I am going to be a Father

Congrats dude.

Congrats bro. I remember when my ex-wife told me that I was going to be a father. After the shock wore-off, I was pretty happy. Being a father was the best time of my life.

Start saving your money. Diapers, formula, and baby clothes are really expensive. Prepare yourself for lots of expenses.

Women when they are pregnant, have lots of mood swings. One second they'll be fine, and the next second she'll be upset or depressed. Just support her as much as you can and go to all of the doctor appointments. In the appointments, be sure to ask lots of questions regarding the pregnancy. It will show that you care and that you want to be involved every step of the way. The further along she gets in the pregnancy, the worse your girl is going to feel. It's best to give her massages and rub her feet too. She is carrying your baby after all.

Just be prepared to lose a lot of sleep. Babies wake-up at all hours of the day and night. My daughter would always wake-up at 3 am on the dot. I always had a bottle ready for her when she woke up. She would drink her bottle and fall back to sleep.

Start child-proofing your place as soon as possible. Kids get into everything. It's always best to minimize as many hazards as you can.

Changing diapers is a challenge. I had a hard time changing diapers because the smell would really get to me. I had to have one of those cologne sample tubes in my pocket at all times. When I had to change the diaper, I would put some cologne on my finger tips and then put cologne around the opening of my nostrils.

Another thing, putting the car seat in is going to be a pain in the ass. Just be real patient and eventually you'll get it.

Last thing. Love your child with all your heart and soul. Protect them and please always be there for them even if for some reason you and your girl don't stay together. Kids need both parents in their lives. I know you're probably scared right now which is a natural thing. The fear will pass and love for your child will replace it.


Good luck with everything, my friend. If you need some advice or need to ask questions, you can always PM me. I will do my best to help you out. Peace.

1. Don't worry about people telling you that you need to get married. Times have changed, and that's not nearly as big of a thing as it once was. If you guys aren't ready to get married, then you're not ready. Leave it at that.

2. You wait on that woman hand and foot once she gets ready to pop. I'd say that the last 2+ months of her pregnancy she should not have to lift a finger for anything[/].

3. I'm not going to lie, parenting is hard, but it's not as hard as most people want expecting parents to believe. For some reason, more seasoned parents like to scare the crapout of soon to be first time parents. Just pray that you don't have one of those kids who cries non-stop. Then it will be horrible.

4. DO NOT hold you child constantly. If you do, then you will have one of those non-stop cries that I mentioned above.

4. Definitely find out the sex of the baby as soon as you can. Many people are against this, but it's better to know so you can fully prepare for the baby (buying clothes, decorating the nursery if you have room for one, etc.).

5. DO NOT give your kid a stupid ass name. Being unique and original is fine, but you must remember that there is a very fine line between unique and creative and worst name ever. Kids can be unspeakable evil, and they will give your child an unbelievably hard time if it's name is too far out there.


That's all I can think of for now, but if you have any more questions please feel free to PM. I'm not parenting expert, but I feel I've done a great job and I'd love to give you -- or any other expecting parent -- all the help that I can.

Agreed. Seriously, there's no shame in being unmarried parents, don't let your families pressure you into it. It is way worse to get married just because she's preggers. Just ask my mom and dad....

Damn. You're only 20. Babies having babies.

One big thing I've learned from being a dad is you cant just get up and go anymore. You'll need to make sure the babies dry, that you got food, diapers, wipes, and all that fun stuff. Anywayz Congrats. Oh and get ready for a few sleepless nights. Thank God I was working thirds then. ;D

I was 19 when my daughter was born. Granted it was only a month before my 20th birthday but still...

Awesome. You must be excited. I hope to be a father someday, Maybe when im in my mid 20's.

Abort the fetus and then you can play one of my favorite holiday games aborted fetus bowling!!