Getting older and accepting things

there is nothing stopping you from living old school, of course you get a bit sad, realise this is because you had a great youth then!?

I defend and uphold old school wrestling and pop culture but I do not try and even compare it or push it on people.

Too many friends=too many problems!

Forgive people but do not forget, meaning do not seek them or await apologies from them.

Never let go of who you are, stop wanting to control other people and their feelings, just take care of yourself.

also you will always have us!!!!! (and rasslin' and toys)

some days are shit, most of the time it is our perspective.

it isn’t easy by any means. I’ve had a great life in some ways, but there’s some things that have alluded me and I haven’t gotten out unscathed.

realizing that time ends for some opportunities is making me able to concentrate and capitalize more on the opportunities that can still be made. so, at the least, let’s learn from our losses instead of dwelling.

I used to reminisce a lot in my early twenties about the past, mostly because I was unfulfilled in my current life and the past was more fun and eventful than the present. Once I changed course and started actually doing stuff with my life I was able to let that go. I could look back on the past and enjoy the memories without yearning for them because where I was at and where I'm going was far better, I was enjoying the present, living in the now and living my life to the fullest and still am. Now I'm all about looking forwards while enjoying the memories without living there. If you do it without thinking and keep looking forwards instead of backwards, before too long you'll have racked up a collection of new memories that you can look back fondly on and say "Wow I did all that, this life is pretty damn good."

Obviously I'm not saying that's what you're going through, just sharing my experience with it in the chance that it can help.

I am not sure what has happened to you in life but I can tell you there is nothing wrong with absolutely blocking people out of your life and moving on if they have wronged you or you don't feel the connection to them you once did. I have done this with both friends and in relationships and been criticized by those people but I could care less. As long as you're not actively, aggressively begrudging someone and can let it go, it is your choice and there is nothing wrong with it. Moving on is a great solution and you have no obligation to anyone out there.

Nostalgia is a hell of a drug, though. Listening to Super Nintendo and Sega Genesis music, even some just old 70's and 80's and 90's rock or radio tunes puts me back to 30 years ago in no time. The reality is, the times were simpler but they perhaps weren't as comfortable as you remember them. I know for sure I wouldn't want to relive my teenage years over again. Accepting these kinds of things makes life as an adult who can make your own decisions that much sweeter.



You can 100% avoid this by tuning out. Don't be fooled by companies selling things and the machine wanting you to 'consume content' (I hate and have always hated the term 'content' and I hate that it's mainstreamed to the point that 'fans' of things use it as if it's ok). Just as an example I feel personal relief every time something from Marvel comes out because I just don't have any interest at all. I can't imagine being a huge Marvel fan this day and age, I grew up enjoying that stuff like everyone else as a kid and young adult but I have basically disliked and/or hated every Marvel movie since the first Iron Man yet I still hop in with curiosity here and there. That said, I know for certain I don't like what Marvel is and think it's insanely overrated based on personal taste so it's a huge chunk of time I get back in my life having no worries about missing the next AntMan or Thor or whatever.

I get what you're saying though, the ease of access to so much so often can be extremely overwhelming and feel like things are without any rhyme or reason or even real excitement. You have to kind of consistently just like what you like and be ok with it, with respect to your personal tastes, and get over when things are dumb or aren't as cool as they used to be. Not to take it back to movies (I was a film major so it's a huge part of my mindset still) but I am a huge Ghostbusters fan and pretty much thought Frozen Empire was a bad movie and not at all what I hoped for, but I look on the bright side. It's an absolute miracle the movie exists in the way that it does so I take comfort and that and ultimately enjoy it more even though I think it's poor quality if I really dive deep. Sometimes you just have to let go of your need for things to be better.

Same with wrestling...I haven't enjoyed/agreed with it for years and years even after training, what I see on screen and at shows hasn't connected with me and I just haven't felt it's moving in a direction for the better despite the thousands of podcasts and programs and people acting like it has on a daily basis, so I just simply haven't been watching...it has given me more time to focus on things I still like or liked even more like baseball, another hobby, etc. It's ok to change your tastes and let things go to have meaning with stuff you notice you still really like.

Books, music, movies, TV, comics, playing outside, all this fun stuff isn't going anywhere, there are tons and tons of options and you have no obligation to any of them you don't want to no matter what aggressive streaming services or spotify or whatever say. Picking and choosing has consistently helped me avoid crazy nostalgia holes...and then you can just revisit things when you feel like it.

Also I am not sure if you are a (legal) weed smoker but I would suggest avoiding this as well because that just takes any nostalgia trap you have that might be the size of a donut and turns it into the size of a crater. At least if you do, know what you're getting yourself into. Otherwise, skip it!

I just find that there is nothing that really excites me anymore because nothing feels like it has any weight to it. I can buy something, be happy for 5 minutes, and then that fun is over. Where as a kid, getting something new was fun for hours, days, weeks even. It just annoys me that I don't feel anything towards the things that used to bring me joy. Like an episode of RAW, used to be the highlight of my week, now it takes me from "depressed" to "content" for 3 hours and that's it. 
  
The only thing that kind of gives me that rush still is sports, watching my favorite team and all that, but even then, the coming down from that high for a couple of hours almost makes it worse. So I just tend to cling to the few nostalgic things that doesn't make me feel like crap. 
  
As for weed, never tried it, no intention to. I don't drink, smoke or do drugs. I prefer to suffer through life raw.

Better late than never! And just remember when you make it that captainhero on Wfigs believed in you