Wrigley15
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Post by Wrigley15 on Nov 4, 2013 13:54:03 GMT -5
Hey guys I have found myself in an odd situation. Over the last year or so I have found myself not hearing from my friends that much. I'm in college right now and the days that I don't have class I work. I enjoy spending my free time at the gym for about 2 hours a day, but when it comes to a social life,mine seems damn near non existent right now. I have 2 good friends that I will run to the mall with to get something or whatever see a quick movie. But alot of friends I had in high school and met in my college classes, I never hear from half the time. I know they are buisy sometimes, but not even a "hey how's it going man" text..nothing. I send those out just to keep in touch.
So here is my rundown. I don't drink or anything like that, but I will go on Facebook/Twitter and see that my friends will on occasion have people over for the game or have a bonfire and I never get a phone call or anything saying hey stop over tonight and hang out. Nothing! I made a little checklist in my head of all the times I went out with these guys and realized that like 95% of the time I had made plans and drove. Never is it ever vice versa. I know I'm doing the right thing by working and going through college for my bachelors at a junior college to save alot of money. I bought myself a car last year that I always wanted for year. But when it comes to my friends I'm damn near tired of them never inviting me anywhere and it isn't like I'm a complete ass to them. It's like the guy that does everything for people, but never gets something in return.
Has this happened to any of you before? I do a little "what have you done for me lately" in my head sometimes with them and I'm like ya know what, peace out dudes and trying to make new friends at a community college is like making friends at a train station. It's hard when everyone is on the go either going to class and then straight home.
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Post by 0,Y on Nov 4, 2013 14:17:18 GMT -5
I'm kinda in the same situation. I don't drink, smoke, use Facebook, WhatsApp or anything so basically many people think I'm uncool.
Best advice is to just keep going on with your life. You just bought a car, that's awesome. I'd try to make new friends and stick to your 2 good friends. Sometimes having just 1 or 2 close friends is a hell of a lot better than a whole lot of people you're not that close with.
Cool sig, btw.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2013 14:33:09 GMT -5
I've been experiencing this as well. Our schedules clash and a lot of my friends live closer to each other than I do so they hang out more without inviting me because it's easier to set up, we've just been getting more and more distant over the past couple years.
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Post by RollinsFan44 on Nov 4, 2013 14:40:40 GMT -5
I'm sure this has happened to nearly everyone at some point, just try and talk to your friends and tell them what's up, tell them that you are feeling left out, let them know your feelings. They are your friends and if they don't understand where you're coming from then maybe it's time to look elsewhere for friends, I had to do this myself and boy it isn't easy leaving your friends because they've outcasted you, but it was for the best so it had to be done.
Hope everything works out man.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2013 14:50:27 GMT -5
Honestly, I haven't been with a friend or so out of school for a good 3 years atleast. Now I've gotten kicked out of school so my social life is these forums. Lol
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Post by Punk on Nov 4, 2013 14:52:03 GMT -5
I do believe it's called 'growing up' just because somebody was popula in school, doesn't mean anything in the real world. That's how I see it anyways.
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Post by 0,Y on Nov 4, 2013 15:06:09 GMT -5
Honestly, I haven't been with a friend or so out of school for a good 3 years atleast. Now I've gotten kicked out of school so my social life is these forums. Lol what did you do? |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2013 15:07:44 GMT -5
Honestly, I haven't been with a friend or so out of school for a good 3 years atleast. Now I've gotten kicked out of school so my social life is these forums. Lol what did you do? Powerbombed my teacher through a table and yelled JUSTICE SERVED!!! Seriously though, just never went to any classes so they kicked me out. |
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Post by poolshostage on Nov 4, 2013 15:19:02 GMT -5
I'm straight edge so i'm considered "Uncool"
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Post by Scotty on Nov 4, 2013 15:19:38 GMT -5
When this happens to me I usually start just start talking to other people. Eventually the others come back around and you end up having double the friends you did originally.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2013 15:36:00 GMT -5
You have to leave your comfort zone, maybe try joining a club? I became the treasurer of the Wilderness Adventure club at my college so now I'm always hanging out with cool people and doing fun activities. So when my friends see me having fun, they are more likely to want to hang out with me than before, when I used to do nothing but stay at home and play video games all day.
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Post by Darkhawk on Nov 4, 2013 15:45:16 GMT -5
I recently stopped all contacts with all my childhood friends after High School, because for some reason they thought I was an bunghole which isn't true, because they always made fun of me and thought I was a bad friend, because I wasn't able to go every Saturday to the park to play sports and they think I'm a bad friend which is illogical if you ask me. I heard most of my friends didn't bother going to College either, so I rather not waist my time with them and moved on. I'm going to college right now, almost done with the semester and getting a job soon, plus I'm entering a wrestling school in January. Only thing worse than a real enemy is a fake friend.
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Post by Last Trent Barreta Fan on Nov 4, 2013 15:45:42 GMT -5
I just talk to my online friends I've had since high school. I only really only talk to one of my actual high school friends. My high school friends messages me when he wants to do anything, which is usually a comedy show in town, going to Wisconsin Dells or going Black Friday shopping. I was really popular in high school but learned really quick how quick THOSE friendships last -___-
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Post by Ian from 616Entertainment. on Nov 4, 2013 15:59:18 GMT -5
I'm straight edge so i'm considered "Uncool" Then get new friends. I'm a strange case because I have a lot of friends but I also love being alone. I've had no alone time these past few days and it's annoying. Three days straight I've had people over and we hang out until the sun comes up, which is always fun, but it leaves me no time for myself. My work schedule is pretty light this week so I should be able to keep up with friends and catch up on being a shut in, haha. It's not out of the uncommon to get the text, "hey, we hanging out or are you being a hermit?" All of my friends know I get a little weird sometimes and spend a few days editing video or plowing through a whole book. If your friends aren't cool with you and what you do, they're not your friends. Not really anyone here knows this because I never bring it up but I'm Straight Edge, too. I'll hang out with my friends who drink and smoke and when I'm on my third bottle of water one of them is bound to say "woah, buddy, you driving tonight? Take it easy." Get new friends, man. Not having people to talk to, bounce ideas off of, hang out with, etc., is no way to live your life. |
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Post by Brad on Nov 4, 2013 16:22:11 GMT -5
Start initiating plan making. You don't have to wait on someone to invite you.
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Post by sicko16 on Nov 4, 2013 18:11:14 GMT -5
Powerbombed my teacher through a table and yelled JUSTICE SERVED!!! Seriously though, just never went to any classes so they kicked me out. I hope you got 2 of your buds to help out! |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2013 18:12:22 GMT -5
Powerbombed my teacher through a table and yelled JUSTICE SERVED!!! Seriously though, just never went to any classes so they kicked me out. I hope you got 2 of your buds to help out! Yeah, Leakee and Tyler Black. Rad dudes. |
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Post by sicko16 on Nov 4, 2013 18:14:06 GMT -5
I hope you got 2 of your buds to help out! Yeah, Leakee and Tyler Black. Rad dudes. Well played Moxley, well played |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2013 18:20:27 GMT -5
I don't go out at all now I have had my little girl. I still keep in contact with friends through Facbook, Texting etc
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Post by poolshostage on Nov 4, 2013 18:20:56 GMT -5
I'm straight edge so i'm considered "Uncool" Then get new friends. I'm a strange case because I have a lot of friends but I also love being alone. I've had no alone time these past few days and it's annoying. Three days straight I've had people over and we hang out until the sun comes up, which is always fun, but it leaves me no time for myself. My work schedule is pretty light this week so I should be able to keep up with friends and catch up on being a shut in, haha. It's not out of the uncommon to get the text, "hey, we hanging out or are you being a hermit?" All of my friends know I get a little weird sometimes and spend a few days editing video or plowing through a whole book. If your friends aren't cool with you and what you do, they're not your friends. Not really anyone here knows this because I never bring it up but I'm Straight Edge, too. I'll hang out with my friends who drink and smoke and when I'm on my third bottle of water one of them is bound to say "woah, buddy, you driving tonight? Take it easy." Get new friends, man. Not having people to talk to, bounce ideas off of, hang out with, etc., is no way to live your life. I'm a loner, I be me, not phony  s and people don't like me for who I am unless they want a laugh and for me to imitate something so a teacher yells at me. |
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