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Post by King of Kings on Nov 22, 2013 18:09:53 GMT -5
I didn't want to make a post about it, but part of me feels that it will help cope with this: because thus far I've avoided talking about it to anyone I know in real life simply because I don't know that they'll all understand. I know that we have a lot of pet owners on this forum and perhaps you'll understand.
I've had my cat since I was 7 or 8, and I'm 22 now. She's been with me for a long time. When I broke up with my first girlfriend and I went into my room angry and sad, my cat came into the room and just sat at the edge of my bed as if to say, "hey dude, I'm here!" She was a huge part of my life.
Two weeks ago, she got sick. I don't know what exactly it was, I'm told it was just a type of flu that cats can catch and that with the right treatment she would pull through. I took care of her and watched her those two weeks. Every morning waking up, every day before leaving work, and every night when I came home I'd go and check on her. Slowly I saw she was getting smaller and weaker. She had lost a lot of weight. The cat that I knew was no more. She wasn't hyper and excited to see me anymore. She just laid there, and hardly ate, breathing heavily. It was sad. I knew what as coming. Yesterday morning I went in to see if there were any signs of improvement and as she got up to walk to me, she stumbled a bit and lost her balance. That was the sign I needed: I couldn't allow this any longer. I took her to the vet, and though I told myself she'd be okay I knew that it was the last time she'd be here. I had to make the hardest decision of my life but I knew it had to be done, I couldn't allow my cat to go on in pain. The vet told me she was struggling to live, and she had reached the end of her life. Her heart was irregular and every breath that she took caused her discomfort.
For the first time in two weeks she had a moment of peace as they gave her a sedative. She laid in my arms peaceful, and I knew it was the end. She couldn't move but her eyes looked up at me as if to say, "I'm gonna be alright," and I let the doctor complete the procedure as I saw the life leave her body. I know she's no longer in pain. However, I can't help but hate myself for giving the okay. I feel miserable. I think I'd feel worse if I let her continue on in such pain though.
RIP Sandy the Cat
I truly hope that I was able to give you the best life possible.
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Post by Thick Justice on Nov 22, 2013 18:37:34 GMT -5
Your cat sounds awesome we had a cat for a few years like 2 before he died. Nothing like your cat. Kept trying to run away. Would bite and attack for no reason and out of nowhere. Bit my sister so bad the doctor who she had to go to wanted to force us to put it down. Meanest cat I ever meet. You should be very glad to have had a good cat for 15 years and just know she's in a better place.
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Post by YES! YES! YES! on Nov 22, 2013 18:48:57 GMT -5
That put tears into my eyes. I know what an animal means to someone. They're always there to make you happy. But, let yourself know, your cat's no longer in pain. Your cat is still watching you, by your side. Sorry for your loss.
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Post by RybackV1 on Nov 22, 2013 18:58:35 GMT -5
My cat is my best friend. I cannot imagine going through what you are man. If you spend enough time with a cat they really open up to you and love you unconditionally. Needless to say I'm honestly sorry for your loss.
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Post by Brad on Nov 22, 2013 19:06:55 GMT -5
Sincerely sorry for your loss. I lost my pet bird Kimmi, a white parrot who was like my baby, 5 years ago and I still think about her to this day and miss her.
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Post by Tim of thee on Nov 22, 2013 19:15:56 GMT -5
I'm sorry for your loss. Having a pet is a great joy but also a hard thing when they get to that age.
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Post by mrassbillygunn on Nov 22, 2013 19:33:10 GMT -5
I know it doesnt make you feel any better but you did the right thing getting her put to sleep. If any animal is suffering, its the best thing to do. Ive a dog and i would feel the exact same way you're feeling right now. Stay strong.
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Post by dai1yut on Nov 22, 2013 23:01:05 GMT -5
Hey im soo sorry for your lost...this past yr on july 4th i had to put my dog to sleep too..it was really hard for me as reading your post put tear back in my eyes. I had him for well over 15 yrs and it was just time. Im still hopeing that with time it will ease my pain. But talking about it did help out.
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Post by The Mask of Truth on Nov 22, 2013 23:32:27 GMT -5
To think, pets show more loyalty and unconditional love than most human beings. Cheer up, you did the right thing.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 22, 2013 23:42:37 GMT -5
I'm so sorry to hear your loss, man. I know how hard it is having to say goodbye to a family member and having to make the decision to get them put down. Me and my family are all animal lovers, and insane cat lovers. I prefer my animals over human beings. They mean so much to me. I know how hard it is to cope with it, but you'll get through it. Don't be sad because your cats life is over, be happy that you gave her one hell of a life.
As I speak, my cat of 13 years is currently staying at the vet. She had gotten really skinny, like nearly anorexic. But she would still eat what we gave her, just in small amounts. But my Mum took her to the vet, and it turned out she had problems hydrating and the fluids they put her on weren't doing what they were meant to. And they can't do blood tests because her blood pressure is low. Apparently she also has a heart problem but we don't worry about them too much, seems to be a running occurrence with our animals. There's a part of me that hopes she will be okay, but then there's another part of me that knows this is the end. And I know how heartbreaking it is to feel what you're feeling. If you ever need to talk man, hit me up with a PM. Truly sorry to hear about your loss.
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Post by Escape The Rules on Nov 22, 2013 23:44:31 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about your loss man, I take you had her since the late 90s or so & that is a very long time, you watched each other grow and I can obviously understand how you were so attached.
And don't beat yourself up about putting her to sleep, if she wasn't feeling good & wasn't gonna get any better then you've definitely done her a favour by not letting her suffer anymore, I'm sure she appreciates it a lot and is in a far better place.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 23, 2013 0:20:48 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss man. I had to put my cat of fifteen years down last month and it was easily one of the most difficult things I had to do. But at least she isn't suffering anymore.
R.I.P. Sandy.
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Post by Mr Wrestling Jr. on Nov 23, 2013 0:28:55 GMT -5
I'm not a Cat person but it is very sad what happened to her. She's now watching RAW and SmackDown in a better place.
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Post by NukeIt2Bdone on Nov 23, 2013 1:30:47 GMT -5
Sorry to hear man, losing a cat is rough. I've had 11 cats, with as many as 4 at a time, but I'm down to 1 that is almost 16. I've only put 2 down out though... 5 of them just disappeared and I have given 3 away. I brought one to the pound just months ago because she kept pissing on the rug in my new apartment I also have 3 parakeets, 2 turtles, and a scorpion
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Post by King of Kings on Nov 23, 2013 1:57:19 GMT -5
Thank you all for the kind words. Moments like these truly make me hope there's something after life.
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Post by King Silva on Nov 23, 2013 5:54:42 GMT -5
Damn this is a sad story. My cat Lilly just turned 15 so this is something that I know I'll be dealing with in the coming years. RIP to your cat Sandy.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 23, 2013 6:13:39 GMT -5
I don't think it was more of "I'll be okay" as in getting better, I think she was trying to tell you "I'll be alright in the after life until we meet again" It's hard to deal with loss but over coming it and remembering the good times is something you need to do to keep her memory alive. It's not about the pain you feel now because it will go away, just think about the long run it is really about the memory's you and her shared together that really matters. Be thankful you were able to have her for that long and know you took really good care of her and she was at peace with you and everything else when she passed. I know it's hard because an animal connection with it's owner is something very important but as the thought of the passing goes away and all that is left is the memory's, don't be sad about them you should be smiling for years to come every time you think of her and some where out there her energy will be over you and you two will always have each other in a way.
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Post by poolshostage on Nov 23, 2013 8:33:47 GMT -5
I'm sorry for you know how you feel I love my cat.
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Post by Jack on Nov 23, 2013 9:59:31 GMT -5
Sorry to hear that mate.
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Post by ClassicFan2 on Nov 23, 2013 10:05:40 GMT -5
I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOO SORRY for your loss! I lost my 16 yr old AND my 20 yr old cats in august. Both of them! I had them since they were kittens. they were my best friends. I am still having a VERY hard time with this. I MISS Them SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH! I've been recovering from a broken neck as a child that recently got semi-repaired and throughout my life as friends and family gave up on me or walked out on me, my kitties were always there and loved me no matter what! The biggest kicker is I could have saved and fixed them both with a little bit of money ($1500). which may seem like alot, but look at what people spend on couches or vacations or for tv's. My Father has a million $$$ and refused to help us (he's a very mean selfish drunk). and while my kitteis were sick and he turned me down to help them he was remodeling his girlfriends home and sunk $18,000 into it but wouldnt help me or my kitties. and my loving God sat there watching this happen. He knows i'm disabled and no one would help. I HATE GOD & My Dad right now. they can take all the money in the world and stick where it dont shine! I dont care to be rich I just wanted to help my kitties! what kind of fathers say they love you and leave you to suffer like that? Its one thing when neither want to help me and I have to suffer in pain and cannot get by, but having to watch my kitties suffer was too much. Ecspecially going to church and having people tell you god loves you and hear how he is blessing this person with a new job and that person with a new house and this person with a raise and I couldnt beg him or ANYONE in the church enough to get $1500 and save my kitties lives. I know what your going through and again I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO SORRY! May peace be with you!
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