soon as we got into the hotel room that night it was like the silent treatment. Hardly anything was said. When she went to take a shower I noticed she left her phone on the table. I knew not to pick it up. Its wrong, and invasion of privacy and you don't know if you're gonna like what you find out. So I checked her messages and she had a few from her ex. I don't find that a big deal because they do have a kid together but he was sending a lot of sexual memes to her. In her defense she never once responded to them in the same manner. She's pretty much disgusted with the guy but he's having a hard time letting go so I know in that sense she's innocent. Then I checked her only other messages and found a guy that was very overly flirty with her. Now I only had a brief time to skim things but she was never really flirty back. He would say something that I personally feel you shouldn't say to someone with a boyfriend and she would just send like a smiling emoji or something. She never really flirted back. The last thing I checked before I put her phone up was her image gallery. That's where I kinda felt the gut punch. While its mostly what I expected, there were a couple of "pictures" she had taken. (I wont go into further detail on what type...use your imagination). I checked to see when they were taken and it was during this 2 week period where she was distant. Now there were no texts in her messages with those pics sent but I also did receive those pics either...So now I'm wondering, who did? I cant imagine that someone would just take those kinds of pics and not share them, right? I really don't feel that she's cheating (physically) because she doesn't have people over at night if her daughter is home (not even me) and any night she's not had her she's been with me (that I can recall) so could it be "innocent" flirting over text? So with all that being said now I'm feeling the double whammy. I did something I never wanted to do (checking her phone) and I feel so guilty about it and then on top of that I find what I really didn't want to find so now that's eating at me too. I cant confront her because I'm technically in the wrong for going through her phone but now I'm just sitting here not knowing what to do. The last night in the hotel I couldn't even sleep in the same bed as her. We didn't talk or touch each other the whole night. The car ride home was awkwardly silence. She knew something was wrong but I don't think she knows what I know. Since we've been back home (we have separate houses). Ive refused to text her (first) for anything. I will only text her in response to her texting me and usually I keep it brief. There was good morning/night texts every single day (whoever woke up first usually sent first) we've been together and the past 3-4 days its nothing more then a simple "hey" about mid afternoon. Now I'm really kinda bummed this relationship is kaput. So back to the topic, did you ever do anything you later regretted and if so, how did you deal with it? Honestly, I would be very honest with her and tell her you suspect something is wrong. Not an accusation, but let her know that something is clearly amiss, and if it's an issue that can be resolved that you want to talk about it. If she still doesn't open up, it might be time to move on before it gets worse. Sorry, man.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2016 3:55:26 GMT -5
Not spending enough time with my Mum before she passed. Getting locked out of my apartment on my birthday...which was only last week. Getting booked by a cop for using my phone at a red light. Staying with Storage King as long as I did. Opening up to certain people, essentially going against my better judgement. Instances of wasted time on certain sites, boards and other related platforms when there was stuff I could have been doing. Getting a slight scratch on my car because I misjudged a column.
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Post by rowdy1971 on Aug 16, 2016 9:35:47 GMT -5
You never ever check the phone or any social media messages. You'll never get what you saw out of your head. Even 50 years from now you'll remember everything clear as day. That's why I don't do it. I just think to myself what would they see when they looked at my phone! lol As for my regrets? None. Everything I've done, good and bad has brought me to the pretty damn good life I have now. Cliché but true. Texts to my mom & dad and a lot of Batman & 49ers pictures haha...I leave my phone laying around all the time. I never have anything to hide. lol well that's good! Not that I have anything to hide as well, my girlfriend would find nothing but pictures of my daughter and texts to her mom about school supplies....ok....she might also find some naked pics of various actresses and whatnot!
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Post by BrIaNMeRcY on Aug 16, 2016 14:11:58 GMT -5
You never ever check the phone or any social media messages. You'll never get what you saw out of your head. Even 50 years from now you'll remember everything clear as day. That's why I don't do it. I just think to myself what would they see when they looked at my phone! lol As for my regrets? None. Everything I've done, good and bad has brought me to the pretty damn good life I have now. Cliché but true. This is the only way to look at life. Regrets are silly. Its the choices we have made that make us who we are and where we are. Now If your at a computer in prison, yeah regret that crap. But, you can't dwell on things. If there was a girl/guy in your life that you wish was back, make a move. Cause that door could reopen. If you don't now, you'll regret not trying. Life will never stop for you. It will never rewind. Its forever moving forward. What you need is the education that regret has taught you. You can choose to leave it be or make a move on it. My biggest regret in life was a threesome. It changed my frelings towards my girlfriend at the time and made me like the other girl. Had I played it cool I would have had multiple encounters. Instead I thought with my second brain and all the fun from both playgrounds ended. Dumbass. But I learned something. When I'm playing in a sandbox, stay hard and stay happy but If I catch feelings, just venture to that side of the playground during recess and all is well! Some very sound advice you gave. I have used my regrets as a teaching tool for myself. Much like how I have regrets meeting that Irish/Greek woman in college and volunteering at the 9/11 Museum. That woman who I met in college is probably regretting rejecting me. The 9/11 Museum is regretting not hiring me full-time. The one common theme is people should take advantage while I am there. There isn't another person like me in this world. I am a ton of things all rolled into one. I have since closed the door on dating. Could it reopen? Sure, unless I meet a woman who would want me to lead her. As for the 9/11 Museum, karma is going to bite them back for not giving me a fair chance. They boast about being an equal opportunity employer, yeah right. The people who actually work their are so incompetent that they make a novice chef look like Bobby Flay.
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Post by Dex on Aug 16, 2016 17:56:38 GMT -5
Oh yeah, I messed up with the only girl who I could ever feel that liked me for the way I was. She cared for me on a deeper plane than any relationship I've been in.
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Post by JC Motors on Aug 16, 2016 20:31:01 GMT -5
I have no major regrets
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2016 21:42:00 GMT -5
You never ever check the phone or any social media messages. You'll never get what you saw out of your head. Even 50 years from now you'll remember everything clear as day. That's why I don't do it. I just think to myself what would they see when they looked at my phone! lol As for my regrets? None. Everything I've done, good and bad has brought me to the pretty damn good life I have now. Cliché but true. This is the only way to look at life. Regrets are silly. Its the choices we have made that make us who we are and where we are. Now If your at a computer in prison, yeah regret that crap. But, you can't dwell on things. If there was a girl/guy in your life that you wish was back, make a move. Cause that door could reopen. If you don't now, you'll regret not trying. Life will never stop for you. It will never rewind. Its forever moving forward. What you need is the education that regret has taught you. You can choose to leave it be or make a move on it. My biggest regret in life was a threesome. It changed my frelings towards my girlfriend at the time and made me like the other girl. Had I played it cool I would have had multiple encounters. Instead I thought with my second brain and all the fun from both playgrounds ended. Dumbass. But I learned something. When I'm playing in a sandbox, stay hard and stay happy but If I catch feelings, just venture to that side of the playground during recess and all is well! The best advice.
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Post by ricflair4ever on Aug 16, 2016 22:37:58 GMT -5
Racked up a decent share of regrets sure. Some were due to my own stupidity and others were totally out of my control. If I've learned anything in my 38 years, its that the only way to cope with some of those regrets, is to gleam as much knowledge from them as i can ,and turn them into learning experiences. Let history and intuition be my guide and not make the same mistakes again. Some of those regrets still sting from time to time, but those old wounds are there to serve as reminders, and potentially armor, to fend off further bad choices.
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Post by Halloween King on Aug 16, 2016 23:37:45 GMT -5
I'll tell you a story, something that happened recently that goes in hand with you checking the phone.
I was at a BBQ recently with my wife and son. We were sitting near some friends and my wife asked me for my phone. I handed her my phone from my pocket. My friend was quick to ask me, "you don't lock your phone?", to which I replied no. I have nothing to hide so why would I lock my phone? It just made me think, do most people lock their phones? And if so why? Are they hiding things from their spouses?
As for regrets, I don't really have any. When I was in high school there was a girl I liked, I guess I had a crush on her. I never let it be known to her or anyone else. I often wondered what would have happened if I had let her know how I felt about her. She might have shot me down and said she wanted nothing to do with me. Or she might have wanted to spend some time with me. Either way I'll never know. I cant say I regret it now though because im happily married.
I do, kind of, know what you felt when you saw those pictures though. I remember I was at a party once and this guy said hello to my wife. It was a party, with lots of people talking, and loud music playing, so I didnt really catch their entire exchange. So I asked her who that was and she told me that she had been with that guy.........(insert loud noise here).
I thought she said she had been with that guy, meaning in a romantic way. She really told me she had been with that guy in school as class mates. Due to the loud noise though I didnt catch it all. At the moment thought I heard that she was with that guy and I felt like someone had punched me right in the gut, I had shortness of breath, I was literally seeing red, I got very dizzy and very angry. It was like a daze or like I disconnected my mind from my body because I lost it. It took me a few minutes to calm down and ask her to repeat what she had said to me.
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Post by ¡Twist Of Lime Green Jello! on Aug 17, 2016 6:50:15 GMT -5
Paying to see Batman v Superman. I can't really think of anything major. Maybe not proposing sooner if I really had to name one.
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Post by Ember's Flame on Aug 17, 2016 16:59:43 GMT -5
I joined WFigs.
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Post by Nathan from Aus on Aug 17, 2016 19:14:09 GMT -5
Paying to see Batman v Superman. I can't really think of anything major. Maybe not proposing sooner if I really had to name one. Lmao i saw Batman vs Superman haha lucky i got free tickets movie was abit woeful
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Post by J'Dinkalage Morgoone on Aug 17, 2016 23:32:49 GMT -5
no.
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Post by GreyHaze:Big Bad Booty Daddy on Aug 18, 2016 12:38:56 GMT -5
Good thread. One of my biggest regrets when I was younger was not going for women that liked me, I was always under the impression that they were trying to tease me or just make fun of me. Needless to say, I missed out on a lot of good opportunities until the age of 18. Now my problem is that I either think too deep or just plain right out treat women (who don't deserve it) really good. Most embrassing moment this year? I liked this girl from my class, she kept giving me signs, then she started to play games and I wasn't having it. I then find myself a gf and became distant with the girl in my class. Since I still had class with her and really no choice to avoid her, I start liking her again. She asked for some flowers etc on the last day of class, I show up, she ignores me, I text her and get rejected. My heart sunk in and I felt like the biggest douche because I was going to cheat on my gf (who was really good to me) with a girl who didn't give a rat's ass about me. My gf never found out about it but now we just don't talk due to her flaking on me a lot. Summary: I never treated my gf with the respect she deserved and treated a girl who didn't like me better. Anddd that's why I don't like relationships, I feel tied up.
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