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Post by Tim of thee on Sept 7, 2011 14:00:08 GMT -5
I agree that you should not move
I've had bad neighbors before but they all have moved away
I think you should be more aggressive with your tactics
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Post by Drew Yorkski on Sept 7, 2011 14:02:23 GMT -5
That sucks but you can solve it with one thing: File a restraining order against her. She cannot have any contact with you or be around you or your house. Let them know that this woman keeps harassing you and will not leave you alone and that you fear for the well being of yourself and your house hold. That oughta do the trick. Don't give in to that ****! KEEP ON FIGHTING! Best of luck to you!
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Post by John Zero on Sept 7, 2011 14:03:12 GMT -5
Maybe not exactly sue, but fight back against her. If you're not doing anything wrong and yet she's out talking crap about you, wouldn't that be slander? The housing market is awful (around here at least). Don't let her win. Put up a "No Trespassing" sign on your fence and call the cops if she comes around to feed your dogs again. That's the thing. If I do that stuff, then I'm just acting as childish and immature as she is. I haven't really won at all. I wouldn't really consider putting up a "No Trespassing" sign childish. I would point out to animal control that while she claims your dogs are barking all night, she sure has no issue coming over and feeding them against your wishes. I know wouldn't want someone coming by and feeding my dog who knows what, without me saying it was ok. |
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Post by MC2 on Sept 7, 2011 14:06:30 GMT -5
The fact that your being so pressured to move from your house because of your estranged neighbor is ridiculous. Do you ever give in to what she does? If you ignore all the stuff she does she might get bored and stop.
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Post by Hulkamaniac on Sept 7, 2011 14:06:53 GMT -5
That's the thing. If I do that stuff, then I'm just acting as childish and immature as she is. I haven't really won at all. I wouldn't really consider putting up a "No Trespassing" sign childish. I would point out to animal control that while she claims your dogs are barking all night, she sure has no issue coming over and feeding them against your wishes. I know wouldn't want someone coming by and feeding my dog who knows what, without me saying it was ok. I actually talked to her about that. Made no difference. I was as diplomatic as I could be. I walked over there, told her that "someone" had been feeding my dogs and it was making them sick since they were on special diets. (Bald faced lie, but she didn't know that.) I asked if she had seen anyone around the fence or anyone feeding them. She said she hadn't seen anyone at all and would keep an eye out. I try to be nice. It just doesn't work. You can't be nice to a hateful person and win. |
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Post by Hulkamaniac on Sept 7, 2011 14:09:36 GMT -5
That sucks but you can solve it with one thing: File a restraining order against her. She cannot have any contact with you or be around you or your house. Let them know that this woman keeps harassing you and will not leave you alone and that you fear for the well being of yourself and your house hold. That oughta do the trick. Don't give in to that ****! KEEP ON FIGHTING! Best of luck to you! She lives next door. Just her sitting on her front porch is within 100 feet of me. That's not going to work at all. I know she's got restraining orders out against several other neighbors. There's one guy on the street who really is bat nuts crazy. On meds and everything. She harassed him until he actually started doing stuff to her and her property 'cuz he's crazy and doesn't understand. Now they both have mutual restraining orders. It's insanity. She's like 80 years ago. Me claiming that I'm afraid for my life isn't going to fly. I could take her in a fair fight in 2 seconds. I could take her in an unfair fight in about 5 seconds. |
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Post by Drew Yorkski on Sept 7, 2011 14:09:55 GMT -5
I wouldn't really consider putting up a "No Trespassing" sign childish. I would point out to animal control that while she claims your dogs are barking all night, she sure has no issue coming over and feeding them against your wishes. I know wouldn't want someone coming by and feeding my dog who knows what, without me saying it was ok. I actually talked to her about that. Made no difference. I was as diplomatic as I could be. I walked over there, told her that "someone" had been feeding my dogs and it was making them sick since they were on special diets. (Bald faced lie, but she didn't know that.) I asked if she had seen anyone around the fence or anyone feeding them. She said she hadn't seen anyone at all and would keep an eye out. I try to be nice. It just doesn't work. You can't be nice to a hateful person and win. There's something you can fire back. See if you can take pictures of whenever she tries to snoop around your house and feed your dogs. Take that to the authorities and tell them you have constantly told this woman to not come near your home and feed your dogs because they are on "special diets". |
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Post by Hulkamaniac on Sept 7, 2011 14:10:42 GMT -5
That's exactly what I told the animal control officer. He said the law is not written that way. I asked him if I could call and claim that his dogs were barking and sign a complaint and get him cited. He said that since what I would be signing would be a legal document I'd basically be lieing and could be charged with making a false report. Otherwise, I could do it. The burden then would be on him to prove that I was making a false report. It's a BS ordinance. Honestly dude, I would fight that poop tooth and nail. I've been there for about 6 years. It's been going on about 3-4 years of that time. I honestly don't have the energy to fight it in any more. I'm tired of fighting windmills. |
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Post by Oskanowski on Sept 7, 2011 14:35:03 GMT -5
She just has a crush on you. It's like the girls in school that would always annoy you when they liked you. 
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Post by hbkjason on Sept 7, 2011 15:00:29 GMT -5
Just sit tight my good man yo said she is 80 years old well I don't know what its like in the states but here in the UK its really hard to get a good price for your house at the moment and thats even if your able to sell it. I mean father time will probably take care of her before you can sell your house.
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Post by Captain d00m - Mr. 3000 on Sept 7, 2011 15:59:34 GMT -5
Really surprised no one has given the essential advice. RKO her.
Dont move, thats letting her win. This fight is not over. Its only just begun. Put a no trespassing sign up, if she violates that, call the cops. Keep a camera with you and record any crapshe pulls on you. Keep fighting the good fight!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 7, 2011 15:59:43 GMT -5
Set up a camera. It can capture everything and nothing.(i.e. your dogs not barking)
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Post by Hulkamaniac on Sept 7, 2011 16:09:45 GMT -5
Set up a camera. It can capture everything and nothing.(i.e. your dogs not barking) Which she'll then claim was faked or is footage of a different date/time than she's complaining about. I just play this out in my head and I don't see any way I can win at this. If I play her game and start filing complaints about her cat crapping in my yard, calling the cops on her for every little pissant thing that I'm better off just ignoring, then I don't win. I'm just as bad as her and the problem just escalates. If I ignore her, she keeps up her crazy town cafe routine and I start getting citations right and left because she's willing to lie about me. I can't win that way either. All I want in the world is for her to leave me the  alone. That's it. Just let me do my thing and don't bug me. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 7, 2011 16:27:53 GMT -5
Set up a camera. It can capture everything and nothing.(i.e. your dogs not barking) Which she'll then claim was faked or is footage of a different date/time than she's complaining about. I just play this out in my head and I don't see any way I can win at this. If I play her game and start filing complaints about her cat crapping in my yard, calling the cops on her for every little pissant thing that I'm better off just ignoring, then I don't win. I'm just as bad as her and the problem just escalates. If I ignore her, she keeps up her crazy town cafe routine and I start getting citations right and left because she's willing to lie about me. I can't win that way either. All I want in the world is for her to leave me the alone. That's it. Just let me do my thing and don't bug me. It's not her call to decide what is fake or not. She is not the higher authority. If she's about 80, she's going to die soon anyway. Everyone will win then. |
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Post by Hulkamaniac on Sept 7, 2011 16:32:35 GMT -5
Which she'll then claim was faked or is footage of a different date/time than she's complaining about. I just play this out in my head and I don't see any way I can win at this. If I play her game and start filing complaints about her cat crapping in my yard, calling the cops on her for every little pissant thing that I'm better off just ignoring, then I don't win. I'm just as bad as her and the problem just escalates. If I ignore her, she keeps up her crazy town cafe routine and I start getting citations right and left because she's willing to lie about me. I can't win that way either. All I want in the world is for her to leave me the alone. That's it. Just let me do my thing and don't bug me. It's not her call to decide what is fake or not. She is not the higher authority. If she's about 80, she's going to die soon anyway. Everyone will win then. The burden of proof is on me to proof I'm innocent. It's not on her to prove that I'm guilty. She just says that I'm guilty, then I am. I have no recourse. |
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Post by Mattie! on Sept 7, 2011 16:34:59 GMT -5
Tell the old bint to mind her own business & get on with her life or you can ask her whats her beef with you, no need to move
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Post by Quanthor on Sept 7, 2011 16:40:05 GMT -5
I was fortunate enough to move next door to somebody that I get along with. We hang out, throw down "cool ones", BS and all that neighborly stuff. He's also an out of work contractor and has a bazillion tools, so he's been very generous in loaning me stuff that I can use and I also get to pick his brain for knowledge. It's awesome.
You just never know though until you move. It'd be awesome if you could have trial periods before you buy a home, that way you know the conditions you're going to be dealing with.
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Post by T R W on Sept 7, 2011 16:51:55 GMT -5
I see no other solution than for you to sell your house in a bad housing market, and buy a new one.
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Post by Hulkamaniac on Sept 7, 2011 17:55:36 GMT -5
It would seem my only solutions are to either move or sink to her level and make BS reports about every little thing, take out a restraining order, take time off work to deal with her, etc......, etc.... She's retired and is home all day. I have to work for a living. I don't have the time nor the energy to make a hobby out of her.
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Post by Thick Justice on Sept 7, 2011 20:31:00 GMT -5
Its not dropping to her level if its the truth. Buy a video camera and video tape her multiple times in your yard. Put a no trespassing sign in camera view. If her cats poops in your yard report it. Dropping to her level is making lies. If you report the bad things she actually does your going up a level and not down like her.
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