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Post by Brad on Oct 17, 2014 7:11:21 GMT -5
my daughter actually tried to go the child abuse route once after I spanked for telling me to "Go to hell" after I told her for the SIXTH time to clean her room (and had already taken her phone off her and wouldn't let her friend come over after she kept refusing to do it),and she was about 9. she told me she'd call the cops. I told her go ahead,and gave her the house phone. then I told her to enjoy her time with a foster family who she doesn't know,possibly having to share her stuff with other kids,the possibility of no internet or cable, the fact that her cell phone would be useless since it's my contract and my bill,so I wouldn't be paying it anymore. then I told her jail would be fine - I get fed everyday,get time to exercise and watch TV, meet new and interesting people, and maybe get some lovin' too! and I wouldn't have to deal with her crap anymore. she shut right up,and went to clean her room. You win the internet.
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Post by PJ on Oct 17, 2014 8:09:28 GMT -5
Was I spanked as a child? Sure, I was hit with belts, a switch, wooden spoons and one time a broom handle. But never once back then or now did I ever think I was abused. My after even told my teachers if I ever got out of line to give we a wrap if I got out of line. Never really happened except for one 4th grade teacher grabbing me by the collar and throwing my back up against the wall for embarrassing him in class.
And as a parent have I ever spanked my daughter? Yes, I think I did a total of 3 times when she was between the ages of 5 - 9. It was never out of anger. Never with anything other the palm of my hand. Never more than 2 smacks on her butt. And always over her clothes. She is 16 now. Knows right and wrong. Has a good moral compass and is polite and respectful. Polar opposite of some of the kids she was friends with in elementary school whose parents didn't spank their children in favor of "Time outs" that are out of control now and in all kinds of trouble in and out of school.
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Post by johnnyb on Oct 17, 2014 13:44:02 GMT -5
my daughter actually tried to go the child abuse route once after I spanked for telling me to "Go to hell" after I told her for the SIXTH time to clean her room (and had already taken her phone off her and wouldn't let her friend come over after she kept refusing to do it),and she was about 9. she told me she'd call the cops. I told her go ahead,and gave her the house phone. then I told her to enjoy her time with a foster family who she doesn't know,possibly having to share her stuff with other kids,the possibility of no internet or cable, the fact that her cell phone would be useless since it's my contract and my bill,so I wouldn't be paying it anymore. then I told her jail would be fine - I get fed everyday,get time to exercise and watch TV, meet new and interesting people, and maybe get some lovin' too! and I wouldn't have to deal with her crap anymore. she shut right up,and went to clean her room. This is the parental equivalent of a Marine Todd story. Congratulations.
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Post by Tyler Black on Oct 17, 2014 13:56:58 GMT -5
I feel half the things considered "Abuse" now aren't abuse. As a kid I WISH the worst I got was a spanking. My dad's real old school and doesn't take disrespect in the slightest, so when I see how most of these kids talk to parents or adults in general I think man my dad would've whacked the crap out of me for that. I've taken some pretty hard punches to my chest arms or head been hit with brooms threatened with a bat and even had a saw thrown at me that give me a cut from my eyebrow to my hair line. was it abuse? possibly. But the stuff that flys as "abuse" today isn't. spanking your kid on the ass is nothing and not abuse just good old fashioned corporal punishment
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Post by johnnyb on Oct 17, 2014 14:53:36 GMT -5
Your dad seems like an absolutely terrible person.
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Post by Tyler Black on Oct 17, 2014 15:35:22 GMT -5
Your dad seems like an absolutely terrible person. eh my dad is a weird person. Guy loves me to death he just had odd ways of enforcing his ideas of "proper discipline" and being a successful person. There was plenty of times I deserved it and plenty of times I didn't but it did make me who I am today
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Post by johnnyb on Oct 17, 2014 15:54:33 GMT -5
I don't know what a person would have to do to me short of trying to kill me or someone I love that would ever lead to me punching them or hitting them with a bat.
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Post by Tyler Black on Oct 17, 2014 16:12:17 GMT -5
I don't know what a person would have to do to me short of trying to kill me or someone I love that would ever lead to me punching them or hitting them with a bat. understandable, I should have phrased that better I was never actually hit with a bat merely threatened.
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Post by Halloween King on Oct 17, 2014 16:19:22 GMT -5
I don't know what a person would have to do to me short of trying to kill me or someone I love that would ever lead to me punching them or hitting them with a bat. understandable, I should have phrased that better I was never actually hit with a bat merely threatened. You know what though, you could slightly whack someone with a bat. Maybe a gentle tap? If you pantomime like you're seriously going to strike someone with the bat but pull back at the last moment, you'd put a good scare into someone. Im not saying I condone hitting anyone with a bat, im just saying I can see how someone would use it just to instill fear. Side story I work with a fellow who isnt quite right. One day some of us Drivers were sitting, and talking. One old timer goes on about how he came up with the fellow who isnt quite right. So we asked if the old timer knew why the fellow wasnt all there. That is when the old timer told us that the Fellow had been Ball batted. Apparently the Fellow had been an ok guy but once he was attacked with a bat he was never the same guy. It was a major thinker and sad to hear. Let that be a lesson to anyone who thinks hitting another human being with a bat is acceptable, you'll pretty much murder that human being, so never use a ball bat to attack someone.
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Post by Tyler Black on Oct 17, 2014 16:36:52 GMT -5
understandable, I should have phrased that better I was never actually hit with a bat merely threatened. You know what though, you could slightly whack someone with a bat. Maybe a gentle tap? If you pantomime like you're seriously going to strike someone with the bat but pull back at the last moment, you'd put a good scare into someone. Im not saying I condone hitting anyone with a bat, im just saying I can see how someone would use it just to instill fear. Side story I work with a fellow who isnt quite right. One day some of us Drivers were sitting, and talking. One old timer goes on about how he came up with the fellow who isnt quite right. So we asked if the old timer knew why the fellow wasnt all there. That is when the old timer told us that the Fellow had been Ball batted. Apparently the Fellow had been an ok guy but once he was attacked with a bat he was never the same guy. It was a major thinker and sad to hear. Let that be a lesson to anyone who thinks hitting another human being with a bat is acceptable, you'll pretty much murder that human being, so never use a ball bat to attack someone. Ah interesting as I have another somewhat similar story about hitting someone with a ball bat. I grew up playing baseball with a kid whose dad was a lot similar to mine. Long story short one day he snapped and he took a bat to his dad. his dad ended up calling the authorities on him and he was sent away to Juvi and then the military academy. caught up with him one day through chance at a coffee shop and he says he regrets that day every day of his life.
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Post by The Yes Man on Oct 17, 2014 17:18:37 GMT -5
my daughter actually tried to go the child abuse route once after I spanked for telling me to "Go to hell" after I told her for the SIXTH time to clean her room (and had already taken her phone off her and wouldn't let her friend come over after she kept refusing to do it),and she was about 9. she told me she'd call the cops. I told her go ahead,and gave her the house phone. then I told her to enjoy her time with a foster family who she doesn't know,possibly having to share her stuff with other kids,the possibility of no internet or cable, the fact that her cell phone would be useless since it's my contract and my bill,so I wouldn't be paying it anymore. then I told her jail would be fine - I get fed everyday,get time to exercise and watch TV, meet new and interesting people, and maybe get some lovin' too! and I wouldn't have to deal with her crap anymore. she shut right up,and went to clean her room. This is how parenting works people.
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Post by Supreme Cross on Oct 17, 2014 17:48:31 GMT -5
i think its ok for parents to spank children. it pisses me off that kids now a days don't get any discipline. that's why we have a lot of kids misbehaving and think they can do whatever they feel like. but its hard to spank children now. why? because the kids will say its *child abuse*. if they need a spanking, then they deserve it. back in the day when you misbehaved, you got hit with a paddle at school and then spanked when you got home. but they don't do that anymore cause its *abuse*. I think they need to bring the paddles back. I know there's going to be people that agree with me and probably a lot that disagree, but hey, we need more discipline. did that happen to you at school? no, i never acted up in school and im only 22 so they didnt have the paddles. i was told stories about misbehaving back then so that is why i say that and think they should bring it back for the kids to behave better. if you behave, then you should have nothing to worry about
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Post by johnnyb on Oct 17, 2014 19:51:37 GMT -5
my daughter actually tried to go the child abuse route once after I spanked for telling me to "Go to hell" after I told her for the SIXTH time to clean her room (and had already taken her phone off her and wouldn't let her friend come over after she kept refusing to do it),and she was about 9. she told me she'd call the cops. I told her go ahead,and gave her the house phone. then I told her to enjoy her time with a foster family who she doesn't know,possibly having to share her stuff with other kids,the possibility of no internet or cable, the fact that her cell phone would be useless since it's my contract and my bill,so I wouldn't be paying it anymore. then I told her jail would be fine - I get fed everyday,get time to exercise and watch TV, meet new and interesting people, and maybe get some lovin' too! and I wouldn't have to deal with her crap anymore. she shut right up,and went to clean her room. This is how parenting works people.
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Post by The Yes Man on Oct 17, 2014 20:01:27 GMT -5
This is how parenting works people. I was "beaten" as a child so I have all sorts of mental scars apparently.
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Post by mikey1974 on Oct 17, 2014 20:25:46 GMT -5
I was "beaten" as a child so I have all sorts of mental scars apparently. I guess I was supposed to let the "Go to Hell" comment slide,and tell her to clean her room again. for the seventh time. and if that didn't work,tell her for an eight time.
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Post by mankind on Oct 17, 2014 20:29:55 GMT -5
I believe in the power of the belt and punishment. No time out and no continous Warnings. It all depends on how bad the thing they've done was. If it was something silly just a warning
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Post by mikey1974 on Oct 17, 2014 20:38:23 GMT -5
I'd also like to point out she wasn't slapped because she wouldn't clean her room,but because of the comment she made to me.
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Post by Last Trent Barreta Fan on Oct 17, 2014 22:26:10 GMT -5
Your dad seems like an absolutely terrible person. eh my dad is a weird person. Guy loves me to death he just had odd ways of enforcing his ideas of "proper discipline" and being a successful person. There was plenty of times I deserved it and plenty of times I didn't but it did make me who I am today Mine too, I feel ya.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2014 7:12:52 GMT -5
I never got spanked as a child and grew up as a respectful well behaved person at all ages, never once did either parent physically attack me or spank me. Neither did they ever threaten it. They led by example and I grew up fine.
I now have two children and would never lay a finger on them, they also are well behaved, happy, and polite kids.
I'm not saying spanking is wrong or right, just saying it isn't necessary in regards to creating good behaviour and that I personally would never deliberately hurt either of my kids for any reason. Setting an example as a person is much more important in my mind.
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Post by 0,Y on Oct 20, 2014 3:16:59 GMT -5
I never got spanked as a child and grew up as a respectful well behaved person at all ages, never once did either parent physically attack me or spank me. Neither did they ever threaten it. They led by example and I grew up fine. I now have two children and would never lay a finger on them, they also are well behaved, happy, and polite kids. I'm not saying spanking is wrong or right, just saying it isn't necessary in regards to creating good behaviour and that I personally would never deliberately hurt either of my kids for any reason. Setting an example as a person is much more important in my mind. Leading by example. This is what parents should be there for. Great post.
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