Atrocitus
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Post by Atrocitus on Jun 4, 2013 9:01:58 GMT -5
So I was in a relationship for 2 and a half years and she just recently broke up with me. It was completely unexpected with no warning at all and I just don't know what to do. We were just talking about how happy we were with how our relationship was going and then this happens. Any advice would help because I just feel so confused.
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Post by Yeezy's Mullet: Team X Blades on Jun 4, 2013 9:58:13 GMT -5
Talk to her. If it was unexpected, then she's the only one you can get answers from.
Now in my honest opinion, if you guys were that happy, there may have been someone else. The only thing I've ever seen to suddenly break up a happy relationship is another person.
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Post by Sam on Jun 4, 2013 10:00:17 GMT -5
Yeah, best thing to do is talk to her. Only way you will know why she did break up with you is asking her.
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Post by sean™ on Jun 4, 2013 10:07:41 GMT -5
Might I suggest a journal or blog as well?
Sometimes it's not a matter of getting it out to someone, but getting it out in general. I don't disagree with talking to her, especially if you're not sure why it ended either. Clarity is always key.
But most of all, don't be afraid to cut your loses. That may sound harsh, but it helps.
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Post by Billy F'N Shogunn on Jun 4, 2013 10:21:59 GMT -5
Might I suggest a journal or blog as well? Sometimes it's not a matter of getting it out to someone, but getting it out in general. I don't disagree with talking to her, especially if you're not sure why it ended either. Clarity is always key. But most of all, don't be afraid to cut your loses. That may sound harsh, but it helps. i'd go with this. try talking to her, but if she's unreceptive, let it go. maybe it's not gonna last forever, the break that is. Leave it open as a possibility but don't pressure her. She could always come back. Maybe she has some really personal stuff going on and might not want to talk to you about it out of fear of embarassment or fear that you might not accept it. Not to say that you wouldn't accept it, but speaking from experience, when you have a lot on your mind it's very easy to just shut everyone out, even the ones you trust and care about. Could also be she's a total crazy and just wanted out. either way, learn from it and don't let the pain turn you off from everyone. It's okay to grieve, like Sean had suggested, write it out. it helps. god bless word and notepad and any other word processing program. just type it out and get that crap off of your mind. the act of writing might also help you arrange scattered thoughts and help you make revelations you otherwise wouldn't have come up with. plus, you always got the WFers on your side. chin up, good buddy. maybe use this as an opportunity to go out and try new things. |
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Post by k5 on Jun 4, 2013 10:26:17 GMT -5
as hard as it may be, don't view it as the end of the world. new things will happen, it will take time, and you'll always feel the loss but you'll come to appreciate it's place in your life.
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Post by HHH316 on Jun 4, 2013 15:57:52 GMT -5
I was in the same exact place you are in now. Almost a 5 year relationship & out of no where she laid that on me, which was a year & a half ago. She tried to tell me it was because she felt like she was holding me back from advancing my career, & swore it wasn't about another guy. Sure enough, not even a month later, she was in a relationship with the guy I was suspecting. Believe me, I know first hand how much it sucks. I never confronted her about it, & to this day still have a chip on my shoulder about it. If I could do it again, I would of confronted her about it, but I would of had to be prepared to possibly hear things I didn't want to hear. If you think you can do that, do it. Get some closure.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2013 18:27:46 GMT -5
I was in the same exact place you are in now. Almost a 5 year relationship & out of no where she laid that on me, which was a year & a half ago. She tried to tell me it was because she felt like she was holding me back from advancing my career, & swore it wasn't about another guy. Sure enough, not even a month later, she was in a relationship with the guy I was suspecting. Believe me, I know first hand how much it sucks. I never confronted her about it, & to this day still have a chip on my shoulder about it. If I could do it again, I would of confronted her about it, but I would of had to be prepared to possibly hear things I didn't want to hear. If you think you can do that, do it. Get some closure.
nine out of ten times its basically cheating, this story above is almost the same thing happened to me. Expect I caught her with the other guy which lead to unnecessary drama. She has probable been cheating and it has finally come to a point where she can't lie about it anymore so she just suddenly broke up with because she did not know what else to do.
to quote Yoda, "If it into this you must go, only pain you will find"
Just walk away, and move on, I've learned the wondering is better than the truth in most cases.
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Post by savage on Jun 4, 2013 18:34:34 GMT -5
Move on bro, she is seeing someone else. Why bother trying to talk?
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Post by gcreams on Jun 4, 2013 18:39:40 GMT -5
Same thing happened to me earlier this year. Seems to be the trend that it is because there's someone else. Ask her, if she is upfront with you about why it happened then at least she gave you that. If that's the end then obviously it's gonna hurt like hell for a while but it's as good an indication as any that it just wasn't meant to be.
Just have to surround yourself with things and people that make you happy. Hang in there man!
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Post by Mofoin' Mizfit on Jun 4, 2013 18:54:39 GMT -5
Talk to her. If it was unexpected, then she's the only one you can get answers from. Now in my honest opinion, if you guys were that happy, there may have been someone else. The only thing I've ever seen to suddenly break up a happy relationship is another person.Totally agree. Hate to say it, but she was probably running around on you. I would still try one last time to talk to her though. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2013 20:03:09 GMT -5
I had the exact same situation last year. 2 and a half years together, thought we were good and happy, she dropped me out of nowhere. We got back together about a month after that, thought we were good and happy, she dropped me out of nowhere.
Not gonna lie, she's more than likely found someone else. If that ends and she starts going back to you, my honest opinion is to not get back with her again, it's just gonna end the same way. Just move on and leave it behind you and be happy you have two years together.
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