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Post by slappy on Jul 12, 2009 20:55:21 GMT -5
my parents just announced they are getting divorced.
So anyone else have divorced parents and can give some advice or information to me. Hell, any advice at this point would be pretty great as I'm just in shock and tears.
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Post by el kay are oh on Jul 12, 2009 21:01:57 GMT -5
it sucks. thats the only words that you can sum it up with. i believe your older so it'd going to effect you harder than it would someone under the age of 10 because they really grow up dealing with it. its harder for people closer to our age because we see our parents bond through those years, through thick and thin; than eventually just go down hill and see all the bad come out. advice? talk. if you leave it bottled up inside, you're probably going to hurt your parents and yourself because you'll lash out and have them feeling like their terrible for hurting you. in the long run you'll be happy because it'll be a healthier happier environment.
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Post by Epic Z on Jul 12, 2009 21:02:53 GMT -5
bro I feel your pain. When my parents told me this I couldn't believe it. I held back my emotion to the point of one day I just broke into tears. Let out your emotions and remember that even though they won't be living together they will always be apart of the family. Live one day at a time and don't think about the future. Don't be like " Oh but what's going to happen when.. ". Trust me it just makes it worse, you can't plan any of this you've gotten live each day to it's own. Remember things happen and people adapt. Things will get better and hopefully something good comes out of this like it did for me ( my dad and me became very close during the year it had happened). Good luck dude I definitely feel for you.
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Post by slipknotmaggot on Jul 12, 2009 21:03:10 GMT -5
It happened when I was 11. Believe me or not, but I ended but literally 'beating the living daylights' out of the guy who caused it. He was in hospital with a broken nose, arm and a shattered rib. Yes, I used a hammer.
I'm very sad to hear about your problem. Now, you'll get over it eventually, quote me on that. Hey, double christmas anybody?
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Post by Joe/Smurf on Jul 12, 2009 21:07:12 GMT -5
I haven't gone through this myself, but I know one of my close friends has. The only advice I can give is to not blame yourself and realize that -- sadly -- it happens a lot nowadays. Even though your parents have lost that spark, it doesn't mean either of them love you or care for you any less.
It's probably not much help, but it's the best I can do. Sorry to hear that, man. Keep your chin up.
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Post by Suckasays on Jul 12, 2009 21:11:08 GMT -5
I went through it. Perhaps it was my age at the time, but to be perfectly honest, it didn't bother me a bit. You shouldn't try to hammer in a screw or screw in a nail. If it doesn't work, don't force it. So if they aren't happy together, they just shouldn't be together.
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Post by King Bálor (CM)™ on Jul 12, 2009 21:13:37 GMT -5
my parents just announced they are getting divorced. So anyone else have divorced parents and can give some advice or information to me. Hell, any advice at this point would be pretty great as I'm just in shock and tears. Sorry to hear man. I never had to go through something like that. But sometimes it is for the best, if they have given their best to make it work.
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Post by Matt on Jul 12, 2009 21:17:01 GMT -5
My parents went through a messy divorce that ended this year. It is really rough. I don't know exactly how you are feeling about it so it is hard to help. Mine was pretty bad and went all over so I had a lot of experience with it. If you want to talk about it PM me as I may be able to help.
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Post by mnm213 on Jul 12, 2009 21:21:20 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear that. If you want to talk, I'm here.
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Post by Cottage Cheese on Jul 12, 2009 21:23:55 GMT -5
That sucks man, I don't have any advice because my parents are still married and even though I don't like my Dad it would still be wierd without him but anyways, i'm sure you'll get over it eventually.
Good luck.
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Post by slappy on Jul 12, 2009 21:26:38 GMT -5
Thank you all very much. Smurf, all I've been thinking is "What have I done wrong" and I just can't figure it out. And I'm sorry to those of you who have gone through this. This just ing sucks.
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Post by mnm213 on Jul 12, 2009 21:30:42 GMT -5
Thank you all very much. Smurf, all I've been thinking is "What have I done wrong" and I just can't figure it out. And I'm sorry to those of you who have gone through this. This just ing sucks. I don't know them but I'm sure its nothing got to do with you, so you can't be putting the blame on yourself.
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Post by Epic Z on Jul 12, 2009 21:33:24 GMT -5
Thank you all very much. Smurf, all I've been thinking is "What have I done wrong" and I just can't figure it out. And I'm sorry to those of you who have gone through this. This just ing sucks. Trust me you haven't done anything. One of my favorite lines form a song is "But then of course everything always happens for a reason I guess it was never meant to be But its just somethin' we have no control over, And that's what destiny is " Sure it's by eminem but I listen to that song whenever I feel down. Remember that they will both love you as much as they did and remember NONE of it is your fault. You cannot control what happens.
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Post by Kliquid on Jul 12, 2009 21:42:13 GMT -5
PM'ed you.
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Post by Hulkamaniac on Jul 12, 2009 21:47:22 GMT -5
You haven't done anything wrong Slap. Well, you've done lots of wrong things, but nothing that caused this. I've never been through this, but I know people who have. You're a strong guy and I know you'll be fine.
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Post by J-Swift on Jul 12, 2009 21:47:55 GMT -5
Unless you are your own dad or Your own Mom, it's not your fault. "Its not your fault."
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Post by slappy on Jul 12, 2009 21:52:00 GMT -5
You haven't done anything wrong Slap. Well, you've done lots of wrong things, but nothing that caused this. I've never been through this, but I know people who have. You're a strong guy and I know you'll be fine. lol, thank you, I needed a laugh. Thank you to those of you who have replied since I last replied.
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Post by MC2 on Jul 12, 2009 21:55:33 GMT -5
This really stinks man, Im so sorry. Just try to get past it, my neighbors parents are divorced and he turned out fine. It will obviously be hard in the beggining, but you'll make it through, your the almighty Slappy!
On the bright side, two christmases? Eh, th-I shouldnt a said that..
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Post by Kody on Jul 12, 2009 22:03:26 GMT -5
Hey man...the only advice I can give you is to stay strong, remember they both love you...even if they aren't in love with each other anymore. And most importantly, don't beat yourself up over it.
I know plenty of people with divorced parents, and they all go through the tough part...but eventually...you get used to it.
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Post by Mr. Show on Jul 12, 2009 22:39:55 GMT -5
My parents have been divorced for 20 years. I would give advice, but at this point I cant even remember what it was like anymore.
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