More problems with a "friend"
Jan 31, 2017 13:32:54 GMT -5
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Post by Manson's inverted cross on Jan 31, 2017 13:32:54 GMT -5
Last year I posted something quite similar to this, and I was given tons of advice. All the advice was basically unanimous; exactly the same. You guys basically called me a ****, and said that I have a bunch of boyfriends.
forum.wrestlingfigs.com/thread/331270/friend
But you guys were right. And after nearly taking back both friends, only to have them screw me over badly again, they're now out of my life. It's been that way for nearly a year. But now, I'm having big problems with really my only friend who's left. A different guy who I've known since I was 10 years old. It's been a 20 year friendship, and that makes this sort of difficult. We've had so many ups and downs, and we've both wronged each other pretty bad. It's come to the point that I don't even care anymore "who started it", but I think it's over. I think he's hated my guts ever since we left high school. The moment he finally lost his virginity, he basically told me I need to go out and do the same, smoke some weed, and grow up.
So... I guess I know what you guys will tell me what to do here. I just want to make sure I'm not making a mistake or overreacting.
This friend of mine has a lot of problems, not that I don't as well. Just not as many as he does. He has done pretty much every drug there is, by his own admission. He suffers from severe anxiety and constantly misses work and has to take up to 6 months off to "recover". I keep telling him that at this rate he needs to apply for some kind of assured disability income. But he's too proud of himself. I've lent him around $1500, which I believe he spent all on drugs, and I've only seen about 1/3rd of that back. He hasn't made me a single payment in about two years, which I sort of understand, because he has no money and recently his bank account was running in the negatives, but he's doing virtually nothing to get himself back on his feet.
He keeps telling me we'll hang out, but I'm lucky if I see him once every six months. Leading up to each time we hang out, I have to put up with a bunch of cancellations with some good excuses, some not so good. This time it was stuff like "I have to help my mom", "my basement is flooded", and "I just want to sleep today". He's ditched out on me 5 or 6 times in a row now, at the last minute. With the money issue combined, this just doesn't sit well with me. He has no problem going to sporting events and theatrical events with his other friends.... how he can afford this, I don't know.
Now, I realize we're not kids anymore and that we can't be hanging out every day, or even every week. He doesn't drive and has to bus around. But it's not like he has a wife or children, or even a job right now. So I'm finding this pretty damn sketchy. It's the same story over and over again.
That is all. What's your take?
forum.wrestlingfigs.com/thread/331270/friend
But you guys were right. And after nearly taking back both friends, only to have them screw me over badly again, they're now out of my life. It's been that way for nearly a year. But now, I'm having big problems with really my only friend who's left. A different guy who I've known since I was 10 years old. It's been a 20 year friendship, and that makes this sort of difficult. We've had so many ups and downs, and we've both wronged each other pretty bad. It's come to the point that I don't even care anymore "who started it", but I think it's over. I think he's hated my guts ever since we left high school. The moment he finally lost his virginity, he basically told me I need to go out and do the same, smoke some weed, and grow up.
So... I guess I know what you guys will tell me what to do here. I just want to make sure I'm not making a mistake or overreacting.
This friend of mine has a lot of problems, not that I don't as well. Just not as many as he does. He has done pretty much every drug there is, by his own admission. He suffers from severe anxiety and constantly misses work and has to take up to 6 months off to "recover". I keep telling him that at this rate he needs to apply for some kind of assured disability income. But he's too proud of himself. I've lent him around $1500, which I believe he spent all on drugs, and I've only seen about 1/3rd of that back. He hasn't made me a single payment in about two years, which I sort of understand, because he has no money and recently his bank account was running in the negatives, but he's doing virtually nothing to get himself back on his feet.
He keeps telling me we'll hang out, but I'm lucky if I see him once every six months. Leading up to each time we hang out, I have to put up with a bunch of cancellations with some good excuses, some not so good. This time it was stuff like "I have to help my mom", "my basement is flooded", and "I just want to sleep today". He's ditched out on me 5 or 6 times in a row now, at the last minute. With the money issue combined, this just doesn't sit well with me. He has no problem going to sporting events and theatrical events with his other friends.... how he can afford this, I don't know.
Now, I realize we're not kids anymore and that we can't be hanging out every day, or even every week. He doesn't drive and has to bus around. But it's not like he has a wife or children, or even a job right now. So I'm finding this pretty damn sketchy. It's the same story over and over again.
That is all. What's your take?
