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Post by βππ£π ππ ππππ on Aug 3, 2021 14:17:04 GMT -5
I think it varies by individual and relationship. different dynamics work for different people, I donβt think itβs cut and dry. Very much this. I am very goal-oriented, decisive and driven. I worked full-time all the way through earning my Bachelor's degree and I have an idea of what I want and don't want out of my work life. My partner would almost never make a suggestion about my career. My partner is not so career-oriented or driven. He didn't attend college and has only ever had one retail job. We are both still young but he does not make a big stride to set up his future. I'm someone who is always trying to guide him to find what he wants to do, giving him advice on how to handle things at work, and always running career paths or education by him. This isn't agreed upon by either of us. Its just the dynamic between us. I can only imagine a lot of others are the same way. I would say that the best way around this discussion would be to just waive expectations. Don't approach this as a 'career' talk because it can quickly become about bread winning, finances, work-life balance, etc., and someone will quickly become defensive or bent out of shape. Approach it from a 'values' talk. Get on the same page about goals that do not revolve around work directly. Maybe a goal could be to get out of debt, or afford a new home. These revolve around work and finances but they are much easier to put into words rather than making the discussion immediately about my job; or your job; or what I shouldn't do; or what you shouldn't do.
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figdrip
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Post by figdrip on Aug 3, 2021 14:54:40 GMT -5
Depends on salary and how much time would get taken away from the relationship. Then either find a balance or choose a side
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