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Post by Dex on Jul 8, 2016 9:53:08 GMT -5
Ask her out. Escalate with contact, see how she responds. If not, move on like she never existed. She will likely come back if she wants you in some form.
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I just read over some of the other posts in this thread. I wouldn't blatantly tell her that you like her online. It comes off as a cowardly move, and one of the worst things that you probably can do is to put all of the power in her hands. I would just ask her out on a date, on the said date, escalate with contact throughout, if she rejects then you know your answer non-verbally.
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Post by motleyspoisongun on Jul 8, 2016 13:08:28 GMT -5
1st: its obvious neither one of you are REALLY that into the other of you are both still on Tinder. If you were really that into her, you would've deleted your account.
2nd: For all you know she may like you & she kept her Tinder acct to see if you still have yours (its been done to me on a different site) & since she sees you still have yours she may think your not interested in anything serious. It may not be fair but thats how some girls operate, trying to keep tabs to see what you're about before they invest any real time on you.
3rd: Its not that big of a deal that she likes your pics on facebook, just cause she likes your pics doesn't mean she wants you, she just may think its a good pic of you or thinks you're cute but again, just cause she thinks your cute doesn't mean she wants to be with you.
4th: The fact that this has been going on for about a month & a half and you have made zero movement forward & you haven't hung out since that 1st time, its pretty clear, you're probably not even in the friend zone, you're in the acquaintance zone or facebook friendzone. Im not exactly sure why you would continue wasting your time pursuing her. If you need to know something, grow a set & ask her.
5th: How old are you? Is this the 1st girl you've ever went on a date with?It's pretty weird you go on 1 date with a girl & every other girl you go out with you compare them to her. You went out once & you didn't even hit it! Whats there to compare?? How much do you even know about her, really? What do you know about her thats so deep that you have to compare her to other women after a date that lasted a couple hours?
Sounds to me like you are very inexperienced when it comes to women and you just need to move on. As I said of you haven't hung out with her since your 1st date over a month ago, its crystal clear she doesnt like you like that
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Post by Negan™ on Jul 8, 2016 13:37:17 GMT -5
1st: its obvious neither one of you are REALLY that into the other of you are both still on Tinder. If you were really that into her, you would've deleted your account. 2nd: For all you know she may like you & she kept her Tinder acct to see if you still have yours (its been done to me on a different site) & since she sees you still have yours she may think your not interested in anything serious. It may not be fair but thats how some girls operate, trying to keep tabs to see what you're about before they invest any real time on you. 3rd: Its not that big of a deal that she likes your pics on facebook, just cause she likes your pics doesn't mean she wants you, she just may think its a good pic of you or thinks you're cute but again, just cause she thinks your cute doesn't mean she wants to be with you. 4th: The fact that this has been going on for about a month & a half and you have made zero movement forward & you haven't hung out since that 1st time, its pretty clear, you're probably not even in the friend zone, you're in the acquaintance zone or facebook friendzone. Im not exactly sure why you would continue wasting your time pursuing her. If you need to know something, grow a set & ask her. 5th: How old are you? Is this the 1st girl you've ever went on a date with?It's pretty weird you go on 1 date with a girl & every other girl you go out with you compare them to her. You went out once & you didn't even hit it! Whats there to compare?? How much do you even know about her, really? What do you know about her thats so deep that you have to compare her to other women after a date that lasted a couple hours? Sounds to me like you are very inexperienced when it comes to women and you just need to move on. As I said of you haven't hung out with her since your 1st date over a month ago, its crystal clear she doesnt like you like that 1. In fairness, I kinda cooled off on the Tinder thing after I met her. I didn't go on it for like weeks after cause I wanted to make a proper go of it with her.
2. True, but I doubt it somehow. She seems shy but she rarely ever talks to me unless I talk to her first. But I understand most girls don't talk first anyway. As childish as it sounds.
3. Oh I know. Most of the time, liking someones picture on Facebook means nothing. However from my point of view, and I imagine most guys point of view... If I like someone's Facebook pic, usually it means I'm giving them a hint though. Maybe that's just me. Unless it's a friend or something like that.
4. You're right on this. Progress should have been made sooner, I regret that. Now I'm cautious about looking desperate cause it's been so long since I last saw her. I did ask her out again pretty quick, but she answered another part of my text instead. Maybe she was unsure or just not into me, maybe she didn't see it, I dunno.
5. I'm 23. And yeah, this is the first girl I went on a date with. I guess "comparing" is a bad way to word it. Its not like I'm saying "Oh this other girl isn't as pretty as her, blah blah blah" - I'm into her and if I even have a slight chance with her, I don't want to date anyone else. That's what I mean. It's like I need to be told "no" so I can move onto someone else. I don't want any "What Ifs" hanging over me.
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Post by Negan™ on Jul 8, 2016 13:39:30 GMT -5
Ask her out. Escalate with contact, see how she responds. If not, move on like she never existed. She will likely come back if she wants you in some form. EDIT: I just read over some of the other posts in this thread. I wouldn't blatantly tell her that you like her online. It comes off as a cowardly move, and one of the worst things that you probably can do is to put all of the power in her hands. I would just ask her out on a date, on the said date, escalate with contact throughout, if she rejects then you know your answer non-verbally. My friend says I should have kissed her on the first date. Be spontaneous. As long as you have the confidence, it won't be creepy.
I always thought that was a bad idea, but maybe he's right. I hugged her instead. From my experience - Not a good move. Girls don't like sweet and cute, they want someone who'll go for it and surprise them.
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Post by Ben - #6 Munchie on Jul 8, 2016 13:45:35 GMT -5
Why do you care if you look foolish? Surely if she says she's not into you then you move on and it won't matter if you look foolish. Either way, just man up and ask her.
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Post by Negan™ on Jul 8, 2016 13:48:50 GMT -5
Why do you care if you look foolish? Surely if she says she's not into you then you move on and it won't matter if you look foolish. Either way, just man up and ask her. It can get pretty embarrassing if I see her on the street. She'll probably tell her friends blah blah blah.
I suppose it doesn't matter anyway. Worst case scenario - She doesn't date me. She's not dating me anyway. So I lose nothing at the end of the day.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2016 13:53:08 GMT -5
Out of curiosity, how will I look more foolish? I can potentially save myself a lot of dignity if I just say nothing as she'll assume I wasn't that into her.
I'm leaning more towards "going for it" anyway. Its not like I have anything to lose. I mean, I'll probably feel embarrassed but I'm sure I'll get over it.
...the longer you keep this up the more foolish you will look... dude we have all been there.. go for it god dammit You are not saving any dignity by not saying anything... and the most foolish thing a person could do is not take a chance and regret it in the future.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2016 14:04:43 GMT -5
I dated a girl for 2 years, she dumped me, about 3 hours later I was already in pound town with another girl. Move on, life is short, ain't nobody got time to sit and be all downer about that crap.
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Post by Dex on Jul 8, 2016 14:29:36 GMT -5
Ask her out. Escalate with contact, see how she responds. If not, move on like she never existed. She will likely come back if she wants you in some form. EDIT: I just read over some of the other posts in this thread. I wouldn't blatantly tell her that you like her online. It comes off as a cowardly move, and one of the worst things that you probably can do is to put all of the power in her hands. I would just ask her out on a date, on the said date, escalate with contact throughout, if she rejects then you know your answer non-verbally. My friend says I should have kissed her on the first date. Be spontaneous. As long as you have the confidence, it won't be creepy.
I always thought that was a bad idea, but maybe he's right. I hugged her instead. From my experience - Not a good move. Girls don't like sweet and cute, they want someone who'll go for it and surprise them.
Go for it, shoot for the stars, and if you fail you move on. She will either come back, or she won't, but by then you will have foound someone else. Who cares about friends gossiping? That means you are actively on her mind. You are the topic of discussion. You are that important.
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Post by Ben - #6 Munchie on Jul 8, 2016 14:30:47 GMT -5
Why do you care if you look foolish? Surely if she says she's not into you then you move on and it won't matter if you look foolish. Either way, just man up and ask her. It can get pretty embarrassing if I see her on the street. She'll probably tell her friends blah blah blah.
I suppose it doesn't matter anyway. Worst case scenario - She doesn't date me. She's not dating me anyway. So I lose nothing at the end of the day.
Again, why do you care? The best thing you can ever do in life is not give a crap what people think of you
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Post by mrassbillygunn on Jul 8, 2016 14:38:11 GMT -5
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Post by BIG MCLARGEHUGE on Jul 8, 2016 15:04:31 GMT -5
Girl advice on a wrestling toy forum.... Lol
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Post by TheLastDude on Jul 8, 2016 15:06:48 GMT -5
It's been over a month, nothing has happened...and you still haven't moved on? Come on bro.
If you want an honest hard opinion...you seem a little stalkerish at this point. I'm sure that's not how you're trying to come across, but you're holding on to "she likes my pictures on Facebook".
If she was into you, when you said let's go out again she would have said "where and when". She didn't miss that part of the text, she blew you off.
Oh, and her telling her friends anything about you only matters if you live on Gilligan's Island.
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Post by snatch on Jul 8, 2016 18:01:06 GMT -5
If she was interested she would of already responded.
As much as this might hurt, but on to the next.
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Post by Negan™ on Jul 8, 2016 18:02:00 GMT -5
It's been over a month, nothing has happened...and you still haven't moved on? Come on bro. If you want an honest hard opinion...you seem a little stalkerish at this point. I'm sure that's not how you're trying to come across, but you're holding on to "she likes my pictures on Facebook". If she was into you, when you said let's go out again she would have said "where and when". She didn't miss that part of the text, she blew you off. Oh, and her telling her friends anything about you only matters if you live on Gilligan's Island. We still talk from time to time.
And yeah, that's what I got out of it.
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Post by Negan™ on Jul 8, 2016 18:31:18 GMT -5
If she was interested she would of already responded. As much as this might hurt, but on to the next. She does respond to me though? I haven't asked her out since that one time.
Look, I'm not saying "Oh, she liked my picture on Facebook, she obviously wants to be with me" - I just thought it was worth mentioning because she hasn't totally ignored me. That can only be a good sign, right? And lets not forget, she matched with me and agreed to meet up with me, so she must have thought I was a bit decent looking. Unless I completely catfished her when I met her. Which might also be a small possibility lol.
Some girls you have to work for. It can be hard but in the end it's worth it.
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Post by Triple S on Jul 8, 2016 19:20:02 GMT -5
You asked her out for coffee and she didn't bother responding to that text. There's your answer.
She read that text and decided to not respond to it.
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Post by BoJack Hogan on Jul 8, 2016 19:24:56 GMT -5
She doesn't like you like that. She'd respond to you asking her out and definitely wouldn't have ignored that part of the message. She doesn't have the heart to break yours. She can't be with you......right now......or ever.....because she doesn't want to.
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Post by Negan™ on Jul 8, 2016 19:41:14 GMT -5
She doesn't like you like that. She'd respond to you asking her out and definitely wouldn't have ignored that part of the message. She doesn't have the heart to break yours. She can't be with you......right now......or ever.....because she doesn't want to. I would be a little let down about it but my heart wouldn't be broken. I only met her once.
Besides I have other options who've agreed to go on a date with me. Admittedly I'm not as into them as I am with her, but still.
I just don't get why she still talks to me and likes my pictures and stuff if she's not into me in the slightest bit? Plenty of girls have turned me down and just moved on from me. I was fine with that. When I'm not into a girl, I wouldn't give her "hope" (so to speak) by texting her and liking her pictures.
Maybe it was the wrong time to ask her out again before. We talk on Snapchat and sometimes the text can disappear if you open and close it too quickly.
You may very well be right, but I still feel like its worth a shot. I will be completely fine with it either way.
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Post by Negan™ on Jul 8, 2016 19:44:35 GMT -5
You asked her out for coffee and she didn't bother responding to that text. There's your answer. She read that text and decided to not respond to it. I'm not sure if she read it though. She probably did. Like I said in my previous post, Snapchat can act up sometimes so maybe my second message was the only one that showed up.
Another thing, a while back she sent a Snapchat out and I told her she looked great. She was typing for a bit and then didn't reply.
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