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Post by Jack Specific on Jul 16, 2017 21:27:30 GMT -5
Just be who you are. As long as you are a good person, and good to yourself that's all that matters. You don't have to be someone who you are not for anyone. A friend, a date, whatever... they should like you for who you are and if not that's just too bad for them. Please listen to the song below.
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Post by King Bálor (CM)™ on Jul 16, 2017 23:12:26 GMT -5
I dont know you or how old you are. But I am guessing you are somewhere in the 13-16 range. You still are in the stage of life where you are discovering who you are. You are also in the stage of life that feeling uncomfortable is normal. Most people go through this. Its normal. Forget what everyone else is doing. You be you. There will come a day that you will discover who you are and you will be ultra confident about it and wonder why it took so long to get there. But it WILL happen. You say you are sensitive. Cool man. Be that guy...if you want. Would I have let that kid get in my face? no. But thats me. Thats me at 13, at 16 at 25 at 38. Difference between now and then is I use my words now, where I used my fists then. But if you are not the aggressive type, you need to find other ways to diffuse it. If the guy is pissed for how you tackled him, ask him politely what you did wrong and if he could show you the proper technique? It might diffuse the situation. Instead of looking like a ****, now others will see you and him working together and you might gain a friend. Being nervous around women is normal too. Some guys have the gift of gab and some guys are awkwardly quiet. If you are getting dates, you must be doing something right. As far as trying to have conversation....its easy. ASK HER QUESTIONS. Find out the interests she has. See if you can find some common ground. You never know what you might find. She might be a big football fan or wrestling fan or maybe she likes the same tv shows as you do. You cant go wrong with asking questions. If you are at dinner, ask her whats her favorite food. At the movies, ask her whats her favorite movie? At a concert? Whats her favorite band? The other thing I would suggest is going on the net and looking into some eye catching story that happened. Something humorous is great. Get 1 or 2 stories, memorize the details and it gives you an instant convo if you are drowning in silence. Hey...did you hear about that monkey that escaped from the zoo? It actually made it to the local mall and was in the food court tossing its feces. You ever eaten at that food court? I tossed more than feces once or twice. Yuck! Dont treat women like a princess. Do NOT put them on pedestal. Being gentelmanly is still a good thing. But dont kiss their asses. Dont tell them how beautiful they are over and over on a first date. Let things happen naturally. Keep the hormones in check. Dont rush things. Let them progress naturally. Also, you dont need to be confident around women. You only need to ACT AS IF. What that means is being confident and acting confident are different. ACT AS IF you are confident. ACT AS IF you have the biggest dick in town. ACT AS IF you arent nervous. ACT AS IF you are a stud. Or whatever. You can be whoever it is you want to. Thats how you find yourself. Accentuate the positives and hide the negatives. How you are around women and how you are really can be different. First dates are nothing more than the initial interview in a sales call. They are a customer looking to buy...give them a reason. Sell them. Its not easy and you will stumble. So what? When you do, pick yourself up and start over with someone else. The gym thing...who cares about everyone. Dont goto a Golds....look for a Planet Fitness or a place that juicers arent going to. Get some headphones and get in your own little world. You're there to get a workout....not to be intimidated or pickup women. Concentrate on you and the music. Being an bunghole to people is a skilled art. You dont have to be an bunghole to get respect. You get respect by earning it. Forget about wanting people to say hi. People suck. You dont need everyone to like you. In fact, its better if they dont. More people around with their hands out looking for something. Also, maybe someone who doesnt say hi is as nervous or awkward as you. You take the first step and you say hi. If they ignore you... 'em. Its their loss. Realize your self worth. Realize that having you as a friend is privilege and not everyone is gonna get it. Remember man...who you are now isnt who you will be the rest of your life. This is your time to stumble and learn. I know that day down the road looks so long...but you will get there. Everyone does.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2017 5:58:27 GMT -5
Just let this thread die guys. Why is it so important for you to try and get this thread closed? Are you proud of yourself for noticing a trend within this persons posts? It's not hurting anyone and people are offering good advice, and those that aren't, are actually being entertaining. If this is a legitimate person making a legitimate post it is a cry for help. What you call entertaining can also be construed as bullying. Had all the replies been constructive, cool. Many of them were the exact opposite though.
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Post by Triple S: POOR on Jul 17, 2017 8:34:35 GMT -5
Because this is, like, the 9th post of the same crap over and over. Each and every time someone gives the REAL advice that this kid needs help, it's clearly ignored.
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Post by Valbroski on Jul 17, 2017 14:20:24 GMT -5
Because this is, like, the 9th post of the same crap over and over. Each and every time someone gives the REAL advice that this kid needs help, it's clearly ignored. Exactly, it's all take with this guy and no give. If you're gonna be asking for advice this often, you better start giving advice too
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Post by Triple S: POOR on Jul 17, 2017 14:24:36 GMT -5
Because this is, like, the 9th post of the same crap over and over. Each and every time someone gives the REAL advice that this kid needs help, it's clearly ignored. Or to just accept it and get over it. Some girl he likes doesn't like him in the same way. Being an bunghole isn't going to change that. [/thread]
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Post by TheLastDude on Jul 17, 2017 14:45:57 GMT -5
Just let this thread die guys. Why is it so important for you to try and get this thread closed? Are you proud of yourself for noticing a trend within this persons posts? It's not hurting anyone and people are offering good advice, and those that aren't, are actually being entertaining. Why is so important for you to white knight for someone who is playing a game? In the beginning, people genuinely offered the guy help, but he either argued against what everyone told him, flat out ignored it, and did nothing but start crap. Now, he posts the exact same thing every few months, but just tweaks the story a bit hoping people will forget he did this in the past. Look at the questions he asks. They're loaded questions meant to stir things up. It's not real, it's just drama. Since you seem to like advice, why don't you suit up in that shiny armor for a worthy cause and try to find someone whom you can actually shame. That crap doesn't work on me.
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Post by Triple S: POOR on Jul 17, 2017 15:11:21 GMT -5
Why is it so important for you to try and get this thread closed? Are you proud of yourself for noticing a trend within this persons posts? It's not hurting anyone and people are offering good advice, and those that aren't, are actually being entertaining. Why is so important for you to white knight for someone who is playing a game? In the beginning, people genuinely offered the guy help, but he either argued against what everyone told him, flat out ignored it, and did nothing but start crap. Now, he posts the exact same thing every few months, but just tweaks the story a bit hoping people will forget he did this in the past. Look at the questions he asks. They're loaded questions meant to stir things up. It's not real, it's just drama. Since you seem to like advice, why don't you suit up in that shiny armor for a worthy cause and try to find someone whom you can actually shame. That crap doesn't work on me. Yuuuuuuup.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2017 16:19:16 GMT -5
Usually Triple S: POOR and I dont see eye to eye on anything, but he is 100% spot on in here.
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Post by BROKEN on Jul 17, 2017 17:58:19 GMT -5
Watch Goodfellas. Act like joe pesci's character Tommy DeSimone. No one will ever mess with you and you'll be feared. That's the inner New Yorker in me though.
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Post by theMOESIAH on Jul 17, 2017 18:46:44 GMT -5
Are you still in school? Find the biggest, toughest kid on the playground and take him out.
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Post by REAL REVY on Jul 17, 2017 20:10:49 GMT -5
Man up what what what. Keep it in your gut and feed the rest to a mut
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Post by theMOESIAH on Jul 18, 2017 0:07:43 GMT -5
Man up what what what. Keep it in your gut and feed the rest to a mut Someone please tell me this is the ball straight call guy.
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Post by Ben on Jul 19, 2017 0:07:38 GMT -5
Why is it so important for you to try and get this thread closed? Are you proud of yourself for noticing a trend within this persons posts? It's not hurting anyone and people are offering good advice, and those that aren't, are actually being entertaining. Why is so important for you to white knight for someone who is playing a game? In the beginning, people genuinely offered the guy help, but he either argued against what everyone told him, flat out ignored it, and did nothing but start crap. Now, he posts the exact same thing every few months, but just tweaks the story a bit hoping people will forget he did this in the past. Look at the questions he asks. They're loaded questions meant to stir things up. It's not real, it's just drama. Since you seem to like advice, why don't you suit up in that shiny armor for a worthy cause and try to find someone whom you can actually shame. That crap doesn't work on me. The thread is entertaining. The reply's are entertaining. Seeing as you have 6000 something posts in two years, it seems like you would enjoy board activity and jokes. Who cares if it's fake? Most people on here are lying about some part of their life anyway. Guess that humor crap doesn't work on you either, champ.
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