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Post by Thick Justice on Feb 25, 2012 1:03:03 GMT -5
Just try and be there for her. If she calls you out on it don't deny it but say you felt that way before she broke up but didn't want to do anything as I thought you were happy with him.
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Taz
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Post by Taz on Feb 25, 2012 8:48:53 GMT -5
You seem like a very kind person, I would ask her out, but what exactly does alopecia effect? Sorry for my lack of knowledge.
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Post by Hulkamaniac on Feb 25, 2012 11:04:56 GMT -5
I think you should contact her and see if she wants to hang out. People on here talk about the friend zone and yadda yadda yadda, but unless you're hooking up with bar skanks and having one night stands, there isn't a way to get in a romantic or sexual situation with somebody who you aren't friends with first. Life isn't like that American Dad Episode where Stan just walked up to a girl in a club and yelled 'INTERCOURSE' at her. You have to be friends with somebody first. And spilling you're guts to a girl and letting her know you like her before you are really close friends just makes you come off as creepy. Don't listen to the people on here about the "Friend Zone". Yeah it happens, but that is what girls do to guys who they aren't interested in at all. If you two are meant to be, it'll happen after you're friends. If not, it wasn't meant to be, but you got a close friend out of it. Good luck man. I dunno man. The friend zone is a crappy, crappy place to be. You're stuck listening to her bitch and moan about her relationships and all you want to do is be more than just a friend, but you can't because it would be weird. Next thing you know, she's inviting you to her wedding. Been there, done that, got that tshirt. Then you cry and play "You don't know me" over and over again. |
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Post by pxkgotosleep on Feb 25, 2012 11:49:48 GMT -5
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Post by Epic Z on Feb 25, 2012 12:17:43 GMT -5
First of all I don't know many guys who would date a girl with such a serious condition considering you might have to take care of her..kudos to you for that. You seem like a stand up guy.
If you REALLY do like this girl (which it seems like you do) i'd say just go for it. Tell her how you feel. What do you have to lose besides her saying she wants to just be friends? Sure it might be awkward for a little bit but it'll get back to normal. Trust me. It's happened to me countless times. Plus it's worked for me twice.
Best of luck bro! Keep us updated.
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Post by JCF on Feb 26, 2012 0:11:10 GMT -5
You seem like a very kind person, I would ask her out, but what exactly does alopecia effect? Sorry for my lack of knowledge. Has to do with the white blood cells. She already has half the hair on her head gone (in the back). It's possible all her hair will be gone, eventually. Hopefully not, but... it can happen. Thanks for all the replies though guys. I figured out what I'm going to do. For now, I messaged her. I told her to be strong, and all that stuff. I think I'll let it be at this time. Let her have her own time and space to recover from all this trouble. If in a few weeks, I see her still the same, I'll step in and ask her if she'd care for a night out. I don't want to rush into this, and make it seems like I waited for an incident to occur. For now, we're friends. Perhaps, she'll take me up on my offer and we can go out one night sometime soon. Also, at this time, I'm in the best shape of my life. I recently lost 55 + pounds and look really good (what people tell me). I feel amazing too and look presentable enough to go out with someone now. I used to be a slob... no more. She digs I go to the gym and all that fun stuff. Perhaps... we can make this work. |
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Post by JCF on Feb 26, 2012 0:12:45 GMT -5
First of all I don't know many guys who would date a girl with such a serious condition considering you might have to take care of her..kudos to you for that. You seem like a stand up guy. If you REALLY do like this girl (which it seems like you do) i'd say just go for it. Tell her how you feel. What do you have to lose besides her saying she wants to just be friends? Sure it might be awkward for a little bit but it'll get back to normal. Trust me. It's happened to me countless times. Plus it's worked for me twice. Best of luck bro! Keep us updated. Z, that was heartwarming to hear. Thanks so much. I will keep your advice very close to my mind. |
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Post by Jesseversion1 on Feb 26, 2012 5:26:26 GMT -5
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