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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2013 19:38:47 GMT -5
This thread is amazing.
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Post by Billy the Kid on Jun 24, 2013 21:21:39 GMT -5
I'll find an appropriate way to fix this one day, not today, not tomorrow, or sometime in the near future, but someday I'll find the right way. Right now she wants nothing to do with me , but after time has gone by, I'll find an appropriate way to make everything as right as it can be. I did show up unexpectedly, which did raise questions. That caused her to ask her friends what they thought and I'm assuming they said things similar to what was said in this thread. I can understand her listening to her friends that she's around all the time instead of me who was only around every once in a while. What she doesn't know is that I no longer have a romantic interest in her or that I picked up the lesbian vibes about her, thus questioning my intentions. Having said all that, I believe that if her and I sat down one day and I explained all of that to her and she got a better understanding, then I believe there is a small, very small chance that we can get past this and be good again. If not, I will go through the rest of my life with this being one of my biggest regrets. Biggest regrets? It would only be one of your biggest regrets if you still had romantic feelings for her. You said yourself that you saw every once and a while, and now you're making it out to be like you and her were attached at the hip during your "friendship." I can understand if you were friends with her for years and years but the fact that you didn't even know where she worked and had to find out was evidence enough that you and her were not that close to begin with. As everyone else said, you need to let this whole situation go and never talk to her again. You're digging yourself deeper into a hole on the forum with the replies you're coming back with. You're making yourself so immature and inexperienced when it comes to women that it questions how old you really are. When I was 25, I had a situation with a girl friend. We were friends, we ended up having sex, and it got weird after. We were no longer friends and despite being best friends before all of that, we never talked on a personal level again. Let it go, dude. Or let it consume you. You'll regret that for the rest of your life.
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Post by Valbroski on Jun 24, 2013 23:46:14 GMT -5
I'll find an appropriate way to fix this one day, not today, not tomorrow, or sometime in the near future, but someday I'll find the right way. Right now she wants nothing to do with me , but after time has gone by, I'll find an appropriate way to make everything as right as it can be. I did show up unexpectedly, which did raise questions. That caused her to ask her friends what they thought and I'm assuming they said things similar to what was said in this thread. I can understand her listening to her friends that she's around all the time instead of me who was only around every once in a while. What she doesn't know is that I no longer have a romantic interest in her or that I picked up the lesbian vibes about her, thus questioning my intentions. Having said all that, I believe that if her and I sat down one day and I explained all of that to her and she got a better understanding, then I believe there is a small, very small chance that we can get past this and be good again. If not, I will go through the rest of my life with this being one of my biggest regrets.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 25, 2013 2:51:37 GMT -5
I really am 25, but if some of you don't want to believe that, suit yourselves. This thread was for advice, not personal attacks. If people in this world can forgive people for lying, cheating, or being abusive in friendships or relationships, then I don't see any reason why I can't be forgiven for one mistake, which isn't as bad as some of you are making it out to be. I found out where she worked through the grapevine, which is a public place THAT ANYONE CAN GO TO AT ANYTIME, yes, it was unexpected. It's not like I was waiting outside her apartment in the middle of the night, that would definitely be crossing the line.
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Post by Hulkamaniac on Jun 25, 2013 6:58:00 GMT -5
I really am 25, but if some of you don't want to believe that, suit yourselves. This thread was for advice, not personal attacks. If people in this world can forgive people for lying, cheating, or being abusive in friendships or relationships, then I don't see any reason why I can't be forgiven for one mistake, which isn't as bad as some of you are making it out to be. I found out where she worked through the grapevine, which is a public place THAT ANYONE CAN GO TO AT ANYTIME, yes, it was unexpected. It's not like I was waiting outside her apartment in the middle of the night, that would definitely be crossing the line. You got all kinds of good advice here. You chose to ignore it and claim it was personal attacks instead. Then you started pushing the creepy button over and over and over again. The chick has made it very, very, very clear that she's not interested in you. You didn't accept that so you tracked down where she worked. Now she's made it even more clearer that she's not interested in you. You still will not accept it and you're now saying that she has to be gay because that's the only reason that she wouldn't be into you. Now you're talking about how you're going to obsess about this for the rest of your life until you can figure out why in the world she wasn't in to you. I can guarantee you she is over it already. Probably took her all of 5 minutes. Meanwhile you are still obsessed. Get over it. It's not healthy. There is nothing to save here. It's done. It's over. Move on.
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Post by 0,Y on Jun 25, 2013 7:29:56 GMT -5
this one has 'Thread of the Year' written all over it. Just wanted to leave this here so I can say I was a part of it.
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Post by Nick the Quick on Jun 25, 2013 16:49:47 GMT -5
I really am 25, but if some of you don't want to believe that, suit yourselves. This thread was for advice, not personal attacks. If people in this world can forgive people for lying, cheating, or being abusive in friendships or relationships, then I don't see any reason why I can't be forgiven for one mistake, which isn't as bad as some of you are making it out to be. I found out where she worked through the grapevine, which is a public place THAT ANYONE CAN GO TO AT ANYTIME, yes, it was unexpected. It's not like I was waiting outside her apartment in the middle of the night, that would definitely be crossing the line. You got all kinds of good advice here. You chose to ignore it and claim it was personal attacks instead. Then you started pushing the creepy button over and over and over again. The chick has made it very, very, very clear that she's not interested in you. You didn't accept that so you tracked down where she worked. Now she's made it even more clearer that she's not interested in you. You still will not accept it and you're now saying that she has to be gay because that's the only reason that she wouldn't be into you. Now you're talking about how you're going to obsess about this for the rest of your life until you can figure out why in the world she wasn't in to you. I can guarantee you she is over it already. Probably took her all of 5 minutes. Meanwhile you are still obsessed. Get over it. It's not healthy. There is nothing to save here. It's done. It's over. Move on. Her being gay has nothing to do with me, those were vibes I picked up a long time ago. Like I said, and I know people are having a hard time believing me about this, which is fine, I AM NOT INTERESTED IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER ANYMORE, JUST A FRIENDSHIP, NOTHING MORE. I feel like someone who has lost a close-friend. Past feelings and advice from people who don't know me are what caused this in the first place. She didn't seem bothered at the time I was there, actually left her post to talk to me most of the time because the place wasn't busy, it wasn't until afterwards that she wondered what was going on. The ONLY thing I did wrong was show up at work without her telling me where it was. If she told me, I don't think it would have been an issue at all. I do understand what you're saying, I'm the type of person that listens to a lot of situations and listens to every side of said situations. I'm not knocking your opinions at all. I respect your view of this. Am I obsessed with this? Probably, but I also feel it can be resolved one day as crazy as that sounds.
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Post by inkboy83 on Jun 25, 2013 16:56:44 GMT -5
Man this thread too funny, people are cutting promos on this guy all day.
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Post by Hulkamaniac on Jun 25, 2013 16:58:58 GMT -5
You got all kinds of good advice here. You chose to ignore it and claim it was personal attacks instead. Then you started pushing the creepy button over and over and over again. The chick has made it very, very, very clear that she's not interested in you. You didn't accept that so you tracked down where she worked. Now she's made it even more clearer that she's not interested in you. You still will not accept it and you're now saying that she has to be gay because that's the only reason that she wouldn't be into you. Now you're talking about how you're going to obsess about this for the rest of your life until you can figure out why in the world she wasn't in to you. I can guarantee you she is over it already. Probably took her all of 5 minutes. Meanwhile you are still obsessed. Get over it. It's not healthy. There is nothing to save here. It's done. It's over. Move on. Her being gay has nothing to do with me, those were vibes I picked up a long time ago. Like I said, and I know people are having a hard time believing me about this, which is fine, I AM NOT INTERESTED IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER ANYMORE, JUST A FRIENDSHIP, NOTHING MORE. I feel like someone who has lost a close-friend. Past feelings and advice from people who don't know me are what caused this in the first place. She didn't seem bothered at the time I was there, actually left her post to talk to me most of the time because the place wasn't busy, it wasn't until afterwards that she wondered what was going on. The ONLY thing I did wrong was show up at work without her telling me where it was. If she told me, I don't think it would have been an issue at all. I do understand what you're saying, I'm the type of person that listens to a lot of situations and listens to every side of said situations. I'm not knocking your opinions at all. I respect your view of this. Am I obsessed with this? Probably, but I also feel it can be resolved one day as crazy as that sounds. She rejected you so you want to still be friends in hopes that she won't reject you the second time. Seriously, hit the freaking eject button. Walk away. She no longer cares. You shouldn't either.
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Post by Halloween King on Jun 25, 2013 17:36:51 GMT -5
I'm not one who usually posts many advice needing threads, but some advice on this one wouldn't hurt. I want to know if this friendship is worth savings, here's the scenario. A have a female friend whom I met four years ago who I really don't want to lose. I fell in love with her the day I met her but was never able to date her because she had a boyfriend. I talked to her a lot throughout the first year and a half of knowing her, we were both in college then, I told her how I felt about her, but nothing changed, she considered me a friend still like she did before. I graduated and we went our separate ways. I always thought about her and wondered what it would be like to see her again. A year and a half later, I reconnected with her, while still having feelings. I saw her about once a month for six months, I still had feelings for her, she still saw me as an old friend. It was always me making the attempts to see each other, not her. I started to realize that a relationship was never going to happen, she didn't mention anything about a boyfriend, but I saw enough clues to lead me to believe she became a lesbian. We drifted apart again, I would text occasionally, sometimes getting a response, sometimes getting ignored. Here's were the problem finally comes up. Last month, I texted her asking to meet up because she was about to graduate. I wanted to see her because I didn't know if I would ever get the chance to again. She was all for it, and said, "I'll check my schedule" A couple days later I texted her because she never got back to me and she said, "It's not a good week, sorry" Eventually this turned into "I don't want you getting the wrong impression, I've just been really busy lately" because I asked her if I was being a bother. Last week is when crap hit the fan. I found out where she worked, not directly from her, but through the grapevine. It was a surprise to her, but she did seem happy to see me at the time, we even made plans to try to meet up again a few days later. When I texted her to set it up, I received this message, "after you left I talked to my friends and they said it was a little much that you showed up at my work, (which I agree with) I've never told you where I worked, (true) they said a lot of things that make sense to me and to be honest I don't think meeting up would be good. I'm sorry, I'm not trying to be mean I just don't know what your intentions are with me and without sounding mean it's kind of scary." Now let me explain. The only reason I showed up at her work was because I was upset that I couldn't set up a time to see her and I had a hard time believing she was too busy, and sometimes she ignored me. The friends she talked to have never meet me. I can understand why there would be questions rather my intentions from them and can also understand why my friend would be unsure of my intentions. I sent a message to her a couple days ago apologizing for showing up at her work unexpectedly, promising never to do it again, and telling her that I value our friendship and would never intend to do anything to ruin it. She didn't respond. I'm hurt that all I wanted was to catch up with an old friend, and now it's look like she's gone for good. I would say not to bother. There are so many women in the world that I would not waste my time with 1. You need to move on. If she is interested in you she will look for you. If you keep insisting she will only see you as pathetic. Distance yourself.
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Post by Darkhawk on Jun 25, 2013 17:42:57 GMT -5
Why is everybody still commenting on this thread, it's over already jeez. -.-
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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2013 17:46:00 GMT -5
You got all kinds of good advice here. You chose to ignore it and claim it was personal attacks instead. Then you started pushing the creepy button over and over and over again. The chick has made it very, very, very clear that she's not interested in you. You didn't accept that so you tracked down where she worked. Now she's made it even more clearer that she's not interested in you. You still will not accept it and you're now saying that she has to be gay because that's the only reason that she wouldn't be into you. Now you're talking about how you're going to obsess about this for the rest of your life until you can figure out why in the world she wasn't in to you. I can guarantee you she is over it already. Probably took her all of 5 minutes. Meanwhile you are still obsessed. Get over it. It's not healthy. There is nothing to save here. It's done. It's over. Move on. Her being gay has nothing to do with me, those were vibes I picked up a long time ago. Like I said, and I know people are having a hard time believing me about this, which is fine, I AM NOT INTERESTED IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER ANYMORE, JUST A FRIENDSHIP, NOTHING MORE. I feel like someone who has lost a close-friend. Past feelings and advice from people who don't know me are what caused this in the first place. She didn't seem bothered at the time I was there, actually left her post to talk to me most of the time because the place wasn't busy, it wasn't until afterwards that she wondered what was going on. The ONLY thing I did wrong was show up at work without her telling me where it was. If she told me, I don't think it would have been an issue at all. I do understand what you're saying, I'm the type of person that listens to a lot of situations and listens to every side of said situations. I'm not knocking your opinions at all. I respect your view of this. Am I obsessed with this? Probably, but I also feel it can be resolved one day as crazy as that sounds. Except for calling her a shady little lesbian on Twitter. Slightly uncalled for and kind of insulting to lesbian women but who am I to argue. Let it go. If she ditched you she's not a real friend anyway.
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Post by Billy the Kid on Jun 26, 2013 3:12:18 GMT -5
Why is everybody still commenting on this thread, it's over already jeez. -.- Because this guy just keeps blaming her and the fact that she may be a lesbian rather than him showing up at her work unannounced and asked to talk to her, like a stalker would. He also claims he wants to reconcile with her. He is obsessed with this girl and constantly defends his reasoning.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 26, 2013 3:53:35 GMT -5
You're in stalker denial buddy. Instead of expected the fact maybe you're not good enough for her instead you rather say "it's not my fault she was a lesbian anyways." If you sensed she was a lesbian why the hell did you keep going for her? And when you find this "appropriate time to make things right again" all you are going to get is a message on your answering machine that say "leave me the alone, I never wanted anything to do with you after college,, and you're starting to creep me the out." Stop being in denial and accept the fact she never really liked you and get over it. Damn.
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Post by 500DaysofNight on Jun 30, 2013 12:06:43 GMT -5
From what I've learned about girls over the years, you just can't force a relationship if they don't want it. Being nice, friendly, caring, trying to be friends... it just doesn't work if you feel more for them than they feel for you. Take for instance one girl I dated years ago... we broke up and she said she "needed time to figure things out". Well, me an all my glorious stupidity tried HARDER to get her back. I still called, I still came to see her... and she ended up with her ex about a month later and I lost it. I freaked out and said how she broke my heart and all that jazz, because it did hurt me very bad. Now she's pretty much hated me for years because of how I acted.
If I would've just sucked it up and left her alone and gave her time like she said, things might've turned out differently, but I was an idiot. I learned more from that than just about any other relationship I've ever been in. It kills me that she pretty much despises me, because I hate knowing that someone feels that way about me. All you can do is just get over it and accept that you screwed up and learn from it.
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Post by RSCTom on Jul 2, 2013 13:08:13 GMT -5
While your actions were inappropriate, she sounds like she sucks.
If she wasn't ballsy enough to just straight up say she didn't want to be friends with you or date you she hasn't been worth the time all along.
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Post by RollinsFan44 on Jul 2, 2013 13:12:08 GMT -5
While your actions were inappropriate, she sounds like she sucks. If she wasn't ballsy enough to just straight up say she didn't want to be friends with you or date you she hasn't been worth the time all along. Exactly! Took the words right out of my mouth .
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Post by Dat guy ova der on Jul 2, 2013 14:31:05 GMT -5
Instead of commenting on all of the other ridiculousness of this thread, I will simply answer the question you asked in the title.
No.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2013 19:07:07 GMT -5
While your actions were inappropriate, she sounds like she sucks. If she wasn't ballsy enough to just straight up say she didn't want to be friends with you or date you she hasn't been worth the time all along. You know it's a good thread when Tom shows up. But Tom said it great, actions were a little extreme to say the least but she at least should've given a yes or no, so to answer the question, no you shouldn't save the friendship.
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Post by Scotty on Jul 2, 2013 19:32:29 GMT -5
I think somebody needs a Snickers bar.
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