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Post by Scotty on Aug 28, 2015 19:14:52 GMT -5
Just moved into college and having a hard time adjusting. I loved high school and had a ton of friends but i'm really struggling to make friends here. Also just spending my time in my room alone being homesick. Anyone else experience similar things or have suggestions?
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Post by Darkhawk on Aug 28, 2015 19:18:01 GMT -5
Just wait till you take some classes man you should start making friends soon. Just hang on for a while, I know most people don't realize the loneliness in college it's worse in community college, some people can't handle it. It's usually the kids who were popular in high school that leave college cuz of it.
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Post by SE4NY on Aug 28, 2015 19:26:13 GMT -5
I'm crapting a brick for college, Don't know how I'm gonna survive but you will and you'll be fine! It's not like your the only person experiencing this man everyone has to go through it, i'd say you were scared for high school and graduation exams but you got through that fine didn't you.
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Post by nyyanks28 on Aug 28, 2015 19:26:20 GMT -5
I'm a commuter but my brother is going through the same thing right now away as a freshman. My best advice would be to get out of your room as much as possible. Most schools seem to have a common room in the dorms, highly recommend going in because when I've visited schools, a lot of people hang out there. My friends who did go away didn't find their core group of friends for 2-3 months. Go down to the rec center, and gym. Basically just find a way to get involved. I had friends who have come home in the first week, and really regretted it. Hang in there, it gets better. What school do you go to?
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Post by Grumpyoldman on Aug 28, 2015 20:58:41 GMT -5
Everyone goes through it. From kindergarten to middle school to junior high to senior high. Get out of you room, explore the campus. See if there are any social gatherings that interest you. The more you keep yourself occupied, the more comfortable you'll be.
I wish you luck. And let us know how you're doing.
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Post by @.@ Hempsterdance @.@ on Aug 28, 2015 21:20:27 GMT -5
I had a hard time adjusting but I gave it some time and ended up with a few good friends. It will be ok, but for your own sake get out and mingle. People will like you for you, if they dont em they arent worth your time.
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Post by Flair Forever on Aug 31, 2015 5:19:50 GMT -5
I felt the same way, but after getting a part-time job, getting involved in a few dorm activities, and going to a few parties..... college turned out to be the most fun years of my life!
I suggest starting with a part-time job.... you'll make some friends that way.....
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Post by Epic Z on Aug 31, 2015 8:41:17 GMT -5
What about the people with girlfriends away at college? That crap sucks
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Post by theMOESIAH on Aug 31, 2015 9:32:13 GMT -5
What about the people with girlfriends away at college? That crap sucks F all that.
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Post by J12 on Aug 31, 2015 11:27:59 GMT -5
I had that very badly my first semester of Freshman year. In my particular case, it became incredibly clear within a few weeks that I simply chose the wrong school. I was miserable, I couldn't find anyone with common interests. Everyone I encountered seemed to be a spoiled kid just at school to party. Needless to say, I left after my first semester, went to a school closer to home and absolutely loved it. Made a bunch of friends that I still keep in contact with today.
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Post by Valbroski on Aug 31, 2015 11:55:06 GMT -5
I never went away to college but my friend had a really tough time adjusting during his freshman year too. His roommate was a mute who wouldn't make any effort to be friends with him and according to my friend made it pretty clear from day 1 that he didn't like him for whatever reason. My friend used to come home every weekend to drink with us which not only was a waste of money but a waste of time he could of spent making friends at school. He ended up transferring back and forth a couple of times which was also a waste of time and money.
Anyway, I guess what I"m trying to say is just hang in there and try to make the best of it.
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Post by TurboEddie on Aug 31, 2015 15:07:38 GMT -5
Make sure you make the right kinds of friends. You don't want anybody knocking you off course. Try to befriend other students with similar goals.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2015 18:52:47 GMT -5
Experiment man
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Post by HHH316 on Aug 31, 2015 22:38:16 GMT -5
There's definitely a learning curve. Give it a month or two, you've just gotta get comfortable
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Post by Halloween King on Sept 2, 2015 21:35:28 GMT -5
Just moved into college and having a hard time adjusting. I loved high school and had a ton of friends but i'm really struggling to make friends here. Also just spending my time in my room alone being homesick. Anyone else experience similar things or have suggestions? I've always been the Odd Man Out. I work with people who I never say hello, I see it as a week attempt to gain people's attention. I show up to work and I do my job. If I run across you face to face I will say Hello out of courtesy, I just dont walk in looking to greet everyone. I've just always felt that friends are few and far between. I have coworkers, that could be anyone. I have acquaintances, those are people I regularly talk to. I have friends, those are people I enjoy talking to. And I have good friends, I can count those on one hand. That's just my style. I would never sweat trying to meet new people at a school or a job. Every day im given new assignments, new directions. I go to different places every day. I never worry about trying to fit in or meeting people, I just keep my eyes on the task at hand. I would suggest you do the same. If you just focus on your work the rest wont really matter. Just do what you went to do, if you meet people along the way so be it. If you make friends on the way that's cool. Just dont lose sight of your work.
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Post by Sleazyness on Sept 3, 2015 2:15:30 GMT -5
Same! Im a freshman in community college.
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