Nathan from Aus
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Post by Nathan from Aus on Mar 3, 2017 11:05:17 GMT -5
Was thinking about how recently i've been getting by tough with alot going on and stuff, was wondering what you guys felt was your lowest point and i would like to know what helped get you through this period?
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Post by Kyle on Mar 3, 2017 12:49:04 GMT -5
My lowest point was when I got laid off from a well paying job 2 weeks before Christmas when I was 22 years old. I was down, man. Depressed is a fair word (being in a crappy relationship didn't help either). It took me 3 months to get back on my feet. I kept myself busy. I like to hunt so I stayed in the woods most days. Of course, I'm going to eat whatever I kill so I ended up learning how to cook. Became quite a passion. Deer, geese, duck, I learned what's good and what aint. It kept me busy in between job hunts and didn't cost me much money. That's my advice to anyway in a low point- stay busy and don't feel sorry for yourself. Pity parties only make your situation worse, especially when you start inviting others.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 3, 2017 15:21:02 GMT -5
The day i started posting on here
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Post by Deleted on Mar 3, 2017 15:24:44 GMT -5
The day i started posting on here  You and me both buddy. |
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Post by Stuart? on Mar 3, 2017 16:05:46 GMT -5
Not so much a 'point' as it was a period in my life... I was super down from August to around November of last year. Things just weren't going my way. I nearly failed my AS exams and just got back into school on the condition that I resit them this summer, I had little interest in the things I used to really enjoy doing (Pic Fedding and playing guitar are two of my favourite hobbies and I had almost 0 interest in doing either), I got turned down asking out the girl I had really liked since the year before, I wasn't really eating much, my parents and I were constantly arguing and I had no clue what I wanted to do with my life, then to cap it all off my parents got divorced in October and my dad was pretty much kicked out of our house.
I'm doing a lot better now. I'm back doing the things I love, I've started playing basketball again for the first time in about two years, I'm planning on studying Biology at University and have offers back from everywhere I've applied to and I'm doing better at school now that I actually have a goal to work towards of meeting my offers and getting into Uni and both of my parents seem better off without one another. It just wasn't meant to be for them in the long run.
Talking it out with my closest friend was the best thing I could have done at that point, he's been through a lot worse in his life so he gets what it's like to be down. Getting things off of your chest and talking it out with someone you trust and can confide in is the best advice I can give you if your feeling down. If there's no one like that in your life, then there are tons of phone numbers you can call just to talk to someone. They don't know you so they aren't going to judge you for whatever situation you're dealing with. It's just good to clear your mind and talk about things. Really puts it all into perspective and helps you overcome the difficulties in your life.
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Post by hbkbigdaddycool on Mar 3, 2017 16:08:14 GMT -5
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Post by Kollector_Kombat on Mar 3, 2017 16:14:13 GMT -5
I've had a few my man. Right now I'm going through it. My Mom and Uncle are looking bad health wise, I'm a wreck. I can't focus and I'm pretty damn stressed. Starting to have panic attacks again. I've been super irritable and kinda being short with others. My health is in a constant cycle of different illnesses because APPARENTLY depression can really take a toll on your body. Sorry for venting. I really needed that and I didn't want to pass on the opportunity. Thanks.
As for helping you or giving you advice what're you going through my brotha? It does help/release stress even just to talk about it.
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Post by The Real Valbroski on Mar 3, 2017 19:33:10 GMT -5
Age 18 was a really rough year for me. I just had crippling insecurity. All I wanted to do is drink and smoke. I was in college but had no long term goals or ambition to achieve anything so I did pretty crappy and only just slid by and didn't really retain anything. Then after working my dead end job for a few years I decided to go back and I managed to get into my field a month after graduating school. Now I'm leaving that job for another higher paying job, all in the span of 2 months of being out of school. So things got better and now I feel pretty good and driven to continuing doing better. And I'm only 23 so I still have a lot of time to grow and get better in general.
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Post by Mongo Bears on Mar 3, 2017 23:43:40 GMT -5
I'm almost 39 and i would have to say my worst time was 8th-10th grade.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2017 2:13:50 GMT -5
I've had a few my man. Right now I'm going through it. My Mom and Uncle are looking bad health wise, I'm a wreck. I can't focus and I'm pretty damn stressed. Starting to have panic attacks again. I've been super irritable and kinda being short with others. My health is in a constant cycle of different illnesses because APPARENTLY depression can really take a toll on your body. Sorry for venting. I really needed that and I didn't want to pass on the opportunity. Thanks. As for helping you or giving you advice what're you going through my brotha? It does help/release stress even just to talk about it. Sorry to hear that broham. You're one of my fave dudes here and I'm bummed to hear that eh. Hope things turn around for you soon. ... As for me, probably when: - My brother had a workplace accident and lost most of the fingers on his right hand (2006) - My mother's passing from pancreatic cancer in 2011 - My first car accident (T-bone) in late January this year  |
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Post by AxelSmackdown on Mar 4, 2017 6:31:06 GMT -5
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Post by ¡Twist Of 45 and 47! on Mar 4, 2017 10:14:19 GMT -5
One simple word: miscarriage. Back in 2009 is when it happened. Not too many people knew but it played havoc on the both of us, which lead to her moving out for a week to get herself back in the right frame of mind.
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Post by Grumpyoldman on Mar 4, 2017 10:56:49 GMT -5
I'm both manic depressive & bi-polar. Right now, I have 2 jobs that both cut my hours. Then my rent got raised to $900 a month. This year will probably be one of the most stressful ones so far. I'm seriously thinking of selling my stuff & moving somewhere cheap. New Jersey is an overpriced hellhole.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Mar 4, 2017 11:26:43 GMT -5
Lost the love of my life and my job in the same month. Been feeling depressed ever since. My best friend is getting married in two months which gives me something to look forward to. Best advice, just do what you like and stick to your daily routine if you have one. Yes, you will still be bothered by what's making you feel low and it will hurt like hell, but doing even the simplest things can ease the pain.
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Post by ET had AIDS on Mar 4, 2017 13:24:24 GMT -5
a couple that I can't really put in any order. they all hurt to this day still...and some of these things are occurring daily, or have occurred within the last 12month period (likely sooner--or more like 6months)....so they're fresher than others. no reason to put them in order. being in and out of rehab multiple times for addiction problems. Jan 2015 I entered and stayed close to 28 days. my last official time spent in rehab, but i wasted the rest of that year, even if I was clean for about 9 months of it. horrible time in my life. getting arrested back in 2011 almost right after moving into a new apartment/signing a yr long lease with someone who I was on the rocks with. finding out she was pregnant and then miscarried kinda  ed with me, too, but the whole thing was ed from day #1. that was a low point but it has been a lot worse in times since then... losing my brother to Catholic Charities and having them write my family up with lie after lie in their report based on crapto cover their own ass (but the hurt comes from not being able to see my brother thru this process, who i have never gone this long without being able to see). it has been 90+ days since i have seen him. he has down's syndrome and upon turning 18, some craphappened, and without anyone having been his guardian at the time, he was snatched in his sleep and has been sitting ignorantly blissful in a hospital for over 90 days. catholicism, and dcfs/catholic charities. I've watched them ruin my mother & father's lives (I am the oldest of 3, my bro w/ down's the youngest, at 18--we're all older...my middle brother is 25 to put it into perspective). overdosing after getting out of rehab in 2015. i forgot about that but the very night I came home, I admittedly tried to kill myself. i started going down and had to have my mom help keep me up or there is no doubt in my mind i don't wake up from that accident or whatever. I did manage to stay clean for 7-9 months after that though. it got a little better. being on seroquel. hell drug. addiction as a whole. losing friends, losing teeth, losing time. losing years. blackout years i call them. more time spent high than time spent aware and lucid. the best days high are still shittier than the worst days when i've been able to maintain sobriety... chasing dragons gets really old, and the things you will resort to at times can be really horrible. don't with hard drugs, kiddos. still trying to win the war there. still losing, and i guess that's a perpetual low-point to be honest. anything i write here has some relation to drug use preceding whatever came next. it ruins lives. |
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Post by ET had AIDS on Mar 4, 2017 13:26:37 GMT -5
One simple word: miscarriage. Back in 2009 is when it happened. Not too many people knew but it played havoc on the both of us, which lead to her moving out for a week to get herself back in the right frame of mind. Yeah, having dealt with this on two separate occasions with two separate women, I know how much this can effect a relationship.... no fun at all. |
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Post by Hitman Bono on Mar 4, 2017 13:31:51 GMT -5
Oh, this is simple. I was going to college in a city 4 hours away from home, so a few times during the semester I'd drive back home. On one of the return trips home I was at a party and heard a song that I kinda liked. So I ask someone the name of the song/artist and before I drive back to college, pick up the CD....  It wasn't until halfway through the album that I had realized what I'd done. Really, I spent 2 years in therapy (2014-16) and it's literally my only regret. Any other bad decision or mean thing I've ever done I can shrug off and say, "Well, if I hadn't had done it then, it'd had done it twice as bad by now.". But not that sh t. So to sum up, my lowest point in life was the day that I thought it was appropriate to buy a Maroon 5 CD. |
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Post by Truth HuRts on Mar 4, 2017 22:28:48 GMT -5
When both my dogs died
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Nathan from Aus
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Post by Nathan from Aus on Mar 4, 2017 22:48:01 GMT -5
I've had a few my man. Right now I'm going through it. My Mom and Uncle are looking bad health wise, I'm a wreck. I can't focus and I'm pretty damn stressed. Starting to have panic attacks again. I've been super irritable and kinda being short with others. My health is in a constant cycle of different illnesses because APPARENTLY depression can really take a toll on your body. Sorry for venting. I really needed that and I didn't want to pass on the opportunity. Thanks. As for helping you or giving you advice what're you going through my brotha? It does help/release stress even just to talk about it. Terrible to hear, if you ever need to chat i'm here dude. Work and career wise i have a very messy situation, relationship is in complete disarray, health of family members declining. It sucks and that's life, bad times don't last forever and i've gotta work on my positives |
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Post by Nathan from Aus on Mar 4, 2017 22:53:55 GMT -5
a couple that I can't really put in any order. they all hurt to this day still...and some of these things are occurring daily, or have occurred within the last 12month period (likely sooner--or more like 6months)....so they're fresher than others. no reason to put them in order. being in and out of rehab multiple times for addiction problems. Jan 2015 I entered and stayed close to 28 days. my last official time spent in rehab, but i wasted the rest of that year, even if I was clean for about 9 months of it. horrible time in my life. getting arrested back in 2011 almost right after moving into a new apartment/signing a yr long lease with someone who I was on the rocks with. finding out she was pregnant and then miscarried kinda ed with me, too, but the whole thing was ed from day #1. that was a low point but it has been a lot worse in times since then... losing my brother to Catholic Charities and having them write my family up with lie after lie in their report based on crap to cover their own ass (but the hurt comes from not being able to see my brother thru this process, who i have never gone this long without being able to see). it has been 90+ days since i have seen him. he has down's syndrome and upon turning 18, some crap happened, and without anyone having been his guardian at the time, he was snatched in his sleep and has been sitting ignorantly blissful in a hospital for over 90 days. catholicism, and dcfs/catholic charities. I've watched them ruin my mother & father's lives (I am the oldest of 3, my bro w/ down's the youngest, at 18--we're all older...my middle brother is 25 to put it into perspective). overdosing after getting out of rehab in 2015. i forgot about that but the very night I came home, I admittedly tried to kill myself. i started going down and had to have my mom help keep me up or there is no doubt in my mind i don't wake up from that accident or whatever. I did manage to stay clean for 7-9 months after that though. it got a little better. being on seroquel. hell drug. addiction as a whole. losing friends, losing teeth, losing time. losing years. blackout years i call them. more time spent high than time spent aware and lucid. the best days high are still craptier than the worst days when i've been able to maintain sobriety... chasing dragons gets really old, and the things you will resort to at times can be really horrible. don't with hard drugs, kiddos. still trying to win the war there. still losing, and i guess that's a perpetual low-point to be honest. anything i write here has some relation to drug use preceding whatever came next. it ruins lives. Wow. You're a strong individual to have gone through so much. Hopefully things turn for you, that's horrible dude, here if you ever need anything! |
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