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Post by Sleazyness on Jan 14, 2015 15:05:33 GMT -5
I don't even know how this amazing girl happened to fall for someone like me. We have been talking for about 4 months. Like, when we skype, I never know what to say. It's always been a problem. A lot of the time when we are together, I know what to say. When we are skyping, I just go blank. My main problem is like, I don't want to be a boring person.
I suffer from anxiety. Any tips on what I should do to keep a conversation going? Not just with her, but in general.
Also, I'm so glad her and I are finally dating. We have been talking for over four months and we have clicked since day one.
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Post by Jonathan Karate on Jan 14, 2015 15:07:10 GMT -5
Ill be the wrong board guy...
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Post by Sleazyness on Jan 14, 2015 15:08:16 GMT -5
Ill be the wrong board guy... Just realized it. PLEASE MOVE WHEN POSSIBLE.
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Post by The Kevstaaa on Jan 14, 2015 15:24:35 GMT -5
When you run out of things to say on Skype, just whip it out.
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Post by Sleazyness on Jan 14, 2015 15:34:05 GMT -5
When you run out of things to say on Skype, just whip it out. This is exactly why I was reluctant to post this because some people don't know when to joke and when to not.
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Post by The Kevstaaa on Jan 14, 2015 15:38:11 GMT -5
When you run out of things to say on Skype, just whip it out. This is exactly why I was reluctant to post this because some people don't know when to joke and when to not. Sorry man, was just trying to keep things light. I've actually had the same issue when talking over the phone or on Skype with a girl in the past. In person I was fine, but it always seemed a bit awkward to try and make conversation over the phone/webcam. It's like there was a pressure to have some conversation going, so I don't have much advice but I was hoping to at least make you laugh.
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Post by punksnotdead on Jan 14, 2015 16:11:54 GMT -5
This is exactly why I was reluctant to post this because some people don't know when to joke and when to not. Sorry man, was just trying to keep things light. I've actually had the same issue when talking over the phone or on Skype with a girl in the past. In person I was fine, but it always seemed a bit awkward to try and make conversation over the phone/webcam. It's like there was a pressure to have some conversation going, so I don't have much advice but I was hoping to at least make you laugh. That's because dudes don't like to just talk. We have interests and hobbies, and we talk for very specific reasons. Women can literally tell you their life story on a whim and all about how they feel at that very second. Women, Venus. Men, Mars. My best advice with that, ask bait questions, and then listen closely for other bait questions. This will keep the woman talking for as long as physically possible without you having to do 95% of the work. "How was your day/work/school" "How did that thing today at work/school go" "Really, that happened? How/why?" insert quick "that b*tch is crazy" this can go on for hours. It's kind of a game, but women don't generally communicate the same way men do, physical or verbal, and at the root of our being we don't have a ton in common on a psychological level. We do, however, all live very similar lives for the most part. I would try to figure out what generic things you have in common, quickly. Those can be fallback talking points. Oh did you see the new trailer for Avengers? Looks pretty cool. , if you're on Skype let her watch the sh*t in front of you, more time you don't have to be talking. Don't try to be someone you're not though. There are a billion people out there. Some people are meant to pass through your life, others are meant to stay in it. I don't care how much you think you like her, don't convince her you're someone you're not just so you can be with her. You'll get stuck or hurt and eventually hate her, I promise. Be you, because you is awesome. Are you to the point where you can be honest with her or are you still on the "I'm trying to win her over" stage? Maybe she has anxiety as well. We all have anxiety about something and sharing a real life emotion with someone you care about can open the door to caring about them more. You might be surprised what you find out about her. Don't take life too seriously man. Women, school, work, life, it's a ride. Don't feel like you need to do things a certain way, behave a certain way, or be pressured by things that make you uncomfortable. That's not to say actions aren't without consequences, but trust that you know what makes you happy, better than anyone else, and that life has a way of working itself out. Plus, the whip it out joke was funny. It's ok to laugh too, even over your own insecurities. Like I said, we all have them. They just manifest in different ways, with different people.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2015 16:33:57 GMT -5
Sorry man, was just trying to keep things light. I've actually had the same issue when talking over the phone or on Skype with a girl in the past. In person I was fine, but it always seemed a bit awkward to try and make conversation over the phone/webcam. It's like there was a pressure to have some conversation going, so I don't have much advice but I was hoping to at least make you laugh. That's because dudes don't like to just talk. We have interests and hobbies, and we talk for very specific reasons. Women can literally tell you their life story on a whim and all about how they feel at that very second. Women, Venus. Men, Mars. My best advice with that, ask bait questions, and then listen closely for other bait questions. This will keep the woman talking for as long as physically possible without you having to do 95% of the work. "How was your day/work/school" "How did that thing today at work/school go" "Really, that happened? How/why?" insert quick "that b*tch is crazy" this can go on for hours. It's kind of a game, but women don't generally communicate the same way men do, physical or verbal, and at the root of our being we don't have a ton in common on a psychological level. We do, however, all live very similar lives for the most part. I would try to figure out what generic things you have in common, quickly. Those can be fallback talking points. Oh did you see the new trailer for Avengers? Looks pretty cool. , if you're on Skype let her watch the sh*t in front of you, more time you don't have to be talking. Don't try to be someone you're not though. There are a billion people out there. Some people are meant to pass through your life, others are meant to stay in it. I don't care how much you think you like her, don't convince her you're someone you're not just so you can be with her. You'll get stuck or hurt and eventually hate her, I promise. Be you, because you is awesome. Are you to the point where you can be honest with her or are you still on the "I'm trying to win her over" stage? Maybe she has anxiety as well. We all have anxiety about something and sharing a real life emotion with someone you care about can open the door to caring about them more. You might be surprised what you find out about her. Don't take life too seriously man. Women, school, work, life, it's a ride. Don't feel like you need to do things a certain way, behave a certain way, or be pressured by things that make you uncomfortable. That's not to say actions aren't without consequences, but trust that you know what makes you happy, better than anyone else, and that life has a way of working itself out. Plus, the whip it out joke was funny. It's ok to laugh too, even over your own insecurities. Like I said, we all have them. They just manifest in different ways, with different people.
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Post by The Yes Man on Jan 14, 2015 17:22:38 GMT -5
Sorry man, was just trying to keep things light. I've actually had the same issue when talking over the phone or on Skype with a girl in the past. In person I was fine, but it always seemed a bit awkward to try and make conversation over the phone/webcam. It's like there was a pressure to have some conversation going, so I don't have much advice but I was hoping to at least make you laugh. That's because dudes don't like to just talk. We have interests and hobbies, and we talk for very specific reasons. Women can literally tell you their life story on a whim and all about how they feel at that very second. Women, Venus. Men, Mars. My best advice with that, ask bait questions, and then listen closely for other bait questions. This will keep the woman talking for as long as physically possible without you having to do 95% of the work. "How was your day/work/school" "How did that thing today at work/school go" "Really, that happened? How/why?" insert quick "that b*tch is crazy" this can go on for hours. It's kind of a game, but women don't generally communicate the same way men do, physical or verbal, and at the root of our being we don't have a ton in common on a psychological level. We do, however, all live very similar lives for the most part. I would try to figure out what generic things you have in common, quickly. Those can be fallback talking points. Oh did you see the new trailer for Avengers? Looks pretty cool. , if you're on Skype let her watch the sh*t in front of you, more time you don't have to be talking. Don't try to be someone you're not though. There are a billion people out there. Some people are meant to pass through your life, others are meant to stay in it. I don't care how much you think you like her, don't convince her you're someone you're not just so you can be with her. You'll get stuck or hurt and eventually hate her, I promise. Be you, because you is awesome. Are you to the point where you can be honest with her or are you still on the "I'm trying to win her over" stage? Maybe she has anxiety as well. We all have anxiety about something and sharing a real life emotion with someone you care about can open the door to caring about them more. You might be surprised what you find out about her. Don't take life too seriously man. Women, school, work, life, it's a ride. Don't feel like you need to do things a certain way, behave a certain way, or be pressured by things that make you uncomfortable. That's not to say actions aren't without consequences, but trust that you know what makes you happy, better than anyone else, and that life has a way of working itself out. Plus, the whip it out joke was funny. It's ok to laugh too, even over your own insecurities. Like I said, we all have them. They just manifest in different ways, with different people. You're the man. Pretty much what I wanted to say, just worded ten times better.
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Post by bababooey on Jan 14, 2015 17:26:43 GMT -5
I've always found video chatting to be awkward. Even with my best friend who I lived in the same house with for 11 years.
I always feel some kind of pressure to do something interesting. It's just weird.
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Post by Word™ on Jan 14, 2015 17:33:47 GMT -5
Just be a good listener.. That's about 80% of what women want.
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Post by Mr. PerpetuaLynch Motion on Jan 14, 2015 19:49:02 GMT -5
Sorry man, was just trying to keep things light. I've actually had the same issue when talking over the phone or on Skype with a girl in the past. In person I was fine, but it always seemed a bit awkward to try and make conversation over the phone/webcam. It's like there was a pressure to have some conversation going, so I don't have much advice but I was hoping to at least make you laugh. That's because dudes don't like to just talk. We have interests and hobbies, and we talk for very specific reasons. Women can literally tell you their life story on a whim and all about how they feel at that very second. Women, Venus. Men, Mars. My best advice with that, ask bait questions, and then listen closely for other bait questions. This will keep the woman talking for as long as physically possible without you having to do 95% of the work. "How was your day/work/school" "How did that thing today at work/school go" "Really, that happened? How/why?" insert quick "that b*tch is crazy" this can go on for hours. It's kind of a game, but women don't generally communicate the same way men do, physical or verbal, and at the root of our being we don't have a ton in common on a psychological level. We do, however, all live very similar lives for the most part. I would try to figure out what generic things you have in common, quickly. Those can be fallback talking points. Oh did you see the new trailer for Avengers? Looks pretty cool. , if you're on Skype let her watch the sh*t in front of you, more time you don't have to be talking. Don't try to be someone you're not though. There are a billion people out there. Some people are meant to pass through your life, others are meant to stay in it. I don't care how much you think you like her, don't convince her you're someone you're not just so you can be with her. You'll get stuck or hurt and eventually hate her, I promise. Be you, because you is awesome. Are you to the point where you can be honest with her or are you still on the "I'm trying to win her over" stage? Maybe she has anxiety as well. We all have anxiety about something and sharing a real life emotion with someone you care about can open the door to caring about them more. You might be surprised what you find out about her. Don't take life too seriously man. Women, school, work, life, it's a ride. Don't feel like you need to do things a certain way, behave a certain way, or be pressured by things that make you uncomfortable. That's not to say actions aren't without consequences, but trust that you know what makes you happy, better than anyone else, and that life has a way of working itself out. Plus, the whip it out joke was funny. It's ok to laugh too, even over your own insecurities. Like I said, we all have them. They just manifest in different ways, with different people. Give this man a ing medal!
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Post by mikey1974 on Jan 14, 2015 19:56:24 GMT -5
Sorry man, was just trying to keep things light. I've actually had the same issue when talking over the phone or on Skype with a girl in the past. In person I was fine, but it always seemed a bit awkward to try and make conversation over the phone/webcam. It's like there was a pressure to have some conversation going, so I don't have much advice but I was hoping to at least make you laugh. That's because dudes don't like to just talk. We have interests and hobbies, and we talk for very specific reasons. Women can literally tell you their life story on a whim and all about how they feel at that very second. Women, Venus. Men, Mars. My best advice with that, ask bait questions, and then listen closely for other bait questions. This will keep the woman talking for as long as physically possible without you having to do 95% of the work. "How was your day/work/school" "How did that thing today at work/school go" "Really, that happened? How/why?" insert quick "that b*tch is crazy" this can go on for hours. . if done properly,you can get a woman talking on a single subject for hours. you can get them going so much that you can get up and leave,and they won't even notice. go make a sandwich,wash your car, mow the lawn,give the dog a bath,watch a movie,whatever you need to do. come back afterwards,and she'll still be talking.cause deep down,all women want to do is talk and gossip. it's immaterial who they're talking to - they just have an ingrained primordial need to never shut up.
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Post by The Mask of Truth on Jan 14, 2015 23:30:10 GMT -5
^^^^^ I could tell this guy hates his wife...
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Post by BrIaNMeRcY on Jan 15, 2015 0:39:30 GMT -5
This is why I hate doing Skype. The conversation will come off as akward. Not to mention, I don't feel comfortable talking to somebody via Skype.
As far as what to say, just let the conversation flow organically. I will be honest, I am a very socially akward person. Therefore, I know how you feel to some degree.
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Post by ¡Twist Of Cinnamon! on Jan 15, 2015 1:05:23 GMT -5
Ask her what she's wearing.
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Post by Halloween King on Jan 15, 2015 10:44:45 GMT -5
Tell her you hope she has a big trunk, cause you're putting your bike in it.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 15, 2015 10:50:39 GMT -5
Ask how she is what she's been doing recently if she has a pet ask how it is talk about a t.v show you both watch compliment her talk about meeting up and going out,
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Post by Sleazyness on Jan 15, 2015 13:19:45 GMT -5
Sorry man, was just trying to keep things light. I've actually had the same issue when talking over the phone or on Skype with a girl in the past. In person I was fine, but it always seemed a bit awkward to try and make conversation over the phone/webcam. It's like there was a pressure to have some conversation going, so I don't have much advice but I was hoping to at least make you laugh. That's because dudes don't like to just talk. We have interests and hobbies, and we talk for very specific reasons. Women can literally tell you their life story on a whim and all about how they feel at that very second. Women, Venus. Men, Mars. My best advice with that, ask bait questions, and then listen closely for other bait questions. This will keep the woman talking for as long as physically possible without you having to do 95% of the work. "How was your day/work/school" "How did that thing today at work/school go" "Really, that happened? How/why?" insert quick "that b*tch is crazy" this can go on for hours. It's kind of a game, but women don't generally communicate the same way men do, physical or verbal, and at the root of our being we don't have a ton in common on a psychological level. We do, however, all live very similar lives for the most part. I would try to figure out what generic things you have in common, quickly. Those can be fallback talking points. Oh did you see the new trailer for Avengers? Looks pretty cool. , if you're on Skype let her watch the sh*t in front of you, more time you don't have to be talking. Don't try to be someone you're not though. There are a billion people out there. Some people are meant to pass through your life, others are meant to stay in it. I don't care how much you think you like her, don't convince her you're someone you're not just so you can be with her. You'll get stuck or hurt and eventually hate her, I promise. Be you, because you is awesome. Are you to the point where you can be honest with her or are you still on the "I'm trying to win her over" stage? Maybe she has anxiety as well. We all have anxiety about something and sharing a real life emotion with someone you care about can open the door to caring about them more. You might be surprised what you find out about her. Don't take life too seriously man. Women, school, work, life, it's a ride. Don't feel like you need to do things a certain way, behave a certain way, or be pressured by things that make you uncomfortable. That's not to say actions aren't without consequences, but trust that you know what makes you happy, better than anyone else, and that life has a way of working itself out. Plus, the whip it out joke was funny. It's ok to laugh too, even over your own insecurities. Like I said, we all have them. They just manifest in different ways, with different people. Did you copy and paste this from another site? I ask this because this advice is EXACTLY what I'm looking for. It's funny you mention the anxiety thing because her and I both do have it. She has it a lot worse though. We have been talking for about 4 months and now we date. We have communicated pretty well. See, I knew there would be someone who would take me seriously and come through for me. I appreciate the constructive response. Thank you!
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Post by Sleazyness on Jan 15, 2015 13:20:11 GMT -5
Ask how she is what she's been doing recently if she has a pet ask how it is talk about a t.v show you both watch compliment her talk about meeting up and going out, We have met. I go to see her a lot! lol.
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