Post by Marzec on Aug 17, 2014 18:02:44 GMT -5
So I've been gone off of the forum for about a year or so. I've popped in a couple of times but for the most part I stayed away. Last June, after 7 years of marriage, I discovered my wife cheating on me. I left her and moved 2 hours away from her. Her new boyfriend moved into MY home the day after I moved out. A month later she decided to deny me access to my then 3 yr old son and 4 yr old daughter. She made horrific accusations against me to Childrens Services to facilitate this. And then a month after that,on August 22, I was awoken by a phone call from the VA doctor telling me that I had cancer. And then 2 hours after that I was served at my door by a sheriffs deputy with an order saying that I was not legally allowed to contact or be anywhere around my children. August 22, 2013 officially became the worst day of my life. In September I had surgery that successfully remove a softball sized cancerous tumor from my lower abdomen/upper groin area. Going in for the surgery, I was convinced that I was going to die without ever seeing my two youngest children again. In October I took and PASSED a polygraph exam concerning the accusations against me. In November I took and passed a personality profile and a psychological evaluation administered by psychologists working with Childrens Services. It was also during this time that I found out that my kids were being forced to call the new boyfriend "Daddy" since August. Also during this time everybody was dragging their feet on the investigation. Finally on January 14 it went to trial. The psychologist who interviewed me testified that I did not fit the common profile of an abuser. Then 2 different case workers from Chilrens Services testified that their investigation yeilded no results. And then the councellor {who has a P.H.D in psychology} that my daughter had been seeing took the stand and said "this child show no signs of abuse whatsoever". Finally they put my now 5 yr old daughter on the stand and she says "Mommy and Adam told me what to say". Also that mom had told her that I was no longer her father, that Adam is now. The judge, my lawyer, and my ex's lawyer all said that they wish the court could force her to let me see my kids but it couldnt for some reason. In February I paid my divorce lawyer $2500 to get me time with my kids. Finally had court on May 11 and the judge gave me visits at Mcdonalds, with my ex present, for 2 hours every Saturday and Sunday. It was during these visits that I learn the extent that my little angels have been poisoned against me. Then on June 13, we finally had our divorce trial. My worthless attorney refused to fight and basically cowered to all of her lawyers demands. So for the past 2 months I have had supervised visits with them. Now, this coming weekend, I finally get to bring them home with me for a couple of days. Until I get a new lawyer and go back to court I only get them every other weekend. It sucks, but it's definitely better than the 299 days that I went without seeing them at all.It's going to take a long time to repair my relationship with them all because my ex wanted to be spiteful. On the upside though, shortly after I left my ex, I reconnected with an ex-girlfriend that I dated back around 2002-2003.She was actually with me when I got the first call accusing me of hurting my daughter. She never doubted me for a second. Also, her kids have once again become a huge part of my life. I loved those kids back when they were only 4 and 5. They are now 15 and 17 yrs old and I am very proud and happy to say that I've adopted them. Their mom and I are not quite back together, but we are the absolute best of friends and she's stood by my side through everything this past year. I'm very lucky to have her in my life and am positive that we will eventually reunite and possibly marry. I apologize for the long read, I just felt the need to tell my story. Thanks for reading.