theforce1727
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Post by theforce1727 on Oct 21, 2014 14:39:45 GMT -5
I would make him pay for the figures but then again i would also tell him not to bring his son over anymore if he can't watch him. I had the same problem with my niece. I told my sister if she can't watch her kid then she needs to keep her out of my room. This was back in May and i have not talked to my sister since. I know most people consider me a jerk but i don't really care. Taking a stance for what you believe strongly in is not being a jerk. Someone allowing their child to roam free and get into someone's belongings is the wrong thing.
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Post by PJ on Oct 21, 2014 14:52:36 GMT -5
Well, it is kind of your fault also. While your friend should have watched his kid better you could/should have done things differently. First off you should have a lock on your door regardless. But that is besides the point. Just because your teenaged daughters don't touch your figure what do you think is going to happen when a 6 year old boy stumbles across a room full of action figures?
Again it is your collection so you should have installed a lock to the door. But seeing you knew there wasn't one. And you should have known the kid would be bored and feel ignored sitting in the room with you two talking. He's 6 and was bound to go explore the house trying to entertain himself. Again knowing his age both of you should have done a better job keeping track of him.
Of course your friend should have offered to at least help with replacing them.
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tenup
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Post by tenup on Oct 21, 2014 15:54:32 GMT -5
I would honestly lose momentum in ever collecting again. Not to mention ever investing so much on any particular figure.
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Post by mrbiggs on Oct 21, 2014 16:37:06 GMT -5
Put a lock on the door today. Called my buddy but he hasn't answered or returned any of my calls.
Saw today where my Legacy Collection Millennium Falcon's box was also dented pretty badly. Just another expensive casualty I suppose.
Again, to everyone that thinks it's my fault, I will say that I shouldn't have to childproof my home because other people can't keep track of their kids.
My home is my space, my comfort area, so if I don't think I should have to leave all of my shelves bare from the floor to 5 feet up, then I shouldn't have to. I have had a lot of kids in here ranging from newborns to teenagers, and everything between, and nothing has ever happened until now.
I have had kids look, but not touch, because their parents wouldn't let them. I guess I took it for granted that parents should still be parents and keep their kids in check.
My parents would have taken the damages out of my hide! Not saying that's right or wrong, to each his own, but my parents gave me spankings... but only had to one time each (real spanking anyway), and I grew up knowing what to do and what not to do.
I don't have kids of my own and till would not had I not fallen in love with a woman with two daughters. I love them, but they are good kids and know what they are, and what they are not, supposed to touch. They were 4 and 7 when I came into their lives and they never touched any of my stuff. Not because I whipped them or anything, but because when they would try, I would (or their mom) tell them not to and keep an eye on them as much as possible.
Some of the people on here have made it sound like we, as adults, should make changes to our living spaces so the kids can run rampant. Just let the kids do as they please with no consequences. I don't agree with that and feel really bad for a world run by kids who have been brought up thinking it's ok to do whatever they want, trash whatever they want, eat, drink and sleep whenever they want.
I just think parents are too damn lazy these days.
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Post by PJ on Oct 21, 2014 17:24:33 GMT -5
My daughter wouldn't mess with anyone else's stuff when she was younger, but she would either be with us or in the kids rooms with the children whose houses we were at.
But the bottom line it is your collection and you should have made sure that there's no way a child (or anyone else) could just gain access into it without you. You had to have known your friend's poor parenting skills seeing you have known him for ages. Yet you chose to not to say anything to him to make sure his son didn't go into your collection room. You saw he was ignoring his son, but didn't still didn't mention anything to your friend about there being things that are off limits.
Again your friend should offer to replace, but it was just as much your fault as it was your friends, because ultimatly it's your collection and house. And you saw he was ignoring what his son was doing and still you didn't ask him to keep a better eye on his son.
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Post by JDSFullmetal on Oct 21, 2014 18:07:37 GMT -5
I just went into my workroom to start on some projects and noticed the top and side ripped where the tape is on my RSC Stone Cold. There's another expensive one! I paid over $250 combined for that one and Tully! $250 for 2 figures?!!! And I felt bad when I dropped $30 for the Elite 17 Kelly....... While your friend should have been watching his kid, but it's your house and you should know how most kids are.
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Post by charlotte's Mole on Oct 21, 2014 18:31:58 GMT -5
ive come across this "Its Just Toys" attitude, everytime a kid comes to my house they always wanna touch everything and their parents dont get how much my figures are worth or how important they are to me and it really pisses me off when i get their parents acting like i should give the kid a figure or something which ive felt obliged to do on occasion but nowadays i just keep my door shut and keep kids on a tight leash. I feel for you man but i think its a case of chalking it up to experience. Id try and play it down but when he is coming over again throw in some "serious" jokes like saying the kid is banned after "Hurricane" (insert kids name here) hit on the last visit or you are still trying to replace "The Holy Grail of figures" Tully Blanchard that was damaged last time. Make sure he knows what it really cost you and maybe he will come up with an offer of help replacing figures and at very least he might watch his kid better in future.
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Post by charlotte's Mole on Oct 21, 2014 18:37:03 GMT -5
or you could go down the line of going to the kids house and doing some revenge damage to his favourite toys.
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mrbiggs
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Post by mrbiggs on Oct 21, 2014 19:17:34 GMT -5
My daughter wouldn't mess with anyone else's stuff when she was younger, but she would either be with us or in the kids rooms with the children whose houses we were at. But the bottom line it is your collection and you should have made sure that there's no way a child (or anyone else) could just gain access into it without you. You had to have known your friend's poor parenting skills seeing you have known him for ages. Yet you chose to not to say anything to him to make sure his son didn't go into your collection room. You saw he was ignoring his son, but didn't still didn't mention anything to your friend about there being things that are off limits. Again your friend should offer to replace, but it was just as much your fault as it was your friends, because ultimatly it's your collection and house. And you saw he was ignoring what his son was doing and still you didn't ask him to keep a better eye on his son. I did ask him though. After I found him in the bathroom playing with his Ninja Turtle on the sink. I figured me saying something about him possibly getting hurt would be enough to bring out the protective dad in him.
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Post by PJ on Oct 21, 2014 19:25:59 GMT -5
Clearly your friend doesn't have "protective" dad in him. At least not in your house. You should have said something more direct. But now you know for future reference.
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Post by Nivro™ on Oct 21, 2014 19:30:50 GMT -5
Its just a toy. I see no reason to be overly pissed off. There's more important things in the world then plastic toys and there's nothing as valuable as family and good friends.
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The People's Poet
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Post by The People's Poet on Oct 21, 2014 19:35:02 GMT -5
1. None of this is your fault. Your 'friend' should have got off his arse to parent his child, not you. 2. You should'nt have to safe proof your collections in your own house - unless you yourself felt it necessary, these aren't dangerous weapons after all. 3. While I do see your predicament with letting this situation ruin a friendship, this guy isn't a real friend if he doesn't man up and do what is right by replacing your spoilt items. He is showing you absolutely zero respect by hiding from you. And what kind of example is he setting to his son, with his actions? My advice would be to go and see him, and if he refuses to at least help make things right, then you know where you stand with him as a friend. As i'm typing this, I feel massively pissed off for you. We should all be made accountable for our actions, only now-a-days it doesn't feel like any one actually is - that some how, the rules only apply to other people. I'm sorry for ranting, but it's people like you're 'friend' that really makes my blood boil.
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Post by mikey1974 on Oct 21, 2014 19:35:19 GMT -5
Put a lock on the door today. Called my buddy but he hasn't answered or returned any of my calls. Saw today where my Legacy Collection Millennium Falcon's box was also dented pretty badly. Just another expensive casualty I suppose. Again, to everyone that thinks it's my fault, I will say that I shouldn't have to childproof my home because other people can't keep track of their kids. My home is my space, my comfort area, so if I don't think I should have to leave all of my shelves bare from the floor to 5 feet up, then I shouldn't have to. I have had a lot of kids in here ranging from newborns to teenagers, and everything between, and nothing has ever happened until now. I have had kids look, but not touch, because their parents wouldn't let them. I guess I took it for granted that parents should still be parents and keep their kids in check. My parents would have taken the damages out of my hide! Not saying that's right or wrong, to each his own, but my parents gave me spankings... but only had to one time each (real spanking anyway), and I grew up knowing what to do and what not to do. I don't have kids of my own and till would not had I not fallen in love with a woman with two daughters. I love them, but they are good kids and know what they are, and what they are not, supposed to touch. They were 4 and 7 when I came into their lives and they never touched any of my stuff. Not because I whipped them or anything, but because when they would try, I would (or their mom) tell them not to and keep an eye on them as much as possible. Some of the people on here have made it sound like we, as adults, should make changes to our living spaces so the kids can run rampant. Just let the kids do as they please with no consequences. I don't agree with that and feel really bad for a world run by kids who have been brought up thinking it's ok to do whatever they want, trash whatever they want, eat, drink and sleep whenever they want. I just think parents are too damn lazy these days.
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Post by HVMMONS on Oct 21, 2014 20:19:25 GMT -5
I would ask your buddy to replace the damages by giving you money or some sort. I mean first of all, his parenting sounds terrible, second of all, if he's a collector, he should understand and replace them by either buying you new ones, or providing you money.
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Post by BoneCrunchingCustoms on Oct 21, 2014 21:38:39 GMT -5
Its just a toy. I see no reason to be overly pissed off. There's more important things in the world then plastic toys and there's nothing as valuable as family and good friends. This is ridiculous.
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Post by Nivro™ on Oct 21, 2014 21:46:23 GMT -5
Its just a toy. I see no reason to be overly pissed off. There's more important things in the world then plastic toys and there's nothing as valuable as family and good friends. This is ridiculous. You must not have any friends....or money.
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Post by Mox on Oct 21, 2014 22:21:29 GMT -5
You must not have any friends....or money. Lol. I like you. Totally agree. They are just toys. And that's why I mentioned "perspective" in my first response. I'd be mad too, but this is definitely a first world problem. Some of these responses are rully surrrius.
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Post by mrbiggs on Oct 21, 2014 23:32:23 GMT -5
You must not have any friends....or money. Lol. I like you. Totally agree. They are just toys. And that's why I mentioned "perspective" in my first response. I'd be mad too, but this is definitely a first world problem. Some of these responses are rully surrrius. Having friends or money really has nothing to do with it.
I can just guarantee that you could take anything in your house that you spent $500 to $600 (I am just throwing out numbers because by the time I add all my damage up, $600 will be on the short end), let someone destroy it, and see how much "perspective" you have then.
Let's say it's a tv, laptop, or ANYTHING else. I think some people are just saying they'd take it with a grain of salt because it's toys that were damaged.What if it was a gold chain or something? A diamond earring? Your wife's engagement ring?
Let me ask you this Nivro... I see you have a pic of some 49ers there and a quote from Bill Walsh... Let's say you had a team signed ball that was one of your favorite things. You had spent a lot of time trying to get it. It was the crown jewel of your collection... Now let's say that a friend of yours comes over with his kid, and while that friend isn't paying attention to what his kid is doing, he wanders over into your mancave, takes the ball out, and washes all the signatures off!
Or let's say you have a seat on the front row, 50 yard line to a 49ers / Seahawks game and that same little tyke got them and ripped them up! You just had them lying on your kitchen counter because they're in your house and you didn't feel the need to lock them up in a case somewhere because you thought this kid's dad might actually be paying attention to what his child is doing!
Would this be such a small thing then? Same scenario to you seXXXy... but with different teams or something lol. Whatever you care about.
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Post by SteveHulk on Oct 21, 2014 23:53:55 GMT -5
Your friend is definitely at fault here - he shouldn't have let his kid wonder about your house, and (being a collector himself) definitely shouldn't have just brushed-off the damaged cards etc. and left... it sounds as though he knew what damage his kid had done and, rather than do something about it, just guiltily upped and ran.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 22, 2014 0:05:03 GMT -5
Some of you guys are pretty judgmental. I collect some figures moc and Bart Simpson figures and those "pieces of plastic" are some of the only joy I have in my life. I would be devastated if they were destroyed by someone and especially angry if I received no apology.
Judge all you want but to people like me they are more than plastic.
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