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Post by Midnight-Metal-Master on Sept 1, 2022 23:25:40 GMT -5
I wouldn’t want to start from the very beginning because it’s such a loooong story but to sum it up. 34yrs old, 2 kids and a 14yr relationship that has ended. A month ago I went from living with my gf and our two kids to living alone. So far it’s been tough. Are there any others out there that are living alone or been through a breakup recently?
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Post by K5 on Sept 1, 2022 23:42:37 GMT -5
give yourself some time to absorb and process, and then get back on the horse. it’s a huge change, but it doesn’t have to be all bad. you may make something you’re happier with in time. best of luck
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Post by Grumpyoldman on Sept 2, 2022 0:30:04 GMT -5
Sorry to hear that.
Don't immediately get into another relationship. Give yourself some time to be alone. Focus on work.
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Post by GreyHaze:Big Bad Booty Daddy on Sept 2, 2022 0:30:22 GMT -5
Hey there, sorry to hear about your situation. I found myself in a similar place four years ago. I was going out with someone who was pretty much manipulating me into thinking that I was insecure when in actuality I was being played for. After that, I pretty much dropped out of college and went through a dark time leading to where I am today. I don't have kids, but what I could say is be there for them. Don't worry about your ex... Go out, hang out with good friends and do ALL the things you've wanted to do or were restricted of when you were in a relationship. Pondering and sitting around thinking about the situation will only take you into a downward spiral. Let time do it's healing, but don't deprive yourself of your happiness. I'm not sure about the reasoning behind your breakup, but I guarantee your ex will be fine. Looking back, I would of gone out with multiple women, focused on my hobbies, and enjoyed my time as a 20 something year old. I realized that women aren't the key to my happiness, they can add to it, but at some point you have to be comfortable knowing they might leave someday. Whatever you do, don't go back if she was the one who broke things off. Actually, I wouldn't go back period. If you want to talk through PM, I'm here.
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Post by Midnight-Metal-Master on Sept 2, 2022 6:34:44 GMT -5
Hey there, sorry to hear about your situation. I found myself in a similar place four years ago. I was going out with someone who was pretty much manipulating me into thinking that I was insecure when in actuality I was being played for. After that, I pretty much dropped out of college and went through a dark time leading to where I am today. I don't have kids, but what I could say is be there for them. Don't worry about your ex... Go out, hang out with good friends and do ALL the things you've wanted to do or were restricted of when you were in a relationship. Pondering and sitting around thinking about the situation will only take you into a downward spiral. Let time do it's healing, but don't deprive yourself of your happiness. I'm not sure about the reasoning behind your breakup, but I guarantee your ex will be fine. Looking back, I would of gone out with multiple women, focused on my hobbies, and enjoyed my time as a 20 something year old. I realized that women aren't the key to my happiness, they can add to it, but at some point you have to be comfortable knowing they might leave someday. Whatever you do, don't go back if she was the one who broke things off. Actually, I wouldn't go back period. If you want to talk through PM, I'm here. Thank you, thank you all 🙏🏼 |
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Post by ~*Young $ Money*~ on Sept 3, 2022 9:04:10 GMT -5
It’s hard but think of it as for the better. You’re kids are always going to be there so be there for them. Try and get out and hang out with friends. Do stuff you enjoy. All the little joys that you had taken from you(everyone has some type of joy taken in a relationship) do again. You’ll end up back happy and when you feel the time is right date around. You need anything PM me
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Post by Mongo Bears on Sept 3, 2022 13:59:34 GMT -5
34 you are so young still and have so many possibilities.
Dating apps are a thing I wish was around when I was single. Just don’t forget to prioritize your kids
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Post by GreyHaze:Big Bad Booty Daddy on Sept 3, 2022 14:08:34 GMT -5
34 you are so young still and have so many possibilities. Dating apps are a thing I wish was around when I was single. Just don’t forget to prioritize your kids Trust me, you don't want to be on these dating apps. They're nothing but a validation contest. I had to delete all of them recently because it was effecting my mental. It's easier to make in person connections. It's just slightly harder in this day and age due to the vast options that women have. |
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Post by Escape The Rules on Sept 4, 2022 11:13:51 GMT -5
I went through a break up at the beginning of last summer. Crushed me. Never expected it. Had to move back into my mum's that summer. Became deeply depressed. Was in denial. Didn't think I'd get through it. Everyone telling me that it get's better was just empty words to me. Even though they are people who'd been through it. I think I romanticised the relationship to the point that I didn't feel like I could live without her. Was deeply suicidal every day for all of July and August of 2021.
I didn't care about anything anymore. Wrestling. Work. Nothing. I was just existing and wanting to go. No amount of talking to people was going to help and I didn't think anything could. The turning point came in the form of antidepressants at the start of last September which almost immediately started to help me. I began talking to people on dating apps and went on a date with a girl that had me genuinely happy for the first time in months and my enthusiasm and passion for things slowly started to come back. That one date changed my whole mood almost immediately and things got better. I managed to get a really nice place by November back in the same place I was living previously and got my life right back on track and back to normal.
My life almost exactly imitated Bum A** Corbin going to Happy Corbin. It was such a resurrection that I could only dream of having last summer.
My point here is that, those people who told me that it gets better were absolutely right. Even though I didn't see it or believe it at the time. They were one hundred percent right. I stopped blaming myself for everything and while I took responsibility for my own shortcomings and mistakes, I also opened my eyes to all of the gaslighting and lies that I ignored or didn't see before.
Things will get better for you my friend. Everything will be alright. Even if these words mean nothing right now, remember them.
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Post by fabulous1971 on Sept 8, 2022 13:45:48 GMT -5
Only one thing to do. R-K-O, bro.
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Post by windmachinefan on Sept 10, 2022 1:46:12 GMT -5
I've been there for sure. You just have to keep living. Don't let any situation or any person stop you from living your life, man
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Post by attidudanalagression on Sept 12, 2022 21:59:22 GMT -5
I wouldn’t want to start from the very beginning because it’s such a loooong story but to sum it up. 34yrs old, 2 kids and a 14yr relationship that has ended. A month ago I went from living with my gf and our two kids to living alone. So far it’s been tough. Are there any others out there that are living alone or been through a breakup recently? keep your head up man life does go on but I know it’s rough. Me and my gf got an apartment a few month ago, both of our first. Less than two weeks living there the whole building burned to the ground. We were both traumatized and our relationship hit a major rough patch we ended up not getting another place together and now I live alone. We are working through it but man I do stop and think how if that hadn’t of happened things were going pretty good and really looking up. Then I remember the apartment was actually rotting w mold infested w rats and roaches and I think maybe it was a blessing not being trapped there for a year? Them I think am I terrible for thinking that when like 28 families lost everything. Well yeah it was extremely traumatized and I really try not to think about it bc it was the craziest thing I’ve ever seen. So I don’t understand your exact situation but I get the life flipping thing when you thought you knew where it was going. I don’t know you but I’m sending love. Hang in there bro you got this just work hard for those kids and keep your head up |
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