Joe Magnet
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Jan 23, 2013 17:30:28 GMT -5
Post by Joe Magnet on Jan 23, 2013 17:30:28 GMT -5
Okay, first off, I'm 14. Yeah, i know. just hear me out. So there's this girl, who i am 'in love' with. Again, just listen. So, i like to look at girls, not by their imperfections, but by all of the good things about them. However, as we all know, this is not the same case with women. Anyways, this girl went through a ton of crap (i.e: Step-Father raping her; half her family committing suicide; she cuts herself; etc,). At the end of December, her (ex.) boyfriend broke up with her. she was HEARTBROKEN. She kept telling me how he was perfect and how he was the only thing that made her happy. I tried to cheer her up, and unfortunately, i didn't. Now, nearly a month later..here she is, still not over her ex. BUT, she wont listen to anything i say. She knows she has to get over him, but its gonna take time. I know. But she says she isn't good enough for anyone. which isn't true, because she is good enough for me. And whenever i tell her that she is, she disagrees, and gets angry. Now, I really like this girl. But she doesn't want anyone. i mean, ANYONE. she claims to give up love for the rest of her life. What can I do?
BTW, sorry for the long post. I just had to tell somebody.
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Jan 23, 2013 17:40:12 GMT -5
Post by Jacob on Jan 23, 2013 17:40:12 GMT -5
Honestly, and you're not gonna like this, but there isn't really anything you can do at the moment.
You just need to be there for her as a friend and help her get through what's she's going through and if there is a chance of anything happening between the two of you, it will happen naturally.
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Jan 23, 2013 17:40:34 GMT -5
Post by MizTV on Jan 23, 2013 17:40:34 GMT -5
I'm going through something very similar I would like to hear answers to
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Joe Magnet
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Jan 23, 2013 17:44:37 GMT -5
Post by Joe Magnet on Jan 23, 2013 17:44:37 GMT -5
I would normally laugh at that Juice, but im not really in the mood. sorry. But thanks Slash. i really like this girl. and i dont want her to be sad, but i really want her to get over her ex. Thats probably the only way she'll think about love again.
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Jan 23, 2013 17:51:40 GMT -5
Post by AlexWestCollects on Jan 23, 2013 17:51:40 GMT -5
Bro ur young. Don't waste ur time chasing something that's not there.
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Jan 23, 2013 17:54:36 GMT -5
Post by /X Metal Sorenges x "Mac Oh J~ on Jan 23, 2013 17:54:36 GMT -5
Find out here deepest desire's that will truly make her happy. Good luck with that. The wisest and most honorable decision you can really do is following Slash's advice, I understand you want to do you best to help her but it's something that time will have to mend unfortunately. This is why I hate reality for this reason and it's pitiful chain of lies and torment makes everything worse. But that's my alter ego talking, don't lose any sleep over it.
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Joe Magnet
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Jan 23, 2013 17:57:37 GMT -5
Post by Joe Magnet on Jan 23, 2013 17:57:37 GMT -5
Find out here deepest desire's that will truly make here happy. Good luck with that. The wisest and most honorable decision you can really do is follow Slash's advice, I understand you want to do you best to help her but it's something that time will hopefully mend. Thanks dude.
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Jan 23, 2013 17:58:35 GMT -5
Post by Joe Magnet on Jan 23, 2013 17:58:35 GMT -5
Bro ur young. Don't waste ur time chasing something that's not there. Well, i feel something is there. I just dont know what.
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Jan 23, 2013 18:00:55 GMT -5
Post by MacReady on Jan 23, 2013 18:00:55 GMT -5
You're 14, you don't know the first thing about love or relationships. You don't love her. You'll realize that in about a week when she "falls in love" with someone else and you "fall in love".....
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Jan 23, 2013 18:03:44 GMT -5
Post by Suckasays on Jan 23, 2013 18:03:44 GMT -5
Getting involved with her would be a HUGE mistake right now. She'll only bring you down at this point bud.
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Jan 23, 2013 18:04:09 GMT -5
Post by AlexWestCollects on Jan 23, 2013 18:04:09 GMT -5
Bro ur young. Don't waste ur time chasing something that's not there. Well, i feel something is there. I just dont know what.Girls are weird man. The nicer u are to them the less they want u. Don't be too nice to her, that'll just keep u in the friendzone. Girls alway want what they can't have.
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Jan 23, 2013 18:08:36 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Jan 23, 2013 18:08:36 GMT -5
Well, i feel something is there. I just dont know what. Girls are weird man. The nicer u are to them the less they want u. Don't be too nice to her, that'll just keep u in the friendzone. Girls alway want what they can't have. This advice is only true sometimes! If your a complete ass too a girl, im not sure that will help your chances. The best way is too be nice too her, you dont want too take that risk
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Jan 23, 2013 18:10:59 GMT -5
Post by Joe Magnet on Jan 23, 2013 18:10:59 GMT -5
Well, i feel something is there. I just dont know what. Girls are weird man. The nicer u are to them the less they want u. Don't be too nice to her, that'll just keep u in the friendzone. Girls alway want what they can't have. Thanks for the help dude.
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Jan 23, 2013 18:12:00 GMT -5
Post by TheXtremisT on Jan 23, 2013 18:12:00 GMT -5
You're 14, you don't know the first thing about love or relationships. You don't love her. You'll realize that in about a week when she "falls in love" with someone else and you "fall in love"..... To OP: Given the evidence you have supplied, I agree with this above statement. Now this isn't going to be what you want to hear, but if you talk to older people with experience, you're going to be hearing this a lot. If she isn't replicating feelings for you right now, and she doesn't want a relationship at this stage, then be her friend but don't chase her. Respect her wishes. If she doesn't want a relationship at all, leave her be. One day she will come around, maybe not with you, but this will take time. The best thing you should do is don't persist, be her friend and don't be needy. If you keep pushing for this, you'll drive her away and come off as selfish. If you really care about her as much as you say you do, then you'll leave her be. If not then it isn't love you're experiencing, it's infatuation. Big difference.
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Jan 23, 2013 18:14:13 GMT -5
Post by Joe Magnet on Jan 23, 2013 18:14:13 GMT -5
Getting involved with her would be a HUGE mistake right now. She'll only bring you down at this point bud. So should I just lay back for a couple days?
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Jan 23, 2013 18:32:44 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Jan 23, 2013 18:32:44 GMT -5
you are 14 , you dont know what love is. you just think you do.
hell,im 22 and have never loved anyone (other than family)....and ive had a couple of gf's .....never loved them...just liked them.
alot of people are love "whores", say it way too much and too often...to the point that it dosnt mean anything.
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Jan 23, 2013 18:53:47 GMT -5
Post by CF9™ on Jan 23, 2013 18:53:47 GMT -5
If her family doesn't get her therapy, that's almost neglect.
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Jan 23, 2013 19:13:29 GMT -5
Post by Joe Magnet on Jan 23, 2013 19:13:29 GMT -5
No, they do. But sometimes she has breakdowns about her life. Which i can see why.
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Jan 23, 2013 19:36:56 GMT -5
Post by CM Poor on Jan 23, 2013 19:36:56 GMT -5
I wish I could articulate how much I thought the relationships I found myself in at the age of 14 meant, and in the grand scheme of life, how inconsequential they wound up being.
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Jan 23, 2013 19:38:42 GMT -5
Post by WWEZackRyderFan on Jan 23, 2013 19:38:42 GMT -5
Something similar is happening to me. This girl was a dating a guy. Then she broke up wit him cuz he called her retarted and stupid. Then his bestfirend asked her out (my best friend). and all he (ex) does is tell lies and gossip about her. her mom loves her ex and hates her new one. then i came in the picture and i said dont worry about what other people say about you. they are just jealous and they are trying to tear you down. but im here to help you and bring you up. everday, she tells me whats on her mind and i try to make her happyand she calls me her counseler. just always be there for her and dont force your self into anything you cant get out of. just give her, i guess you could say compliments. just say things that would make her feel good. and TRY to get her mind over it. if this doesnt work just ::RKO:: her. jk
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