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Post by 67jinky67 on Jan 7, 2010 7:12:15 GMT -5
I slightly get it.I'm usually relativley loud when i'm with my freinds,but when I get in front of people i get alot more quiet.
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Post by bobsfedder on Jan 7, 2010 7:36:33 GMT -5
No not really it's easy to talk in front of a small group, but when it comes to playing sports I used to have performance anxiety and my mind would go nuts and I wouldn't be able to do anything during the game. Like dropping the easy-ist pass in the world because I was nervous. I got over it though. I used some tips from art-of-manliness.
Sounds like you have a common case of performance anxiety. It happens to best professional athletes, singers, actors, business people, etc. Here's an except from a study done back in the 80's about performance anxiety:
Five causal elements were found to be present in the experience of performance anxiety:
(1) I perceive or imagine the presence of significant others who are able to judge me.
One possible solution to performance anxiety could be that of reducing the significance of the other person(s). While experiencing performance anxiety, we often invest the others with imagined power, especially in their ability to affect us through their evaluation of our performance. Ways to reduce this imagined power is to increase the sense of one’s own power, to perceive the vulnerability of others and to accept oneself.
(2) I consider the possibility of my visible failure at a task.
Another possible solution to performance anxiety would be to eliminate the imagination of negative possibilities. A negative outcome is always possible, but that does not justify worrying about it before it occurs. Focusing one’s attention on the present, rather than the future, is much more productive. A way to do this is monitoring our own performance.
(3) I feel a need to do well to avoid failure.
A third solution to performance anxiety is holding the performance in perspective by seeing its outcome as insignificant in relation to the totality of one’s life. By realizing that nothing catastrophic is likely to occur, the need to avoid failure may decrease and switch to a more positive goal. An example of a positive goal would be to provide others with pleasure. Furthermore, it is helpful to focus on the process, the moment-to-moment experience, rather than the results of a performance. Additionally, it is important to concentrate on the enjoyable aspect of the process.
(4) I feel uncertain as to whether I will do well.
Uncertainty plays a major role in experiencing anxiety. It could be helpful to keep in mind that one cannot control other’s reactions or judgments, but only one’s own performance.
(5) I focus on my own behavior and appearance.
An important component of performance anxiety is an acute awareness of one’s own behavior and/or appearance. When experiencing performance anxiety, one focuses one’s attention on the visible appearance of the performance. A possible way of reducing performance anxiety would be to increase one’s awareness of others, without considering them as judges.
In summary, optimal strategies of coping with performance anxiety include “focusing on process rather than results, the moment of experience rather than the future, positive approach goals rather than negative avoidance goals, and self-acceptance rather than self doubt”.
Bottom line: you just need to relax. When you're out on the playing field under the lights, imagine you're out with your buds just goofing around because if you look at it, that's what you're really doing. Having some fun playing a game with a lot of your good friends (teammates).
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Post by mickieishot06 on Jan 7, 2010 10:18:33 GMT -5
I remember back in Elementary school, I got the Lead Role in My School play. I wasn't nervous until opening night. Having over 400 People look at you in an Auditorium was scary. I felt like If i messed up then everyone messed up. But I made it through and Well Not really nervous as much. Gotta work on that! lol
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Post by WFK on Jan 7, 2010 14:53:38 GMT -5
I've never really done it but I think I'd have an easier time in front of a large group of people than a smaller classroom. I've always, always hated giving presentations in class and hate being the center of attention for things. I'm actually just like that. I was in chorus back in middle and high school and had no problem but any time I would have to give a presentation or something I would just lock up. It sucked.
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Post by ahunter8056 on Jan 7, 2010 15:00:27 GMT -5
I have always had really bad stage fright and I especially hate doing projects in school because of having to go up in front of people.
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Post by LeighD on Jan 7, 2010 15:05:25 GMT -5
I do, but (i dont mean to sound egotistical here) i have really good comedic timing, so if i start off by saying a joke or something, i get really relaxed and can usaully go no problem. Yeah I love making people laugh. I could happily say something funny in front of large groups of people. I would love to be a stand up comedian, just I suck at being funny. No I don't get stage fright. Th eonly time I'd ever be nerviou sis if I was in front a large group and talking about something I know nothing about. But I will say this, I used to get the BIGGEST freakin' knot in my stomach on race days during track and cross-country, and even wrestlign once in a while. Especially in the sprint races! Man, once we're in position waiting for the gun to fire, my stomach knots right up!
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Post by StingerSplash on Jan 7, 2010 20:01:15 GMT -5
In front of large audiences I have no problem. I've performed in front of people since I was kid. I play guitar in a band at a church of 300+ every Sunday, and I also play guitar and sing at other events and I've never had a problem. However, for whatever strange reason, I feel anxiety when I'm speaking in front of just a small group like a class.
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Post by Johnny on Jan 7, 2010 21:51:52 GMT -5
I have bad anxiety, so, yeah Same here. I always think people are talking about me or making fun of me. I absolutely hate giving speeches in class.
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Post by Jean-Ralphio on Jan 7, 2010 21:53:34 GMT -5
I thought this was about peeing in public, which I get when I am at the Celtics games
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Post by k5 on Jan 7, 2010 23:24:43 GMT -5
definetly, but i usually focus on my performance and 'believe i am what i want them to see'. works out okay.
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Post by captain master talbot on Jan 9, 2010 19:07:38 GMT -5
I do fine with public speaking. It's just a matter of knowing what you're talking about.
Also, I tend to find you do MUCH, MUCH better if you go earlier, because chances are people won't care about your speech as much, since they are focusing on their own speech. So I always try to go early.
Just don't be nervous, you're talking to a bunch of people, not making a life changing decision.
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Post by The Lion's Den on Jan 10, 2010 1:20:29 GMT -5
I love talking in front of people, infact it bothers me so much that at university in my 3 and a half years I've only done two presentations. The art of presenting is so key and to me a lot of fun. I've had lots of jobs and experineces where I've had to talk to groups of 30-40 and that's really good. I find it more intimate than 400 people.
My advice is to come organized if you're giving a speech or presentation. As for theatre, know your lines, believe in them, be confident. Go out with the mindset that it will be over soon and the only task at hand is getting through it. It will all be over soon enough right?
Deep breaths.
Oh and...
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Post by DKR on Jan 10, 2010 12:32:56 GMT -5
Only the first couple times, with all the lights and people watching. Plus I was worried that I would...you know, "finish" to soon. But now, I can just drop my drawers and go to work.
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