zen411
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Post by zen411 on Aug 6, 2021 2:00:26 GMT -5
In considering backing the new generation arena crowd fund I was thinking about describing it to my wife and getting her approval if you will. As a grown up with a home and a child, we have shared expenses as do many of us. 250 for a toy ring and figures feels like a lot so I kind of need her to be cool with it. When there are bills, potential car issues, house expenses, etc etc... I was thinking about pitching it and couldn't come up with the right words to make it seem like a logical purchase and not end up on the couch. So,broadly speaking and not just about the crowd fund backing arena. How do you justify your collecting buying to your spouse or significant other? Have you ever had to explain how you spent so much on a preorder or on an ebay buy or on a crowdfund etc? Just curious everyone's experiences with this hobby as it relates to our relationships.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 6, 2021 2:23:11 GMT -5
You may not like my advice, but I'll give it.
Your only real obligations to others, in life, are your children. That's just my own feelings. If it doesn't impact anything that would negatively effect your children, the opinions of your spouse should not be a concern.
You could always suggest that she sleep on the couch.
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Post by razorrock on Aug 6, 2021 2:29:03 GMT -5
Everyone has hobbies and there are far worse hobbies you can have than collecting wrestling figures. I haven't bought anything for myself in awhile so I pulled the trigger on 2 of these. Plus I know a year from now I'm going to regret it if I don't get a couple of these now, possibly even paying more than I should for the figures. Buying it now to save money later.
If it makes you happy and you can afford it, do it.
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Post by jacobl18 on Aug 6, 2021 4:40:41 GMT -5
I keep all my figures MOC so I tell her these are investments that gain in value over the years! Lol
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Post by chaz on Aug 6, 2021 4:45:46 GMT -5
Family always comes first, but if she truly loves you and supports / respects your hobby then there wouldn't be a need for much of an explanation.
All depends on the budget I suppose. Good luck to you!
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Post by ddubs on Aug 6, 2021 5:05:59 GMT -5
I introduced it to my partner when I was selling a chunk of my collections and she can see the increase in price from when I bought it so she knows that they bring me joy but equally I have some figures that are purely investments. Basically, I spend the money on a select set of figures but they do retain some value down the line and so it's not like you've gone on a big bender and don't have anything to show for it or spent the money on clothes etc
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Post by Mongo Bears on Aug 6, 2021 6:17:30 GMT -5
I just explained the crowdfund project to my wife last night. In the beginning she knew nothing of wwe or action figures at all, but over time she has seen that they are hard to find because of demand. She also has seen me sell off some figures and the return is good. At this point..she trusts me and doesn’t really care
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Post by qdogg on Aug 6, 2021 6:57:09 GMT -5
Just allow her to spend money on something maybe you don't agree on that they want as well to even things out
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Post by jokerjohn on Aug 6, 2021 8:31:53 GMT -5
In my case I only buy stuff I want instead of all releases and sell off whatever I no longer want. I've shown my wife how much some figures are worth on the secondary market so she's at least knowledgeable I can re coup some of my spending. I'm also a person who spends next to no money on himself other than buying figures so I'm not throwing my cash in multiple direction on shoes, clothing etc. At the end of the day if you can set aside some cash here and there and still get your life expenses covered this shouldn't be a big deal. My bills are paid, we have food and my kids are taken care of. If this will make you happy and you can afford it then buy it and if you have to cut back on some of your other luxury spending if you have it like games, other figures or anything else. Also I'm pretty sure you wouldn't be against your wife making a purchase for something she wanted if you could afford it.
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Post by Fighter Hayabusa on Aug 6, 2021 8:37:58 GMT -5
All relationships are different. Me and the wife have separate accounts and we split the bills evenly. So as long as my half of the bills are paid and she pays her half we don’t care what each other spends their money on. She came home from work and I go “I just spent $500 on figs today.” She asked on what. I tell her it was that Kickstarter project. She’s goes “that thing you didn’t want” in which I replied “yeah, but they added Macho Man.” She immediately understood.
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Post by JNH2248 on Aug 6, 2021 9:04:50 GMT -5
I sort of went through the same situation years ago in the beginning. But as time went on and I would occasionally say I'm selling, she would say "I thought you were keeping those for the kids?" How the tides turn...Basically those who know there is a return may act like they don't but really do...
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zen411
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Post by zen411 on Aug 6, 2021 9:16:21 GMT -5
All relationships are different. Me and the wife have separate accounts and we split the bills evenly. So as long as my half of the bills are paid and she pays her half we don’t care what each other spends their money on. She came home from work and I go “I just spent $500 on figs today.” She asked on what. I tell her it was that Kickstarter project. She’s goes “that thing you didn’t want” in which I replied “yeah, but they added Macho Man.” She immediately understood. "Yeah but they added macho man" should be a line that fixes any situation. Lol
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Post by stc13 on Aug 6, 2021 9:16:30 GMT -5
My wife and I both have our respective hobbies, and we both make a point to communicate with each other about any "bigger" purchases we're thinking about. It's less about budget and more just about communication for us.
If it's something I really want, she's happy that I'm happy, and vice versa. We support each other in our hobbies and interest, whether it's something one of us is into or something we both enjoy. If there are any concerns about the cost, you can probably pretty easily explain where you could cut out $250 in buying to offset the cost.
We're both pretty frugal people, so I think that makes those conversations easier. But for us the key really is communication, having a strong handle on our finances, budget, and costs, so that when something like this comes up it's not something that really requires too much conversation unless it's one of us just gushing about how excited we are for the purchase.
For the stage/ring specifically, I'd explain that it's a limited time window to purchase, and something you're really excited about having as part of your collection. Helping her understand that this is something that has a short window to order, you can't "buy later" or find it in the store would help your case.
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Post by ~*Young $ Money*~ on Aug 6, 2021 9:22:33 GMT -5
Everyone has hobbies and what they like to do. I don’t know if she gets her nails done or such but if you don’t spend tons on figures already pitch it that way. I don’t get my nails done and all that. That’s the nice way to do it in my opinion.
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Post by Ron Waffle on Aug 6, 2021 9:33:39 GMT -5
My wife and I split all of our bills and have our own disposable income for hobbies etc. She finds it funny I spend so much money on my "dollies", but she can't really complain as she has two horses!
She is generally quite supportive of it all though and feigns interest at the right times 😀
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Post by CMW Toys on Aug 6, 2021 10:43:46 GMT -5
My partner and I have a bills account which we both put our share into, the rest of what I make is mine to do as I please ✌
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Post by nycgr81 on Aug 6, 2021 10:51:11 GMT -5
I backed 2 rings. I told my wife that when I eventually sell the second ring it will pay for both. So theoretically it isn't costing anything 😄
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Post by ckretro74 on Aug 7, 2021 16:26:16 GMT -5
I never understand why people do this? Ask strangers what they should buy or how to approach their partner.
Comes down to your own choice. Only you know your partner,your budget and your household expenses.If too much, don't, if you can,do it. It is ONLY a toy.
Not being a dick, but no point asking anybody here. It's a toy collector board. You know what most people are gonna say here.
Goodluck in YOUR decision .
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Post by coldblooded on Aug 7, 2021 17:17:31 GMT -5
Buy her something of equal value when you can.
I got my wife the new complete supernatural Blu ray boxset when it released which costed more than this new gen set.
Told my wife I'm cashing in the briefcase and backing the project 😂
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Post by jokerjohn on Aug 7, 2021 17:33:50 GMT -5
I never understand why people do this? Ask strangers what they should buy or how to approach their partner. Comes down to your own choice. Only you know your partner,your budget and your household expenses.If too much, don't, if you can,do it. It is ONLY a toy. Not being a dick, but no point asking anybody here. It's a toy collector board. You know what most people are gonna say here. Goodluck in YOUR decision . We are telling him what he wants to hear and if he gets in trouble we'll get the blame 😆
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