MonsoonMan
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Post by MonsoonMan on Aug 11, 2013 8:33:03 GMT -5
i do not enjoy looking into other people's eyes. whenever i lock eyes with someone who is talking to me or something, i feel really awkward and anxious. i know some people find it disrespectful when you do not look someone in the eyes when talking, but it makes me squirm.
anyone else have an issue like this?
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Post by Lewscher on Aug 11, 2013 8:46:13 GMT -5
i love it "/ well when you like someone haha
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Post by alexgg on Aug 11, 2013 8:55:00 GMT -5
I never understood how it was disrespectful, it's awkward just staring at each other. Wtf?
Plus I just generally find it easier to pay attention if I'm looking elsewhere.
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Post by ~ Cymru ~ on Aug 11, 2013 9:26:44 GMT -5
Its a mannerism of autism, everyone is on the autistic spectrum in some way. I used to be the same but grew out of it, its nothing to be worried about, its just one of the things that make you, you  |
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Post by TurboEddie on Aug 11, 2013 13:20:33 GMT -5
I have the same problem. I feel discomfort when I try.
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Post by /X Metal Sorenges x "Mac Oh J~ on Aug 11, 2013 13:27:40 GMT -5
Normally I don't have a problem with it but it really depends on the length of the conversation.
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Post by Lance on Aug 11, 2013 13:30:32 GMT -5
For me it matters who it is. Family is fine. Anyone else.... Please stop staring into my eyes and trying to rip out all of my organs.
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Post by wrestlingfan1000 on Aug 11, 2013 13:38:40 GMT -5
I tend to try to last long looking into their eyes but I fail every time because I get too uncomfortable and keep looking away especially with a girl.
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Post by facemeat on Aug 11, 2013 14:11:35 GMT -5
I'm the same way. It's very uncomfortable for me to stare someone in the eyes while talking. I try to do it, because I'd hate to be seen as impolite or disrespectful, but I usually last all of 3 seconds before staring off anywhere but their eyes.
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Post by RollinsFan44 on Aug 11, 2013 14:27:53 GMT -5
I don't find it awkward to be honest. It's awkward if you stare at each other and don't smile or something, but other than that I can't say I find it awkward.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2013 14:40:06 GMT -5
I was very bad at holding eye contact for a few years due to having some pretty bad acne on my face. Even though I have none now, I still struggle a bit, especially when walking down the street and someone else is walking opposite my direction, I don't know if I should look at them, the ground, or what.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2013 15:21:50 GMT -5
I always look people in the eyes, and if they don't look me in the eyes I continue to look at them. Sounds weird but I have always done that.
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Post by bababooey on Aug 11, 2013 15:38:00 GMT -5
I always look dead into people's eyes and make sure not to blink. I look deep into their souls.
Seriously though. I get what your saying. It does get awkward. What I usually do is make eye contact for a few seconds then look at something else. I just keep that going and try to balance it out.
In college I had a teacher who would tell a joke and then lock eyes with a student and he wouldn't look away or stop laughing until you looked away. Happened a few times to me and it was soooo creepy.
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Post by The Yes Man on Aug 11, 2013 15:57:24 GMT -5
The only people I lock eyes with are girls, for obvious reasons. Other than that it's awkward and uncomfortable.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2013 22:25:08 GMT -5
Am I on the only one who looks people in the eyes?  |
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Post by noir on Aug 11, 2013 23:09:43 GMT -5
Funny you sould mention this. I struggled REALLY badly with eye contact throughout most of my teens. I guess I was never told straight up, that you should look people in the eyes when you talk to them. I can not stress how much it  ed up social situations for me. Then when I found out it was a problem, it felt really weird and forced to attempt it and I habitually would look away as soon as I tried. I never had problems making friends but I was always considered the 'shy' one, and in hindsight I did a lot of squirming and uncomfortable body language as a kid. I cringe to look back on how I was in that regard. About 4 years ago (so like 18/19) I became a man on a mission and would force myself to make eye contact 80% of the time when I'd have a conversation. I can not stress how important that has been in my self-development. Your presence in pretty much every social setting (the most important ones being dating and the workplace) can make or break depending on eye contact. I sometimes fall into old habits, but it is easily rectified. Didn't want to turn this into an essay but anyone struggling to make eye contact, it is super duper important and you sould really try to fix it. |
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Post by Thick Justice on Aug 11, 2013 23:34:37 GMT -5
I always had trouble even looking at pictures of eyes or talking about them but ever since I became a born again christian I haven't I didn't really put 2 and 2 together until this. I've actually found that recently I can look into a persons eyes and tell if they are a good person or are brainwashed. Like people in the bigger cults.
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Post by King Silva on Aug 12, 2013 1:15:33 GMT -5
I also think it is awkward especially if you don't know the person that much.
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Post by 0,Y on Aug 12, 2013 4:01:58 GMT -5
I think it's disrespectful not looking into the eyes of the person speaking with you. It's not that you have to stare into them 24/7 but it pissed me off so much when people never make eye contact and instead just stare into the air or somewhere. I always think 'Hell, why am I even talking to you if you don't give a crap?!'
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Post by Escape The Rules on Aug 12, 2013 15:36:49 GMT -5
Yeah it does get awkward, it's usually with authority figures like at an interview over a desk where you have to look at them whilst they talk that's the most uncomfortable, I tend to look away for a few seconds at a time just to make it less weird. I used to be really socially awkward in situations like that but my confidence has grown a lot over the last few years.
It's easier with friends or people you know because you don't need to stare them in the eyes.
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