Negan™
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Post by Negan™ on Jun 2, 2016 1:00:39 GMT -5
I know, I know. Anyone one of "those" threads but I figured I'd ask anyway. 
I'm 22 and realised I haven't really been getting myself "out there" enough. Never had a girlfriend before, never even kissed a girl before. And I only have myself to blame. Anyway, I was going through a bit of a tough time last year and everything kinda piled up on top of me and basically I felt like I was just wasting my life away. I made the decision a few months back to start properly living. Putting myself out in the open and doing things I never would have done.
I started off by deciding to actually go on a few online dates. I had Tinder for years but always chickened out whenever I was scheduled to go on a date with someone. But this time, I met this really nice looking girl on it. We didn't talk that much on the app but I just said "f*ck it, she obviously thinks I'm a bit decent looking so I'll ask her out for a drink". So she said yes and I met her. She was even better looking in person and considering this was my first actual date, I was a bit nervous at first but I just played it cool and kept talking. Anyway, we had a few drinks in a few bars and then went to get food. Overall I was probably with her for about 4 hours. I walked her back to her car and gave her a hug, told her I would text her later.
So I texted her later on and she told me she had a lovely time. We were texting a few times over the next few days, she was mostly talking about her job and stuff. So I asked her for a coffee whenever she's free. Probably not a good idea as she didn't respond to that. She did however text me the next day about her day. We chat on Snapchat so I'll send out a snap to my friends list and she'll sometimes reply. You know how it goes lol.
Overall, I'd really like to meet her again. But I don't know what to do. I'm under the impression that she's not that into me, mainly because she didn't reply when I asked her out again. I know she says she "shares" a phone with her mom so maybe she simply forgot, I dunno. What do you guys think? Should I just let it go and move onto someone else? Or is she playing it cool? I'm leading more towards the former.
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Plastic Cowboy
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Post by Plastic Cowboy on Jun 2, 2016 1:18:01 GMT -5
You kids and your communication over texting. Man up and ask in person. Then you know for sure and don't have to play the did she get my text game.
Not trying to be a butt, but face to face communication is the key. It keeps filters on, texting is just drunk talking there is no filter.
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Post by TheLastDude on Jun 2, 2016 1:31:26 GMT -5
She shares a phone with her mom?  |
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Negan™
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Post by Negan™ on Jun 2, 2016 1:35:00 GMT -5
You kids and your communication over texting. Man up and ask in person. Then you know for sure and don't have to play the did she get my text game. Not trying to be a butt, but face to face communication is the key. It keeps filters on, texting is just drunk talking there is no filter. Can't ask her in person as she lives a bit outside town. My chances of meeting her randomly are slim. |
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Plastic Cowboy
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Post by Plastic Cowboy on Jun 2, 2016 1:45:26 GMT -5
Then ask on the phone , talking, not texting.
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Post by 0,Y on Jun 2, 2016 2:18:51 GMT -5
If you can't do it face to face at least give her a call. You both had a nice time so why not have a nice time again?
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Post by IRS on Jun 2, 2016 4:20:00 GMT -5
I say, sneak into her house, and wait in her closet.... then jump out and surprise her! 95% she loves it. 5% of getting pepper sprayed and beaten with a baseball bat.
(Is it a mystery as to why I'm single?)
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2016 6:11:05 GMT -5
If shes on tinder, shes not sharing a phone with her mom.
Probably not that into you.
Its hard at first...but make a bigger move, rather than hugging next time.
It is tinder after all.
Its not necessarily used for finding a long term relationship.
Situations like this suck.
Keep right swiping and you'll find what you want
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2016 6:21:09 GMT -5
I'll give you time tested, field proven advice...
IF SHE DOESN'T ACT INTO YOU, DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME, MOVE ON.
The right girl will show she is into you, if you have to put in effort, then put that effort into finding someone else. If she gives you crap excuses like "I'm shy," "I was busy," "I share my phone with my Mom," or doesn't respond to a simple thing like "hey wanna go get a cup of coffee" those are red flags. MOVE ON.
MOVE ON.
Yeah you haven't dated much, big deal, its not a competition and no one cares. People care that you're happy. The sting of striking out and waiting for your next at-bat will eventually go away.
MOVE ON.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2016 7:16:25 GMT -5
To me, it sounds like she wanted it on the first date. I don't think she signed up for a dating website just to keep going out for coffee.
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Post by motleyspoisongun on Jun 2, 2016 9:04:04 GMT -5
personally i wouldn't have asked her out to coffee, thats a pretty lame 2nd "date". you guys had already hung out for a few hrs so you shoulda been able to gauge at least some of her interests as to what the 2nd time hanging out should be or take her somewhere fun like a zoo or aquarium, girls love that stuff. Also, you shoulda just went home with her after the bars, thats usually how that works lol
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Post by rowdy1971 on Jun 2, 2016 9:08:01 GMT -5
Call her and talk to her. Simple as that. If she acts aloof and whatnot then you have to move on.
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Post by T R W on Jun 2, 2016 9:58:48 GMT -5
RKO her
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Post by Lorenzo Alcazar on Jun 2, 2016 10:04:52 GMT -5
You just need to ball straight call and tell her that you guys are going on a date and tell her when and where to show up.
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Post by hbkbigdaddycool on Jun 2, 2016 10:20:07 GMT -5
Isn't 'Tinder' the online way of saying, "I just wanna get laid tonight and don't see us having any future whatsoever. You better make the best of this one night we have together or else that's it for you"??
At least that's the impression I get from this Tinder thing. It's taken over where POF has left off at.
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Post by BoJack Hogan on Jun 2, 2016 10:23:58 GMT -5
You need to offer her a fine assortment of Nintendo 64 games to sleep with you. If she's worth her salt she'll say yes, because nobody could turn down such seduction. Just don't forget the lube. Just put some butter in the microwave for 8 minutes, pour it on her cooch and go to town.
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Post by bad guy™ on Jun 2, 2016 10:25:03 GMT -5
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