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Post by LtD73 on Jan 30, 2014 9:02:27 GMT -5
So my nan has been in the hospital for the past few days/week because she hasnt been well, I thought oh it's fine, she'll get better. My mum just came in and told me that my nan is dying and only has a few hours to live. Been on this earth 21 years and never really experienced death in any way, never knew anyone personally that has passed away or ever been to a funeral and for my first experience of it to be my nan,  actually kinda hate myself for not seeing her more often, there was a family party last summer, I went to say bye to her after the party and she didnt even know who I was, because I hadn't seen her in so long, I'm sat here crying my eyes out, I just hope my mum is going to be ok.  |
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Post by Sam on Jan 30, 2014 9:26:04 GMT -5
I've had a few deaths in the family over the last couple of years, the latest being my Aunt in 2012. She was in her mid-forties and die from natural causes, shocked all of us as it came out of nowhere.
All I can say though man is just keep your head up, remember the good times and stay strong, she'll always be apart of your life even after death as your memories of her will live on.
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Post by CMPUNKISGOOD on Jan 30, 2014 10:46:56 GMT -5
Sorry. Deaths are the worst part of life.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 11:12:18 GMT -5
I've experienced so much death it's not even worth getting into detail.
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Post by JC Motors on Jan 30, 2014 13:09:15 GMT -5
Sorry. Deaths are the worst part of life. This is very true |
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Post by wyleecyotee on Jan 30, 2014 13:11:53 GMT -5
Only 22 an been to the funeral of both my grandads (my other grandad even died before I was born), one of my best friends at school who was in a hit and run when I was around 13 and a really close family friend who we spent Christmas and holidays with.
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Post by TheHotshot on Jan 30, 2014 13:19:09 GMT -5
Ah that's terrible buddy  ! My granddad currently has parkinsons and it's pretty bad. To make things worse my father didn't talk to his half-brother and father (not properly anyway) for over 18 years. But recently he (my granddad) broke his hip whilst trying to climb the stairs and that brought them together. Now I go to my Granddad's every weekend, pretty nice to be honest. I've become pretty close to him and I really don't know what my life would be like now with out him. |
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Post by The Mask of Truth on Jan 31, 2014 2:09:16 GMT -5
I've experienced so much death it's not even worth getting into detail. In your family? or scumbag criminals during work?  |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 31, 2014 2:16:23 GMT -5
I've experienced so much death it's not even worth getting into detail. In your family? or scumbag criminals during work? Meh. Family to a point but more so at work. It's not even criminals really. Just regular people in a car accident or suicides...which are the worst. |
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Post by Hammersmith Hardman on Jan 31, 2014 4:35:14 GMT -5
I hadn't experienced death in and around my family until 2011, since then i've lost 2 uncles, an aunt, my grandfather & my best friend's little sister. With my Aunt and one of my uncles it was expected so I understood, losing my grandfather hit me for six and while it was sad I knew he had a good life, arguably the most saddest was losing my best friend's sister, she was only 11 and obviously didn't deserve that.
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Post by fallbrawl on Jan 31, 2014 5:17:25 GMT -5
I have seen 3 of my friends from high school die in car wreaks and 2 of my grandparents pass away. I only have 1 grandparent left. My grandfather on my moms side passed away in 2012 and it is still hard on me. I have dreams from time to time about seeing him in his casket.
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Post by LtD73 on Jan 31, 2014 5:37:57 GMT -5
Is it normal to feel really calm? When my mum got home last night and I knew that it had happened, I just stopped being upset and just became very calm, I'm even thinking to myself how/why am I being so calm? My girlfriend was saying that its probably a form of shock/way of dealing with it.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 31, 2014 6:18:00 GMT -5
I've experienced so much death it's not even worth getting into detail. Me too. OP, just be happy that you're 21 and haven't experienced much death. |
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Post by JDP on Jan 31, 2014 6:41:51 GMT -5
I am extremely grateful to still be at a younger age where I have more time to get to see the older relatives of my family before it's too late. I haven't experienced a lot of deaths in my family with people I know well, but I have a close relationship with my Grandmother, and it'd really suck it she passed.
Stay strong man.
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Post by J12 on Jan 31, 2014 10:34:20 GMT -5
You're not alone in dealing with it for virtually the first time.
I've attended three funerals in the last eight months, and will be going to a fourth tomorrow morning. Prior to that, I'd only been to one in my entire 24 years of life.
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Post by Brad on Jan 31, 2014 14:25:24 GMT -5
Man, I'm sorry to hear that. My best wishes to you and your family.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 31, 2014 14:34:38 GMT -5
It was my best friends mom. His parents and my parents have known each other for over 30 years. He has a twin brother the same age as my brother and they are 6 years older than me and always picked on me. Fast forward a lot of years we are best friends since our brothers got married. So there has been A LOT that we've all done in those 35 years. ANYWAY. I was living with my mom and dad at the time and his mom and dad were over and when they left I could hear her say goodbye to me from the kitchen. I was in my room laying down watching tv and I just shouted back "goodbye" without going over there and giving her a kiss goodbye. That week she died of a massive heart attack. She was walking to her car with her husband and she just dropped. He called my house right after the paramedics. The sound of horror in that mans voice is still with me 13 years later. I had to call my mom and tell her that her best friend just died. That second sound of horror haunts me. And sometimes I think back and I should have gotten off my lazy ass to give her a proper goodbye.
It bothers me.
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Post by That 80s Guy on Feb 1, 2014 2:26:16 GMT -5
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Nothing hits you more, than the loss of a parent.
My grandparents raised me the first 18mo of my life, so my grandfather, was more like a dad to me (of all their grandkids, they've always considered me their 7th child; they had 6). And at the time of his passing, he was my best friend. So it was like getting hit 3x with his loss. He was the 1 guy I always thought in the back of my mind, was like Superman... nothing could phase him. And to this day, he was the greatest man I've ever known or will ever know. It still hurts and I still cry from time to time, but I also still laugh because laughter is what always brought us closer together.
I've been to several funerals since, but his was by far the hardest. I can't fathom how hard it'll be if my grandmother or my own mom go before I do.
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Post by Escape The Rules on Feb 1, 2014 8:18:19 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about your bad news man.
The only relative I've had pass away, at least that I am able to recall was my great gran in September 2005. I was 13 then and to be honest it wasn't all that difficult for me. I'm gonna sound like a bad grandson here and I don't mean to but I wasn't all that entirely close with her.
Of course I loved her but I just never spent much time with her due to being young, wanting to do my own thing & usually being too lazy to go with my mum on the bus journey to visit her. I did see a lot more of her in 2005 before she passed which I'm glad I was able to do. I do at times regret not bonding more with her but I'm glad I was able to make up for it that year & that was by chance, it's not like I knew she was going to pass, it was just of natural causes. I've only been to one funeral in my life. Hopefully won't need to go to another for many, many years.
My mum's father died when I was very young too. I vaguely remember him but not all that much.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 1, 2014 17:10:45 GMT -5
Is it normal to feel really calm? When my mum got home last night and I knew that it had happened, I just stopped being upset and just became very calm, I'm even thinking to myself how/why am I being so calm? My girlfriend was saying that its probably a form of shock/way of dealing with it. Same thing happened to me when my Grandma passed away last year. She was in a lot of pain and had been sick for a very long time, so it was a bit of a relief when she passed. Plus my Dad was always in the hospital/hospice with her so I never saw him and it was all very stressful. I didn't even think I'd see him for Christmas, since I spent Christmas Eve and so many nights before alone. I felt a sense of relief when I got the phonecall Christmas morning. Then it all hit me at the funeral/memorial. Say strong man. |
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