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Jan 24, 2013 1:54:26 GMT -5
Post by JCF on Jan 24, 2013 1:54:26 GMT -5
Honestly, stay away. It's only more of a headache for you and it's trouble, and trouble leads into more trouble. I know you'll try and pursue it anyway, but just remember, you're going to live and learn.
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Jan 24, 2013 2:06:58 GMT -5
Post by Guy Incognito on Jan 24, 2013 2:06:58 GMT -5
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Jan 24, 2013 3:29:44 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2013 3:29:44 GMT -5
Buy her some apple juice, works every time.
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Jan 24, 2013 4:01:08 GMT -5
Post by jaymieandrogyny on Jan 24, 2013 4:01:08 GMT -5
You're probably not in love, and you should probably stop thinking about this altogether.
To the people who are all, "You're 14, you can't genuinely love someone, etc etc", yeah that's true for most young teens, but I have a success story to tell. My best friend in elementary school met my sister's best friend and started hanging out regularly when they were 12 years old. They started dating at 13. They're now 26 and still dating. During this whole period of time, they've broken up once (because of conflicting schedules and college and whatever), and that breakup only lasted a month before they both ultimately realized they couldn't be without eachother.
Yeah I know it's totally unheard of, but it's possible.
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Jan 24, 2013 5:00:26 GMT -5
Post by Kasper.ca on Jan 24, 2013 5:00:26 GMT -5
In all honesty, you don't really want to get involved with this girl.
She is probably messed up in a lot of ways due to all those things that have happened to her. I'm not trying to sound cold hearted, but realistic. She has a lot of baggage and it is a LOT to deal with at 14 years old. You're not ready for it.
As a young teenager, EVERYTHING seems like a big deal. You soon realize that it isn't at all.
This girl needs counseling and a support system (family and friends she can trust). She doesn't need another guy trying to date her (or have sex with her), so if you really care for her... just be a friend and help her through rough times.
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Jan 24, 2013 6:19:18 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2013 6:19:18 GMT -5
Stopped reading when you said you were only 14.
No offense.
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Jan 24, 2013 6:41:13 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2013 6:41:13 GMT -5
Cory and Topanga. Enough said.
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Jan 24, 2013 7:04:08 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2013 7:04:08 GMT -5
Cory and Topanga. Enough said. I was always more of a Shawn Hunter.
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Jan 24, 2013 7:14:53 GMT -5
Post by CM Poor on Jan 24, 2013 7:14:53 GMT -5
You're probably not in love, and you should probably stop thinking about this altogether. To the people who are all, "You're 14, you can't genuinely love someone, etc etc", yeah that's true for most young teens, but I have a success story to tell. My best friend in elementary school met my sister's best friend and started hanging out regularly when they were 12 years old. They started dating at 13. They're now 26 and still dating. During this whole period of time, they've broken up once (because of conflicting schedules and college and whatever), and that breakup only lasted a month before they both ultimately realized they couldn't be without eachother. Yeah I know it's totally unheard of, but it's possible. I've had the fortune of knowing a couple pairs of childhood sweethearts who've grown to get married. Sadly, I associate the notion with tragedy, as last year, one of them ended as such. Still nice to know it can happen. The world needs more nice things.
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Jan 24, 2013 8:50:04 GMT -5
Post by Kasper.ca on Jan 24, 2013 8:50:04 GMT -5
I've had the fortune of knowing a couple pairs of childhood sweethearts who've grown to get married. Sadly, I associate the notion with tragedy, as last year, one of them ended as such. Still nice to know it can happen. The world needs more nice things. For the most part though, young "love" that turns into marriage is actually not love at the start. It's more like infatuation and almost obsession because of the hormones, that EVENTUALLY turns into love once they mature and can fully grasp the concept of an emotional and sexual relationship.
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Jan 24, 2013 8:55:09 GMT -5
Post by CM Poor on Jan 24, 2013 8:55:09 GMT -5
I've had the fortune of knowing a couple pairs of childhood sweethearts who've grown to get married. Sadly, I associate the notion with tragedy, as last year, one of them ended as such. Still nice to know it can happen. The world needs more nice things. For the most part though, young "love" that turns into marriage is actually not love at the start. It's more like infatuation and almost obsession because of the hormones, that EVENTUALLY turns into love once they mature and can fully grasp the concept of an emotional and sexual relationship. I'm sorry, I don't buy the notion that children are incapable of love. Love is a multifaceted thing, and I think you, and many others, are getting lost in the translation between romantic love and love. One can develop into another, and vice versa.
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Jan 24, 2013 8:57:06 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2013 8:57:06 GMT -5
Cory and Topanga. Enough said. I was always more of a Shawn Hunter. True dat me amigo.
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Jan 24, 2013 10:31:54 GMT -5
Post by J12 on Jan 24, 2013 10:31:54 GMT -5
I wish I could articulate how much I thought the relationships I found myself in at the age of 14 meant, and in the grand scheme of life, how inconsequential they wound up being. That's the thing. And, at age 14, this is precisely how girls often are when they break up with a boyfriend or whatever. They're inconsolable, often for ridiculous periods of times. By and large, fourteen year olds are loaded with confusing hormones and they all tend to be over dramatic. I don't mean that to knock you, but rather, to suggest that we all go through it. SYE pretty much it the nail on the head there. It seems monumental now, but she (and you) will go through far worse, more serious situations in life. You can certainly use this as a teaching tool for later in life, though. I agree with most others in telling you to just be the friend she needs and see where it goes. She will, almost undoubtedly, snap out of whatever trance she's in. Whether that's to you or someone else, who knows.
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Jan 24, 2013 14:31:37 GMT -5
Post by CM Poor on Jan 24, 2013 14:31:37 GMT -5
Let me build upon what I've already said and J12 ran with - there are times now, at 27, and over the entirety of the past 13 years, where I wish my biggest problems in life were that insignificant no one in middle school not paying me the time of day. There's a whole lot of "if I knew then what I know now".
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Jan 24, 2013 14:45:27 GMT -5
Post by TurboEddie on Jan 24, 2013 14:45:27 GMT -5
You're too young to be involved in any kind of drama, especially related to girls. Trust me, you really don't want it in your life right now. Be a kid, have fun, and work toward creating a bright future for yourself.
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Jan 24, 2013 14:57:13 GMT -5
Post by Ben - #6 Munchie on Jan 24, 2013 14:57:13 GMT -5
Okay, first off, I'm 14. Yeah, i know. just hear me out. So there's this girl, who i am 'in love' with. Again, just listen. So, i like to look at girls, not by their imperfections, but by all of the good things about them. However, as we all know, this is not the same case with women. Anyways, this girl went through a ton of crap (i.e: Step-Father raping her; half her family committing suicide; she cuts herself; etc,). At the end of December, her (ex.) boyfriend broke up with her. she was HEARTBROKEN. She kept telling me how he was perfect and how he was the only thing that made her happy. I tried to cheer her up, and unfortunately, i didn't. Now, nearly a month later..here she is, still not over her ex. BUT, she wont listen to anything i say. She knows she has to get over him, but its gonna take time. I know. But she says she isn't good enough for anyone. which isn't true, because she is good enough for me. And whenever i tell her that she is, she disagrees, and gets angry. Now, I really like this girl. But she doesn't want anyone. i mean, ANYONE. she claims to give up love for the rest of her life. What can I do?BTW, sorry for the long post. I just had to tell somebody. There is not a thing you can do. You can't force her to like you back, trust me. You're wasting your time here unfortunately. If you've done what you have said you've done, then she's just not interested. That's the harsh truth, unfortunately. Try shell-shocking her. Might make her change her mind, worth a shot at this point.
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Jan 24, 2013 18:43:43 GMT -5
Post by Valbroski on Jan 24, 2013 18:43:43 GMT -5
I don't think teenagers should use the word love. I'm 19, 20 in a few months, and still just call it a crush.
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Jan 24, 2013 21:18:36 GMT -5
Post by Yeezy's Mullet: Team X Blades on Jan 24, 2013 21:18:36 GMT -5
I wish I could articulate how much I thought the relationships I found myself in at the age of 14 meant, and in the grand scheme of life, how inconsequential they wound up being. Man, I was thinking the exact same thing. Right now, you're walking a very thin line between being a good person/friend, and being a selfish typical nice guy who thinks he should get the girl in the end. Not saying that to be rude because it shows that you mean well. Like most have said, give it time and one of a few things will happen. 1. She'll come around to you and want to have a "relationship" (which I wouldn't advise). 2.You'll move on and actually be surprised by how quick your feelings for her dissolved. (It's called being 14). 3.You'll remain in the state that you're in and keep being her friend, which at this point, seems like she needs the most.
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Jan 25, 2013 1:54:54 GMT -5
Post by Kasper.ca on Jan 25, 2013 1:54:54 GMT -5
I'm sorry, I don't buy the notion that children are incapable of love. Love is a multifaceted thing, and I think you, and many others, are getting lost in the translation between romantic love and love. One can develop into another, and vice versa. And what kind of love do you think this guy is talking about? He isn't talking about the love a child has for their mom or sibling. He's talking about dating her and everything that goes with "romantic" love. 14 year olds are not emotionally or intellectually capable of dealing with that. If they were, nobody would have a problem with a 40 year old dating a 14 year old.
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Jan 25, 2013 2:12:40 GMT -5
Post by IRS on Jan 25, 2013 2:12:40 GMT -5
Just be a friend, you're 14 there is no need to jump into a relationship with some girl you think you love.
Besides "love" usually just f*cks things up.
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